Will He Ever....  

Sweetpickles69 48F
4147 posts
8/19/2006 7:40 am

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Will He Ever....

Will he ever see what's right in front of him? He's still so much in love with his ex. Why does he let her rule his world, when she doesn't even want him? Why can't he move on? She has! Will I ever be first in his life? Will he ever love me like he loves her? I don't think I can live in his life being second all the time. He wants me to love him, but It's hard to let myself fall totally in love with him, when he talks about her all the time. Will he ever love me like he loves her? I don't know if I have the strength to wait around for him to decide. I can't keep my feelings on hold forever. Will he ever love me with his whole heart??

"If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lay with me,
& just forget the world"??
(Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol)



Peace,
Pickles


lostmydrinkagain 45F
2272 posts
8/19/2006 11:25 am

I hope so...


strongelk2006 54M

8/19/2006 1:18 pm

Love can't be kept in a jar to be looked at like a prize. It has to be used,,you have what I have to give,,I need a lover that can put love in a new way ,,by being that friend that I can turn to when I hurt. I know that I'm asking alot from you ,,but thats what love truely is ,,being there for each other. You have that and more,,it's going to take time and I need you in my life as a friend at this point in my life. Please forgive me for only asking for what I can handle right now in my life. I know you want to love me with all you have to give,,and I love being with you,,i just need to find closer in my past life with her ,,so I can move on with you. You are my constant ,,so don't leave me alone again,,,,,,,,,,,Please.

Love,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mike,,,,,,,,Naked Boy


Peace,,,,,,,,Coolness..........N.B.


VCF1962 106F

8/19/2006 2:32 pm

I guess it's come to a point where you either go with the flow and see where it takes you or walk away and save yourself potential hurt.

I've been where you are and I understand your pain and frustration. He too asked me to be a friend and then turned up out of the blue one day asking to stay over night. He never said he wanted to be a FWB and I foolishly let him stay and let him hurt me all over again.

If Mike says he needs a friend, be just that. No sex, just support and friendship. Do other things when you are away from each other - date other people if that's what needs to be done. Just don't suffer in silence and pain.

You must also remember, though, that parting with someone is like going through a death. There has to be a mourning process and a time for peaceful reflection. It seems that you have found someone that does want to spend time with you and be with you - but he HAS been honest with you from his post above.

Being second best in someone's life stinks - unless they are kids, in which case, that's only to be expected. But you and only you, know whether it's time to call it a day or whether to give it some more time. Perhaps you could put some time frames on it ?

Maybe spend some time apart and meet up in a couple of weeks and see how things feel then ?

I don't know but it seems sad that when you are giving of yourseld it is truly causing you pain. You have to both want the same things to make it work.

Good luck Pickles. Whatever you choose, the path ahead will not be an easy one.

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!


cuteNEway 42F

8/20/2006 5:04 am

hey where's my comment? Did I say something wrong?? I won't leave my two cents then...


Sweetpickles69 48F

8/20/2006 1:07 pm

    Quoting strongelk2006:
    Love can't be kept in a jar to be looked at like a prize. It has to be used,,you have what I have to give,,I need a lover that can put love in a new way ,,by being that friend that I can turn to when I hurt. I know that I'm asking alot from you ,,but thats what love truely is ,,being there for each other. You have that and more,,it's going to take time and I need you in my life as a friend at this point in my life. Please forgive me for only asking for what I can handle right now in my life. I know you want to love me with all you have to give,,and I love being with you,,i just need to find closer in my past life with her ,,so I can move on with you. You are my constant ,,so don't leave me alone again,,,,,,,,,,,Please.

    Love,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mike,,,,,,,,Naked Boy
I want to be that friend, companion, & lover that you need. Please don't get tired of me, don't leave me, don't get mad at my insecurities. Remember, the insecurities come from my past, I'm trying hard to stay in the present. My past just haunts me sometimes. I've burned so many bridges. Please, just hold me, be my friend, & love me.

Love,
Michelle

Peace,
Pickles


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