Leaving A F F? Why announce it?  

Teddy022 60F
112 posts
9/28/2005 11:08 pm

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Leaving A F F? Why announce it?

It's funny. In all the years that I have been on this site, I've seen many friends come and go. Some get so busy with family life, kids, tragedys, or jobs. Some just get frustrated with their expectations of what this site is supposed to provide. And some just seem to want to get noticed.

I am not sure yet why some people get on this site. Do they think they are going to find "instant" sexual gratification. That no matter what your personality, appearance or sexual fantasies are, they are going to get laid? Do some think this is a place to meet that "long term relationship? Why did I come in here?

Curiousity was my initial intent. I was curious about the kind of people came in here and chatted, sent pictures and emailed each other. I remember when I first signed on with my ex, we got several emails from other couples wanting to meet us. Wow! We had NO intentions of ever meeting anyone. We were just curious. My ex liked looking at the pics....but then that is why he is now the ex. LOL

Then I met the infamous Wyobiker and he explained how he had been on this site for a long time and what kind of friends he had met. I learned about the chatroom, which was/is not the best venue for chatting, but it does allow a person to get to know others before meeting them.

Meeting them? Do people actually meet on here? Of course they do. At meet and greets, parties, motorcycle runs, etc. I have to say that I have made more friends through A F F than I ever expected. Some better than others. I have also learned to dislike a few too. But do I leave? Hell no! If I don't like them, I press the "ignore" button and *POOF* they go away. Life goes on. I proceed to meet others. Many of these people would do just about anything for you. Thats what I call a friend! Many have come out to lend a helping hand when I needed it and many have given me a shoulder to lean on when I needed it. I never had friends like this before. I always felt alone. So yes. You do acutally meet people in here.

Do they always want to go to bed with you? Not necessarily. Is that so important in a friendship? Not necessarily. However, it is good to be able to talk about and not feel like you are touching some tabou area of conversation. Remember your momma did not want you talking about penis' much less the size or comfort of it. Nor could you talk about nipples and how sensitive they can be. But in A F F you can. You can talk about it and you can act on it if you so desire, but you are not pushed into it. No one said that because you are in A F F you had to lay down and have sex with everyone that contacts you. HAHAHA...now that is a visual isn't it? It's just good to be able to be yourself and enjoy the things that bring you pleasure without society giving you the evil eye because you wore your shirt too low or your skirt too high. Be yourelf... that is what this is about.

So why do people feel they need to announce they want to leave A F F? Is it because they don't want to be themselves anymore? Is it because they never felt comfortable with the friends they had made in here? Or maybe because that person just seeks attention and wants to be asked "back in". Whatever the reason, I feel that person needs the assurance that we are all friends - you don't have to announce you are leaving our friendship. If you are having a tough time right now....just lay low for a while until you feel better. We will always be here for you.

Just my two cents worth. Hope some understand what I am trying to say.



tamethytension 56M
2320 posts
9/29/2005 12:27 am

Well said. I come and go on AdultFriendFinder as time and desire allow for several years. However, since July when I entered this blogging community, I found my niche and a number of very supportive friends besides. You have put this experience in perspective for one and all. Thank you.



rm_janie233 53F
48 posts
9/29/2005 12:51 am

Hi Teddy. i want to thank you for putting that out there. You have said everything that was on my mind regarding site. Couldnt have said it better myself.

rm_WyoBikers02 66M/60F
6 posts
9/29/2005 7:40 am

Teddy...as usual you have struck the nail on the head.. Friends are friends here or in the real world. Leaving AdultFriendFinder does not make you less of a friend. Keep up the good work and enjoyment of the life we have with our friends both on line and real world.

The Old Grouch

rm_widwestcpl 62M/61F
16 posts
9/30/2005 4:55 pm

Wow Teddy, our sentiments exactly!!!! No one was ever forced into signing on to AdultFriendFinder and no one should be forced to sign off. But some people feel they have to, because of many different reasons and that is their perogitive. In any case the friends we have made here are what keep us going and those that don't want to be friends with us are not going to force us into vanishing into the mist....


10/5/2005 5:06 pm

Wow Teddy, you my friend are a class act and show a tremendous amount of insight. The human condition is often not easy to understand or define. We humans are complicated critters at the least who for the most part long for connectiveness and a sense of dignity to be validated by others. You rock lady!!!!!!!!!!!!

rm_Bct2Esi 52M/52F
1375 posts
12/28/2005 9:45 am

Teddy I couldn't have said it better, hit the nail on the head Well I have tried to say it, but the words always come out wrong

You and your hubby and 4real were the first people to ever welcome Sprky and I when we first started on this site 6 plus years ago. We have NEVER forgot that, and still to this day, want to make the trip up there to meet you four.

I have always valued your insight and words and every time I have started to plan a meet a greet and was shot down by the pain the behinds, looked at Sprky and told him, " I need to go Wyoming and talk to Teddy"

I agree with RedB, you are a class act, I appreciate that you welcomed us into AdultFriendFinder and have remained friends with us even though we have never met.

thank you for being you

hugs and smiles

NorWyoMan 64M  
1 post
10/23/2006 5:16 pm

Well said my friend

lcl713 63M

7/15/2009 12:33 pm

Well Teddy i'm not a friend of your, not to say that i don't think we couldn't be, but what you said here is so awesome, i have friends that i knew before and you know they are not as close as some of the people i have meet here. I left A F F a couple of times when i meet someone that i was involved with, (just the way i am if i'm with someone that is the one and only till things change), any way i really like the way you laid down what you had to say here. TtB

It is good to know that someone somewhere desires you.

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