Would You?  

Sweetpickles69 49F
4147 posts
6/7/2006 10:16 am

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Would You?

If you met someone from AdultFriendFinder that lived over 900 miles away, would you go visit them?? Could you fall in love with someone over the computer & phone? I know couples from this site have done it. It's just scary to me. What if I get there, & we don't hit it off? It's just such a long way! He's been asking me to marry him & have his "puppies"(cuz he's a wolf). I just don't know. It would be a fantasy to actually meet him, though! He's so hot & sexy! OH! & his voice!!! I could listen to him talk all day!
I drove to Denver last summer to meet a guy from a different site. That was 500 miles! But that guy had sent me gas money! I'm still thinking on this one, if I do decide to do it, he'd have to send me a plane or bus ticket & it'd have to be next month sometime! What should I do? What would you do??


PrincessKarma 45F
6188 posts
6/7/2006 12:28 pm

I would, I could, and I will because I have. (I hope that made sense to you...)

I've been saving to go to my Dear Heart, but my current job situation means a major setback, especially because of the visa.

From what I see, you've got it almost as bad as I do. Remember, nothing ventured, nothing gained. We're both risking a lot with this, you and I (hell, so are they!) but if we don't go, we'll forever wonder "What if...?" and that's a horrible thing to be dragging around. I should know....

A final word of advice: TAKE THE PLANE!

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
6/7/2006 4:23 pm

I would say go for it. You never know what may happen. If nothing else, you will a have a great friend that you actually got to meet and possibly visit on vacations. If he is willing to take a chance, then why aren't you?


rm_herestill 57M

6/7/2006 6:27 pm

go for it sugar!

cuteNEway 42F

6/7/2006 6:51 pm

Here's your checklist

From him:
[_]Round trip ticket
[_]Cab fare to the airport from your house
[_]A ride or cab fare from the airport to your hotel
[_]A ride or cab fare to the airport from your hotel

From you:
[_]Hotel of course
[_]Location of all emergency exits from your hotel
[_]Location of all emergency exits from his place
[_]911 on speed dial

OK so I AM exaggerating the danger but seriously be careful mm'kay? And this is coming from someone who would take that trip in a second!

Whatever you decide hun HAVE FUN!!!

tee hee

LicIWill 54M
402 posts
6/8/2006 5:33 am

Nothing wrong with a trip! At the least, you make a friend. But as said before, be careful!!

willudomeharder 40F
85 posts
6/8/2006 9:52 am

Go for it, sweetie. Be careful...and be safe...most of all let someone from "home" know where you're going..who you'll be with..where you'll be staying..and when you should be back. (I'm a little paraniod too). He should pay for the trip & hotel, though. Even if you guys don't " hit it off" (which I'm sure you will), at least you can have a mini-vacation.

Don't be scared...the best things can happen when we overcome our fear and venture out of our comfort zones.


6/8/2006 10:29 am

Few comment pretending I do not know this guy although I do and think he is TOP SHELF....
1. I always go in a situation by what I want to do.
2. Expect the worst and hope for the best.
3. Go with the idea of friendship (if more happens spectacular if it doesn't you have a great friend)
4. I do have a different view as the rest of the females here regarding travel arrangements. If someone were to invite me...male or female to their home, unless they offered to pay, I would accept to come if I could afford to and only if I wanted to. If I couldn't affford it I would state it and then that person could choose to do what they wish but I certainly wouldn't expect a person to support my trip, my hotel, or anything else...THEY MAY GET IN THEIR HEAD THEY COULD EXPECT THINGS. If someone is gracious enough to invite me, as I have done before, I certainly don't offer and all inclusive vacation for them. This is only my opinion of course and the minority obviously but it just reminds me of the dark ages or gold digger shit. Anywho maybe I am in the dark ages?
5. Since I do know him if it works out for you to go I think you will have a fab time regardless what transpires....

Sugar SweetP

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

Sweetpickles69 49F

6/8/2006 11:11 am

I guess I shouldn't go! I don't have the $$$$! I been unemployed for a month. Guess if he wants me bad enough he'll come here!


lightswitch1963 70M/54F

6/9/2006 7:29 am

Him comming to you is a good idea that might tell you if he is serious. Good luck

sweetmimilove 52F
1095 posts
6/9/2006 9:31 am

I agree...he should come to you. Stay in your safety zone. And make him get a hotel in case your mind changes about him. For me, I wouldn't go get on a plane and travel out of my safety zone....until I had him come to me first, and we hit it off.

Shameless_Biotch 50F

6/10/2006 10:06 am

Be careful, but follow your heart, and if he really wants you, he will either come to you on his dime, or put you up somewhere you are comforatble on his dime.I hate to sound old fashioned, but I think the guy should pay!You are worth it, dear!
Now, I have had a very negative experience with this kind of thing,I drove to Birmingham ( over 300 miles from me) on a horny lark. I picked up a stalker from this site, and he fucked with my life, my computer and my account here, so I had to change everything, email and YIM addys, my handle on this site.I informed everyone who would listen about who he was and what he was doing, and Lo, and Behold, his profile was turned off!Now, he just has a new handle on here, and it's so funny, he'll pop into the chat room and try to chat with me!Yeah, like I'm gonna forget all the threats and my computer crashing and losing all my pix and documents, and all the other hassle he put me thru!!
But, that said, he coulda met me at the local Kroger or a bar, I don't think it's a reflection on this site, he is just a total asshole who couldn't handle being cut off from "the best pussy he'd ever had"(direct quote)!!!!
Be careful, leave a note with a friend or family member where you are, and all of HIS INFO....car info,phone, address, look at his driver's license,get his damn social security number, if you have to! Anything to "leave a trail" if anything negative happens...
Even though I had that stalker guy thing happen, I still have faith in most people, and continue to meet fun and fascinating people from off of this site.You must follow your heart and your own bliss, my dear! And doing so can be scary sometimes, but well worth it!!
Good Luck, Happy Hunting, Darling!

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