Could someone explain the logic?  

SxyMelody 41F
180 posts
2/4/2006 10:13 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Could someone explain the logic?

Here it is Saturday morning, and i have some errands to do. My husband is off work, so i told him that i wanted him to stay home for a couple of hours this afternoon so i could go without the kids (I haven't been out without the kids except for a doc appointment in about 5 weeks). His response, you are used to me not being home so deal with it. He gets off work early and takes off to go hunting, fishing, trapping whenever he wants and i don't really care, but the one time i say that i need a break and he pulls this shit? And he wonders why I am unhappy. Hmmmm lets think about this. Logical? Fair?

crazygurl2xx 58F

2/4/2006 11:03 am

Does he know you are looking for the exit already? You sound like me, a single parent. So are you, you just have a man living in your house where I don't.

majordomobilly 49M
50 posts
2/4/2006 11:24 am

Have to say I agree with you. As a stay at home dad, I get to deal with the same thing from my wife. She acts as if it is the end of the world if I ask to "have some time off". They don't think that we actually work, just think that we have fun all day long. And lord knows that taking care of kids and the house is more of a job then most people who go to the office. So no I agree not logical or fair on his part. Maybe he shouldn't get to go hunting next time he asks. Or may I point out that first day of trout is coming up soon, maybe he has to miss that

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
2/4/2006 11:24 am

NOT FAIR and I would be giving him the boot (RIGHT UP HIS ASS)

Purry {=}


papyrina 52F
21133 posts
2/4/2006 11:37 am

neither,hugs hun,something need to be sorted out

I'm a

i'm here to stay

rm_Gentle12553 68M
1378 posts
2/4/2006 11:52 am

You might look to Greek Mythology for your solution....In the war story Las Estrata....the women of Sparta were tired of their men going off to fight the continous wars with Athens....They collectively decided that when returned home and sought their favors...there would be none....In modern days want some have to compromise and listen to my needs....Or hand him a copy of a porno tape, so tissues and lead him to the TV set after the kids are in bed....

Betcha before long he comes around?

rm_CDRoss 35M
655 posts
2/4/2006 11:59 am

Well, I suppose I could explain the logic in there for you then....
....and that's about it. Don't think I missed anything, did I?

Satyr48 69M
1805 posts
2/4/2006 12:18 pm

If it's his regular attitude, there's no wonder you're here on AdultFriendFinder. If its a one-time deal, not so bad, but still make him pay for it.
Had I bailed on my wife often like that, she would have straightened me out or replaced me years ago.
Good luck!

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...

F1reman6969 50M

2/4/2006 1:21 pm

stooooopiiiiiiid jerk.
why is it that guys like your husband only appreciate you when you aren't there?
so many of my friends who've left their husbands all have them come running back to them once she's decided that she got a raw deal and she left, packing.
then the guys are all sweet and mushy and "i'll do anything for you..."
yet, when some of those same friends got sucked back in by his pleading, they ended up back at square one and she left again.
and the guys are still begging for their women to return.
some men are soooooo stooooopiiiiid.
i don't get it.
i don't have anyone, and it makes me so appreciate the fact that other people have relationships, not perfect ones, but at least one that works half-assed.
you are not being treated well at all, Sxy.
i wish you could afford to, and made the initiative to get off work early and saddle him with the kids the rest of that afternoon and evening and night.
i'm sure we in blogland would love to see you enjoy yourself for one night on the town with the girls where you can let reckless abandon take you over.
either that, or give me a call and we'll head for coffee and have a good laugh at his expense.

we've got your back.

let us know what happened when he got home and wanted some (he, he, he)... revenge is sweet, eh ladies?

f 1 r e m a n 6 9 6 9

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
2/4/2006 1:34 pm

if i were you, i would get in the car and leave, then phone him when you've left the house and tell him you aren't there and he is in charge of the kids.

[blog freelove999]

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
2/4/2006 1:50 pm

I'm about as selfish as a man gets in many ways, but even I don't deny my wife her alone time. He's using you big time. If it was me, I'd wait till he got home, walk out the door and phone him when you're about 2 miles away and tell him you'll be back in a couple of hours. Using sex as a weapon isn't effective on me and I don't think it should be used that way on anyone, but I guess whatever works!

prnstrs_25 38M/37F

2/4/2006 4:23 pm

I feel you girl! My husband pulls the same shit! Oh I gota work on the car, or go here, or there! Meanwhile I am LONGING for adult conversation! Once you get past that ( which is difficult, I will admit) he is a grat guy! But something seems to demand his attention A LOT!!!

Shelly_Marie 45F

2/4/2006 8:07 pm

it is not fair at all to you. it is both parents job to do it, and he is a parent to the children, so he can take a day off of hunting and help out. he is being selfish. and you know what i would say next time he says that you are used to it and to deal with it? I would say, yeah i am used to it, thats why its your turn, so you can get used to it. he is just taking the scape goat so that he can go out and have his fun hunting. definitely selfish and not fair to you.

dragonstealth 57M

2/4/2006 8:19 pm

In this day and age I would have thought that an intellectual giant such as your hubby would realize that it takes two parents to raise children.Or as the proverb goes,"it takes a village to raise a child".Perhaps I placed too much emphasis on "intellectual giant".Was there not an unwritten treaty amongst the sexes allowing for both parents to be part of the upbringing of children? And what's with the hunting? Holy crap,just go to the store and buy your meat,or steal one of your neighbours chickens.

rm_art_persists 53M
1789 posts
2/4/2006 9:23 pm

Time for a deep talk....

Precious_TaTas 45M/42F

2/4/2006 9:51 pm

Im Married too, been together with my man for about 19 yrs since we were young.. and somewhere down the line i guess it does happen to some of us... happened to me.I think somewherein the years of taking charge of your home and family that people adapt to things.. it becomes habit.and Some more then others become bad habits, id say this is one of them,lol, where the person forgets theyre a mom or dad and kinda freak when they have to actually do something.Thats where you have to pull up the pants so to speak and put them in their place. or as freelove999 put it getup and go,lol.But of course get a babysitter b4 u do that,hahaha.Most of em snap out of it. And if that dont work, a fine slap to the side of a head with a frying pan shuold suffice,lol. Hope something works out for ya.

from a fellow Spouse!

hotandhorny107 59F

2/4/2006 9:51 pm

You don't say how old the kids are but I would do as FreeLove999 suggested. Or call his mother and drop the kids off there telling her that he won't mind them while you go off to lunch or whatever...

magnetmandan 55M
6 posts
2/5/2006 9:02 am

Is it just me or is this guy the stereo-typical man from TV??? What gives?
OK....NOT YOUR FAULT.....HOWEVER...if you continue to let it slide....I think in his twisted mind it validates his actions. Let him have it! Both barrels. Remind him you didn't get into this to be a single parent and that you can do just as well being a single parent with his ass sleeping at the curb. If it doesn't change......maybe a change of the locks is in order.

4uoralrewards 57M
437 posts
2/6/2006 9:25 am

We are all products of our environment. I think you need to change your environment....not leaving or anything drastic.

Sometimes simple communication is all it takes....Tell him exactly how you feel, why you feel that way, and why his actions feel so hurtful.

Then give him an opportunity to respond with some sort of corrective action....

If you've already tried that, then take PurryKitty's advice.

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