StripShowLover 46F  
104 posts
6/11/2006 10:35 pm

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10/26/2006 7:56 pm


Tell me your thoughts on this one.....

Is it ok to meet someone and act totally interested in them and kiss on them and tell them that you really enjoy being with them and so on, make them feel like you really care and want them, the night ends you say your goodbyes and they tell you thanks for having them and then go home and delete them from your friends lists and never talk to them again?

To me that makes you not only a liar but worse cause your messing with the other persons emotions. But for some reason since I have lived here in Texas that has basicaly been the story of my life.

Every guy Ive met has done that. If your not interested in someone, why lead them on to believe you are? And when you leave why not grow some freaking balls and just say your not interested.

I personally have grown cold this, I have basically locked my emotions and feelings away in a steal box wrapped in chains with twenty steal locks on it. Ive basically decided ok this is how its gonna be fine, I will meet people and if i choose to get mine then whatever, but the next day well I know they arent gonna be there so hey whatever I got mine right.

Sorry about the rant Im just tired of the BS and have given up on metting a decent caring person cause Ive come to find they are very few and far between, and most of them are taken. But hey who cares right.

rm_AlbertoC4 40M
1 post
6/11/2006 11:17 pm

Man, that does suck. Girls do that too. I'll admit that I've done that before but not on purpose. I'll forget to call because of some reason and the girl would never call back either. However, I don't think its a good idea to become too emotionally attached on the first or second date. Who knows what the person is about. They could be a head case in disguise. Thats just my 2 cents.

BeegBoy250 58M
1 post
6/22/2006 12:45 am

Anyone who acts interested and then never calls wasn't worth a damn anyway. Maybe there was a good reason for it happening that way. Doesn't ever seem like it at the time, though, does it?

Maybe it's good that you're shutting down for awhile; perhaps you need time for introspection, a deeper view to what you really want to do and what you really want for yourself. (Were I a rabid member of a proseletyzing sect, here's where I'd ask if you had accepted Jesus/God/Rev. Moon etc. into your life, then badger you about it. I ain't, so I don't.)

Look at it this way: Nobody ever quit a crappy job and looked back six months later and said, "Gee, I wish I'd stayed in that horrible situation!" The same can apply to dating. Sometimes it's better to just step away from the bad and ponder a different future, and sometimes, marching to the different drum beat leads you on a better path. Good luck.

bdsmforu2 67M
26 posts
9/28/2006 6:24 am

I gotta agree with you, been there, done that and it does suck.

MayorSprueAlgas 59M
4 posts
10/22/2006 9:23 pm

this is not just a male curse. I've had this happen to me by several woman and it can turn anyone bitter to the dating scene. I feel that honesty and open communication is key to any true enjoyment, even if it is just a casual relationship. Fuck buddies are cool but only if they are honest enough to say "hey ur great but I only want ur body". If u arent able to be honest then ur screwing ur self and others in ur life.

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