What I Want . . . Need From a Man  

SpiritdPygmalion 64F
37 posts
5/15/2006 6:37 pm

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What I Want . . . Need From a Man

A long time ago, I gave up trying to understand why I need and want a relationship based on domestic discipline. It simply is what it is and I’ve learned to accept it. It may have roots in my childhood experiences or it may not. The point of the matter is, it doesn’t matter. Not to me anyway. What does matter is that I understand what it is I want and need and whether or not I can find it.

I am a fiercely independent and strong woman, most of the time. Necessity taught me early how to protect and take care of myself. It has served me well. It has helped me survive. However, it has not made me happy. Not deep down, truly happy. That kind of happiness comes only from surrendering that strength and that independence to another. It comes from being able to let go and belong to someone who takes better care of me than I do. It comes from loving someone with my whole heart and honoring him with the gift of trust. It comes from knowing beyond any doubt that he will own me, guide me, and spank me back into submission when necessary. That is where I am happy, safe, and at peace. It is then, and only then, that I am living as the woman I was born to be.

To love me in such a manner is no easy task. I argue. I struggle. I resist at times. That independent part of me tries to regain control. I’m a bitch and I’m a loud one. I spin out of control. It is then that I need to be taken in hand the absolute most. It requires a strong, sure man to be able to do that. To ignore my protests and do what he believes is the best thing to do. It takes a committed man to be able to love me and do what is right. With consistency and steadfastness, I believe my brat will fight less often, and will succumb quicker, but it will take a consistent effort to convince her she does not need to protect me anymore. That has been her role in life. That has been her most important purpose and that’s why she rises up when she does. She steps in when I am feeling scared, unsafe, and unprotected. She’ll run ram shod over any man not strong enough to grab her by the hair, toss her across the bed, and spank her into submission.

I have learned a great deal about myself and this life I seek this past year. I have learned it cannot be a part-time venture for me. It cannot be maintained from a distance. It is the most intimate form of loving someone and must be done in an intimate setting. It cannot be taken lightly. It is not a game. It’s not role-play. I have no on and off switch. Once I surrender to someone in this manner, I am fully committed and need the ongoing love, protection, and guidance of that person. There is no reserve. It can’t be “banked” and saved to be used at a later time. It must be ongoing, dependable, and constant. It’s like breathing.

This is what I want, what I need:

He loves owning me. He has put his name and a ring on me and made me his possession. I am prized. He will not discard me. The whole world can see I belong solely to him and I revel in it. I thrive on it. I love the look of pride on his face as he considers me his. I will work very hard to keep my place of value and maintain his pride of ownership. He completes me, allows me to be the woman I was born to be. I have promised to love, honor, and obey him for eternity. I will do so. Any attempts to conceal myself or retreat from him will be considered a dishonor to him and to us and therefore will not be tolerated. I will be yanked out of my hiding place, brought before him, and punished to the full extent he deems necessary. I will be grateful for his love and care. I will be glad he has demanded my complete presence. I’ll thank him in a million little ways. Many of which will have nothing to do with sex.

I’ll keep his home a haven. I’ll assure it will be a place of refuge for him. He will look forward to returning each evening and hate leaving each morning. His bedroom will reflect his masculinity and we will both find great comfort in that. The bed will have the finest linens and will accommodate my discipline as well as our lovemaking. It will be where I go when I need to feel him near me. It will be where I go to remember who I am and what my purpose is. It will be where I wait for him. It will be where he consummates our union. The strap he uses on me will always hang in plain sight. To others it will appear to be a belt hung carelessly across the bed or doorknob, but to us it will be a symbol of our relationship, a symbol of our promises to each other, a symbol of our lives together. It will get used often. It will be used on me when I need it and it will be used on me when he needs it.

My trust and faith will grow with each day, as will his. We will struggle through the difficulties because we will have promised to do so. I will not quit. Nor will he. We will learn together, fight together, and stay together. We will perfect our love and our lives together. It will bring us peace and harmony will be ours. It is our destiny and it is the only promise we have for true, lasting happiness.

txchilies3 61M

5/15/2006 8:36 pm

Truely interesting, I have read your other articles and found them enlighting and pleasurable. I've often wondered where a woman like you was. But still to far away.

lovetohandle80 63M

5/20/2006 10:50 am

You sound like a woman that is hard to catch...hard to hold..hard to satisfy. But you also sound like a woman that once captured and caged, would bring hapiness and deep satisfaction to her man for a lifetime. A difficult prize..but an extraordinary one.

SpiritdPygmalion replies on 5/20/2006 10:35 pm:
I'm not really so difficult to catch, to hold, or to satisfy. But my needs are specific and quite clear. I do believe, and have to, that I am capable of bringing immense pleasure, happiness, and satisfaction to the right man. For the rest of his life.

SirMounts 103M

5/27/2006 1:13 pm

My, you are a wonderfully expressive writer. Very impressive, indeed.
A warm welcome to blogging, SpiritdPygmalion. *smiling*

SpiritdPygmalion replies on 5/27/2006 5:08 pm:
I thank you, Sir, for your kind words and the resulting encouragement. Perhaps it's time I write more?

SirMounts 103M

5/29/2006 8:16 pm

Well, if you don't, someone should...
Um... why, please do. *winking* lol

TexM45 62M  
25 posts
5/31/2006 9:09 pm

you sound like someone who'd be worth being a man for.I know what i feel a womans role is in a relationship. I also know what my role is in a relationship.I am supportive , kind ,gentle ,passionate but i have old fashioned values. I want to meet a woman i enjoy being with, talking to her , listening to her. Someone to walk along side in life with. I want to earn the gift of trust, not so much from my word but in my deeds. I want her to know with all her heart i treasure her . Yet understand that i have certain expectations. I don't want a submisive meek woman.. I want a woman that has her own views and can tell me what she thinks.I want to know how she feels about things and what she thinks. I may not agree with it and i will give her my views. I will not tell you what i think you want to hear. I do stand on what i feel is right.I don't want a woman to tell me what she thinks i want to hear,, that is in my view, dishonest. I feel passionately about some things and will not compromise . Because i know in my heart that it is right. I have made compromises at times and always regretted it. Some things i will compromise on, finding a middle ground we can both agree on.. But when it comes to the poeple i care for and my loyalty .. i don't . For the right woman i am fiercely loyal and expect the same if i am right for her,, I will not kiss a woamns ass to get along with her . if confrontation is necessary ,, be prepared . My integrity will not be swayed. All this i will give to the woman that earns my devotion and loyalty. she will be mine and i hers, My heart will tell me if she is the right one and when that happens she will know it by my actions and words,, I don't say it unless i mean it. If i make a promise . i am honor bound to fulfill it. I am amn enough to be a man. For the right woman. So it takes someone special to earm my trust and loyalty. but once won,, you have it as long as i draw breath.

rm_Dionesia 60M
3 posts
9/10/2006 2:57 pm

'I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know; the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve.'

Albert Schweitzer

lovenromance10 52M
1 post
10/8/2006 8:15 am

once upon a midnight dreary while i pondered weak and weary, over many a quaint and curious volume of forgotten lore, suddenly thier came a tapping , tap tap tap, yes a tapping as of someone(you) gently rapping on my chamber door, tis some visitor i muttered tapping on my chamber door only this and nothing more.(the end) I feared that on the other side you came with happiness something i fear the most because i know what happiness feels like i know what it is i have expereinced it and lost it many times. in a physical relationship i have never gained it back or found it, but in the buidling of process and continued intimacy broken down yes intimacy broken down IN TO ME but in my process not selfishly in to me but me in to you. it is no fantasy that why it mainstays thru thick and thin thru natural outburst, its beyound physical or the changing of the guard of the mind that plays games with us. fear makes fools of us, but the process of being IN TO ME (do you see) INTIMACY is a develop process . i found it i need it and you say you need it . i believe you because its almost impossible to find and very few men or women have the time for the process to develop over a period of time. the world revolves in I'M OK YOUR OK and lets keep it going, but in reality its a rush, its a fast lane its stop and go, its routine and most of all its MUNDANE, and very empty. i have the experience to take you there but are you willing to break from your initial life training of that of only the physical or would you really give a person a chance to search your everybeing every crevace of the totally in side of you. they payoff is happiness true happiness are you really seeking to go there, because there is a price to pay in search for the unique for the special, its like paradise. sincerely Rueven Sanchez:

rm_Dave1647 60M

11/2/2006 11:25 am

A very special lady with special needs. My hand guides her through our love and her love guides me.

SpiritdPygmalion replies on 11/2/2006 5:16 pm:
She's a lucky lady. Who is she?

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