Online Personas  

SuperSuperGal 39F
60 posts
8/15/2006 6:35 am

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8/22/2006 11:07 am

Online Personas

As someone who used to chat, but found it onerous after some time, and now as someone perusing the AdultFriendFinder landscape, I'm curious about online personas and what they mean exactly. I realize there are what are called 'bots' on this site, but I'm talking about the real people on here, or who seem real anyway.

I think we all have one. I know I do. If I were to read my profile I would say that I'm a bit of a slut, sexually adventurous, open-minded, perhaps even perverted. Others, maybe more on the blog side of things exude confidence and wisdom. But in real life, I take pride in my behaviour, as a lady that is. My boundaries are clear, and I would never say words such as "cock" out loud in any setting outside of the bedroom (although I love the word .

And here's what it comes down to. I have a long time friend, a bit of a dog actually, who says "I love girls who are easy, but I'd like to meet a girl who I can take home to mom." I wonder, is that a common sentiment around men? And if so, why are there so many here just trying to get laid, with so many girls trying to find true love (I will concede if I am incorrect in this assumption, as I've read very few female profiles; happily concede --in my experience, a girl looking to find a guy to sleep with doesn't normally require a dating service). Or is all of it just an online persona, where anonymity is the 'liquid courage?' Where does the online persona stop, and the real one begin?

ZZ_Todd 60M

8/15/2006 8:56 am

Where does the online persona stop, and the real one begin?
For me, the two are one in the same. The only reason I didn't put my full name on my profile/blog is because I wasn't sure Todd_Philip_Lentz would fit!

rm_stoan138 42M
16 posts
8/15/2006 10:56 am

I think it ends when people have to ante up and meet. Having said that, I think this is a big reason why people will arange to meet and never actually show up. Hate to say it, its probably the guys that don't show up, because thier on-line persona won't fit in the car!!

GraspCrownRusts 47M
780 posts
8/15/2006 12:35 pm

Excellent question!

I'm like ZZ_Todd - whatcha read is gonna be pretty much whatcha get - however that isn't always the case...

Being online you have the opportunity to present the face you want to whomever you are speaking with. You have to make a decision whether that representation of yourself is truthful or not.

I also agree with what stoan138 says, some folks get their bluff called and it becomes put-up or shut-up time - so they just go away...

I think you are correct in your assumptions for the most part. I was one of the men who came here looking for sex. I am happy to report I come here daily now to interact with my new online friends I made through the groups and the blogs and obtaining sex from this site isn't a realistic expectation for me.

I cannot speak for the women population on here, but I would characterize the majority of them as relationship-minded from my observations...

Respitation 38M

8/15/2006 9:19 pm

Hmmmmm, enjoying the blog. I like wine too, used to go to DeLuca's in Winnipeg and get cheese and a different bottle of vino every Sunday and sit and eat and drink. Of course, that's not the point. I just like the wine deal, and when I'm the host people can flirt with me all they want....they just don' hoo.

Online Persona, that's the point, yeah. I would say of myself that I am consumed with my job which is one with a lot of politics. One cannot truly be themselves and succeed in most instances without gossiping behind people's backs, which I found I am able to refuse to do most of the time.

I also have a wife who is not slutty, but I am slutty. In slowly rebuilding a sexual relationship after having children, one cannot push the slutty end of things when regaining intimacy.

Therefore, AdultFriendFinder gives me the chance to say what I feel, what's really there. This is me more then I get to be in my true life. I met with someone from this site, but I found i could resist the sexual end of things (!!!!!??????), even though I'm horny and I want to have sex.

I guess I get to be really honest here, and I like that. Horny and slutty has never been acceptable in my life, I'm Mennonite.

SuperSuperGal 39F
20 posts
8/16/2006 10:10 am

Yes, I beleive exceptions do exist Todd_Phillip_Lentz. Good point, Stoan--I've read of people getting frustrated at others not showing up, so I guess that's the litmus test.

Looks like someone corroborates what I maybe the gap between the guys and the girls, and the personas that exist, are largely due to expectation?

You have very similar ideas as me, Respitation. The persona is simply a way of entertaining sexual ideas without having to go through with them. The mind can be very stimulating that way.

I wonder about ego and personas also. Some folks here have an almost celebrity status on AdultFriendFinder, I've observed. Certainly, this must motivate some people?

Respitation 38M

8/16/2006 10:19 pm

If only horniness made my brain get bigger instead of other things...

passiondesire247 48M
12 posts
8/21/2006 9:42 am

It is all a surreal world...AdultFriendFinder...I suppose I am curious about it and it is a domain that is different for me to peer into. I am probably not realistic in my desires...I am seeking a classy, pretty, well dressed professional lady who has an uninhibited side, with a healthy, sexual appetite in the bedroom. Is this a realistic search for an attractive, athletic, professional male???

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