last Call  

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
2357 posts
6/4/2006 12:56 pm

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6/7/2006 10:13 am

last Call

Now by this time I'm plenty high,
You know when your mouth a-getting dry you're plenty high
Looked down the bar I say to my bartender
I said "Look man, come down here", he got down there
So what you want this time?
I said "Look man, a-what time is it?"
He said "The clock on the wall say three o'clock
Last call for alcohol, so what you need?"

George Thorogood - 1 Bourbon, 1 Scotch, 1 Beer

Went out last night. Hadn't heard "Last Call" in long time.

It was a good time.
Kept the drinking under control of course since I was driving.

A little beer with dinner.
A little Vodka and 7
And some Captain and Coke.

A game of Pool.
Good tunes on the Juke Box; rock and roll.

Wife had excuses, again. Didn't want to go out. Typical. But I keep asking anyway. Not really expecting anything different so I don't get upset. And not that it would change anyting if she started going out all of a sudden. But it would be nice.

Knowing that the end is on its way should I really care? Should I just stop asking?

firestarter665 43M/40F

6/4/2006 4:51 pm

Never stop asking. You are a good hearted person and it would be so unlike you if you were to stop trying.

The good thing about this is that you had a good time anyway.

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 6/5/2006 8:32 am:
It wouldn't seem very nice to just become cold. After all I want us to be friends when all is said and done. I want to be able to hold my head up high knowing I was an honorable person through it all.

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
6/4/2006 7:56 pm

Keep on doing what works for you sweetie! I'm glad you had fun last night!!!


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 6/5/2006 8:36 am:
I got tired of waiting on her. Yes, I keep asking but I won't let it get in the way of my plans. And since she doesn't seem to want to compromise on doing things the way I want to every now and again just because it's important to me I just go and do without her. Like 4th of July and New years, etc.

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
6/5/2006 8:07 am

Don't change the special person you are! I wish things were different....but at least you ask....and then you go and have a good time yourself.

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 6/5/2006 8:37 am:
You called me a special person. Thanks for that. It's good to hear.
I will keep asking. I guess it would be pretty cold not to. I want things to be friendly after every thing is said and done.

bluebellclara 67F

6/5/2006 10:11 am

Ranger, I can really relate to how you are feeling when two people just fundamentally have different styles and want different things. Hard to have to do things you like by yourself or not at all. I like hiking and outdoor activities which my husband cared for not at all. Very rarely, he would come along, obviously not enjoy himself, and say "I did it for you." I would hear about it later for several weeks in the marital scorekeeping tally. Not very joyful. Sounds like you are being very thoughtful and decent in sorting things out. No one should lightly leave a marriage, should do everything possible to make it work. But there comes a point. I do wish you the very best in this hard time for you.
Your friend, BBC

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 6/5/2006 10:48 am:
BBC, I love hiking, camping and outdoor activities as well. We used to do it together back when.
There should be a give and take. Sometimes you do things just because it makes your partner happy. Because you love them, not for some feeling of obligation or expecting something in kind and a balanced tally sheet. I know partners have to have separate lives. And something that one clearly does not enjoy might have to be done by the other with their friends who do enjoy it. There just isn't any balance in my marriage. Just one of the many problems.
The real tough times are to come. Sometime mid to late July I will have "the talk".

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
6/5/2006 9:10 pm

I think that there is a point in time where one
cares so much that they no longer care. Looks like
*letting go*

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 6/6/2006 7:35 am:
Yes, I see my frame of mind changing. Not bad, just more distant. It will be hard for her when I finally talk with her. She will have had no time to prepare. She will just be beginning with all the emotions one has to go through in accepting the situation.

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