Why I am still with him  

SxyMelody 41F
180 posts
2/6/2006 6:50 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why I am still with him

For those that i am sure are wondering, its the same old reasons. My kids mainly. I have 3 beautiful children, 8, 4, and just turning 1. My husband has a good job, and is a good provider for the kids and me (as long as the kids are with me he doesn't care what i spend and on what)so they have everything they need to be healthy and happy. We have a beautiful home for them and a big yard for them to go and play. I couldn't provide this for them right now and I don't want them hurt by choices that I may make due to indifference and anger. I mean my husband and I have been through just about anything imaginable, the loss of parents, suicide, the loss of a child, dealing with the court system, addiction, you name it we have dealt with it. When we first met we both had nothing, financially and emotionally. And I still love him even though he can be a real ass, I have just come to the conclusion that i am not in love with him anymore. If it wasn't for the baby my considerations may be different then what they are now, but at this moment in time I cant hurt the kids or him by taking them away from their father. I wish I could be selfish in this matter, but I don't think I could ever forgive myself.

rm_CDRoss 35M
655 posts
2/6/2006 9:03 am

Your persistance for their their sake is admirable. I only hope you don't lose yourself though. Someone capable of such selfless love is much needed by the world today, and would make for quite the loss.
Your children are lucky to have such a loving mother.

4uoralrewards 57M
437 posts
2/6/2006 9:46 am

Thats a tough one alright, and it sounds like you've already been through enough without this on top of it.

While you'll probably get a lot of suggestions on here, possibly professional counselling would be in order.

If not for you two as a couple, at least just for you.

F1reman6969 51M

2/6/2006 12:11 pm

that's a pickle.
i apologize if i've offended you.
i guess i'm blinded by the hurt you express in some of your blogs and i cannot see the bigger picture.
however, he should realize the gift he has in you and show you way more respect for what you do and who you are.
and you have a responsibility to communicate that to him more clearly and directly to have your needs met.
i don't think anyone who's posted has meant any harm.
we're just looking out for your best intentions.
we just care.


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