my views on age differences  

SxyMelody 41F
180 posts
1/19/2006 1:59 pm

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my views on age differences

I haven't completely figured it out. I mean we all have to set some limits somewheres right? I have decided to set mine at early 40s, and yet some men don't get it. I am not attracted to someone that is old enough to be my father, and since i don't know who my biological father is...i would kind of like to steer clear of even going there. However, no matter how kindly you can turn someone down, there seems to be the seldom few out there that don't get the hint and seem to think that they can repeatedly try to persuade you otherwise. I find it very insulting, as i try to do the courtesy of replying in a way to let them know what i feel in the first place. UGH!!!! I am not going to change my mind just because you think i should!

rm_Gentle12553 67M
1378 posts
1/19/2006 3:36 pm

And...neither does a mature gentleman wish to "rob-the-cradle" Your profile lists a going-nowhere-static marriage and perhaps this blog entry above is a signal of why that is so. Lack of communication, an unwillingness to listen and learn. I am sure not every older man that wrote to you was crude and rude and only interested in you spreading your legs for their pleasure and amusement. Yes, some thinging with only their libedo are thick headed, yet others are sympathtic and understanding to your concerns, needs and desires. I guess the moral of my message is not to paint all mature men with such a wide brush....and set the standards for what you are seeking in your profile....Enjoy life it is very short and sweet.

bardicman 51M

1/19/2006 3:46 pm

We are all attracted differently to different types and ages. There is nothing wrong with your prefrences and don't let people try to tell you that there is. I just happened by here because I see you are a musician. That gives us some common ground..

No that wasn't a pass


I am not dead yet

crazygurl2xx 58F

1/19/2006 4:46 pm

LOL. I totally agree. I am 46 and prefer my men between 23 and 35...sorry, it's arbitrary I know, but that is the age range I have alot in common with. It's what I like...
I have made some allowances depending on personality, but I also like men that are unattached and that age range affords more of that that and so much more...

rm_art_persists 52M
1789 posts
1/19/2006 5:06 pm

I try to be as open-minded as possible (maybe because I'll soon be 41). I do worry about what my daughter will see if her dad starts dating younger women so I'm cautious about it all. In the end, it should really be all about the mind and age shouldn't mean a thing but that is idealistic and a little unrealistic


1/19/2006 5:25 pm

I understand what you mean, but the guys I have a problem with are guys that are my age. They are constantly sending me emails asking me to change my mind, even though it is in my profile my age range. They just don't get it

007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
1/19/2006 6:01 pm

I dont think they will ever get it. No matter how much you say it, there is always a few who think that because they may be intelligent enough or have the intellectual capabilities for their age they want you to change your mind and you give them a chance. I dont bend my rules either. Stick to your rules.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

SxyMelody 41F

1/19/2006 10:12 pm

Just to comment on gentles..not so gentle response to my vent. If you had read what i wrote, i mentioned that some..not all mature men react this way. I have had some dealings with gentlemen that are that, gentlemen about the whole thing. It is the rest that i have issues with.

L00kin4Passion 57M
61 posts
1/20/2006 11:27 pm

Who are we to push ourselves into your view and insist you make exceptions? AdultFriendFinder is not a democracy and you can be as selective as you wish. Guys outnumber the girls by a large margin here so, in a sense, it's a market bent in your favor.

Bozo's can be found everywhere and so finding 'em here shouldn't be too shocking. Your preferences are part of what makes you who you are. That deserves respect and from gentlemen you will always have it.

Not having access to many profiles, I'll likely not know and perhaps upset somebody sometime. That's not my intention, need, or goal. I have plenty of battles as it is without offending the beautiful ladies out here of all ages and types.

Good luck finding your music maker and ... if it helps you out ... I'm not your father. You have one less old guy to worry about hun and that is no pass and no line.

4uoralrewards 57M
437 posts
1/23/2006 8:56 am

It's a free country and we are all entitled to our own views. It's called freedom. If you want to go with younger, older or the same it doesn't really matter.

Do what you need to do and don't worry about others opinions. "Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead"

And speaking of freedoms, there isn't any rule that says at any time you can't change your mind. I love this country!

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