First entry - what is the perfect age for a sex partner?  

Sweetstuff0990 54F
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3/9/2006 8:18 pm

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First entry - what is the perfect age for a sex partner?

I joined AdultFriendFinder a few months ago because I was looking for some kinky fun. It was fairly easy to email some guys, strike up a conversation by phone and meet. Some of my encounters have been pretty good so far but others have been terrible. The most obvious difference between most of the guys I?ve been with through AdultFriendFinder is their age. I think it ranged from the low 20s to mid 50s.

All this has made me wonder: what is the best age for a sex partner?

Younger guys tend to be more physically attractive and have a very high sex drive, which is always appreciated, since my own sex drive has been so high for the last few years. I especially appreciate the way younger guys are able to get it up several times in a session. All this sounds wonderful until you balance it with the fact that these younger guys are also pretty quick to come and do not have much experience with foreplay. They are also terrible promiscuous since they are at their sexual peak and a condom is an absolute must. Young guys are also fairly inexperienced sexually, even when they have slept around with a lot of women. By this, I mean that the guys have a lot to learn. I enjoy showing a young guy how to please me but after a while it can start to get old.

Older guys have a lot of patience, which I really love. They have had a lot of sex and enjoy foreplay. Older guys love to go down on me, which is something a lot of younger guys are not as interested in. The sexual veterans also favor lots of post-sex cuddling, which younger guys hate. However, older guys also have a much harder time getting it up. I find I have to work fairly hard to get a guy going if he is older than his late 30s. I do not mind because I am in my early 40s myself but this can turn into a real chore if it takes more than an hour and only produces one erection.

For me, the ideal guys is in his late 20s or early 30s and married. At this age, the guys have plenty of experience but are always willing to learn a few tricks. They are also attractive, fit (usually) and can get it up without much effort, although they still cannot compete with the young ones erection for erection. If they are married, that tends to discourage them from getting too attached and they also seem to favor a steady, long term thing, which is exactly what I want.

It can be hard to find these guys because they seem to be in demand. I guess I am not the only one who has discovered these guys. I find myself chatting with several of them and even talking on the phone but many either meet someone else or change their mind because they suddenly decide they do not want to cheat on their wives.

Most of the guys I tend to settle with are a little older or a little younger than I prefer but I think I am having enough fun through online sex dating to keep plugging away.

What do the other women on AdultFriendFinder think about the ideal age? What do the guys think? What is the ideal age preferred by most guys on this site?

elysianpleasure 48M

3/10/2006 3:18 am

This makes me think I wish had a time machine so you could compare the 20 year old Elysian with the older Elysian. Maybe it is a ego protection mechanism because I think the older Elysian is much better. So far getting aroused and staying aroused has not been the issue for me you describe. But I do have the patience and willingness to try new things that I lacked at 20. When I was 20 I was just so happy to be fucking and was so self abosrbed in the process... I was a pretty intense but pretty selfish lover. I am glad to hear you are enjoying yourself here. Elysian

MONA_14 31F

3/10/2006 9:45 am

you are invited to be our Friends

r0ckhard2x6 54M

3/12/2006 8:18 pm

Dang what kind of 40's guy have you been seeing. I'm ready in a whisper. And as for stamina, I am in better shape than when I was 20. As for knowledge and how to use it, no comparison.

For me age does not make that much different. There of course has to be some physical attration, but alot of it is chemistry between two people. The rest is sexual enthusiasm.

Cdav3556 41M
27 posts
3/12/2006 9:48 pm

I am in that age bracket that you speak of (29 years old) and looking back on my early years versus where I am now, I can agree with all that you have said. When I was 18, I was so happy just to be going at it that I paid no attention and thought that just jackhammering home was the way to go all the time. Now that I am older, I can appreciate the giving of pleasure, the time it takes in pleasing to be pleased, foreplay (SOOOO UNDERRATED), the aftermath (cuddling) is also underrated. It is important to feel every aspect of sex...before, during, and after. And though I am not married, I do understand wwhy you say that about needing to be married as well. I am merely one that is caught up in trying to build the projects that I am working on so I don't have time to be "clingy" anyway. I truly hope that you find what it is you seek. It would be a shame if such a sexy woman does not.


rm_bri28ma 40M
357 posts
7/20/2006 5:08 am

I have to say that 40s is the perfect age for me...maybe it's the sex drive thing, maybe it's the experience...maybe it's that the sexiest thing is a woman who's comfortable in her own skin. I find it hard to believe that anyone would have a problem getting it up with you around and unimaginable that a guy wouldn't want to go down on a woman (yum!). Post-sex snuggling is the best (round 2, anyone?)!
What you may need is a younger guy with an old soul, who still knows how to have fun. Take a look at my profile (shameless plug) never know! -Bri

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