Marriage Woes  

SweetNSideU 60M
13 posts
3/21/2005 5:47 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Marriage Woes

Thanks for all the comments.
I have thought of most of them.
We have seen a psychlogist but money became an issue and he was male so that became another issue.
We might be in the phase of "do we really love each other" but maybe we are unwilling to admit it.
I know what I want but she does not.
Sex is important to me but not to her.
I'm at the point where looking for a sex partner is less painful than what I'm going thru right now and yes if she found out it could probably ruin it for good.
I thought about asking her if I could see someone just for sex but have thought better of that suggestion. It would never fly.
And I am at the point where cheating on her will soon become the best option although I would like her to be open to the idea of sex outside the marriage, until then I am stuck being an idiot.


3/21/2005 11:25 am

be strong and listen softly to her needs and she may give u ur desires Try a new approach

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3/21/2005 1:26 pm

Don't give up the ship just yet. I can relate with what you are going through, having been through it myself. start being her friend again and pay attetion to the little things she likes and does. Intamacy is the hardest thing to maintain when life gets in the way. Looking outside of your marriage is sure to destroy it. The foundation is where you have to start. Remember her as she was when you first met her and let that feeling fill you like it once did. Put away your pride and ego and show her that she is important to you, not only as a lover, but as a friend and partner. Rediscover your friendship and open up to her in a way that is will not put her on the defensive. Tell her why you love her and realize that falling in love and being in love are the same feeling, just transformes into less euphoric and more comfortable. Make her feel important, and that she is the center of attention that she once was and still is to you.

Merry49 62F

3/21/2005 4:42 pm

I had hoped for an arrangement for sex outside of my current situation (which is 'officially'' over), but he would never agree to it.

Next time I fall in hope (if there's a next time), I will do my best to not allow it to be someone who is not at least as sexual as I am. Otherwise, I feel it would be doomed to fail.

I wish you all the best and you are by no means an idiot.


mnfun952 103M

3/21/2005 5:47 pm

Try being honest with her...the result might surprise you - in ways you never imagined. It's definitely better than the alternative.

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