First Holidays alone
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Posted:Jan 9, 2009 1:53 pm
Last Updated:Jan 9, 2009 1:58 pm
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Well folks, this was my first year waking up Christmas morning with nobody around in as long as I can remember. No coming downstairs wide eyed to see all the gifts under the tree. No fire in the fireplace and wrapping paper all over. No or cat trying to get in the middle of everything...
So it was a little weird. But I did have a little Christmas tree for myself and put the presents under it on the off chance I would get a visit. They never responsed to my invite. Saw them the week after New Years at a diner. Who knew it would come to this.
Christmas was early for my own immediate family due to out of town relatives being here the week before.
So little was done on Christmas itself. I did have an invite to dinner with friends. That was nice.
The highlight of the day was late that evening when the drive to Florida began. Went down to spend New Years in the warm sun.
We had a blast.
Hope you all had a great holiday and New Years.
What did you do?
Picture is the sunset on Christmas Day.
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Just when I thought it was safe to celebrate
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Posted:Jan 9, 2009 1:46 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 2:52 am
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Happy New Year everyone.
Prior to Christmas I was informed that my "ex" had signed our marital settlement agreement. Great Joy after 2.5+ years to be legally free to pursue my own life.
I get my copy in the mail ready for my signature but what to my wondering eyes does appear?
Wait! Hold the phone. There are hand written annotations. Things which are just not right (not factual). And trying to get me to "trust" her and just give her a large sum of money without the proper signatures on the promise that she will sign them after.
Ya know, I have been as kind as possible and as generous as possible in this process but enough is enough. I won't sign the agreement with the included changes. And I will not give her the money prior to the signature. I would trust her but they fired the first, second and third shots of mistrust long ago. Things in this process seem to take much longer than expected and don't always go as planned. So I am not taking away my leverage. It would be like paying a contractor prior to them actually doing any work on the promise of them getting to you eventually.
So Merry Effin' Christmas to me. lmao.
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Moving on
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Posted:Nov 7, 2008 2:57 pm
Last Updated:Nov 17, 2008 9:06 am
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Slow but sure things are moving along.
Although they did move out Oct 1st much of their stuff was left behind to be moved later. I would have preferred sooner...
One room has been cleared out and I began setting it up as my office. Finally can start living outside the bedroom.
There is so much to do. I need a Divorce Shower or a house warming party! So many things to buy to help make my house into a home. The whole interior of the house was painted in preparation for when we were going to sell. Nothing is on the walls and there are no curtins up. The place echos.
I dismantled the home entertainment system and just left the TV; again assuming that I was moving. That all needs to be set up again.
I have been cleaning up after the messes they left; kitchen, fridge / freezer, bathrooms, etc. And the great thing about cleaning now is it stays that way from the time I leave for work and when I get home! Ahh, the simple things.
I think we take for granted when we have a home set up and everything is just comfortable and routine.
I actually entertained! First time in a long time, even before the divorce. Two friends came over. Movies, popcorn, fire in the fireplace. It's nice. Then again it was just the guys. 
Where is my woman! Ah but I wouldn't want to invite her over until the place is a little less of a disaster area. Not that it's bad but...
Agreement still isn't signed since Her Attorney had more language changes. Fucktard. He had his chance before. Building up his billable hours I suspect.
Alimony started. One down, many to go.
Who has been down this road before me?
Any advice?
How did the transition go for you?
Cheers,
SR
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The saga is almost over!
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Posted:Oct 22, 2008 10:58 am
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2008 7:31 am
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Greetings and salutations AFFers.
Yes, it has been a long time.
I felt I owed it to Ya'll to bring you up to date.
The two year mark since asking for divorce has come and gone ( July, 2008 ). Our 14th Anniversary came and went ( June, 2008 ).
Who would have thought?
So what has happened?
The mediator we choose, who looked very promising out of the gate, fell down on the job. We decided to finish the agreement up with our lawyers. Everyone sat down in a room and a few hours later the issues had been discussed and a draft agreement was ready to be committed to writing. The draft has had two revisions and is awaiting her signature. I will sign next.
The divorce itself will happen some time in the future. Holding off for medical benefits reasons. A common practice I am told. The agreement however, a legally enforceable document, give us permission to live our lives as if not married.
Regarding the house. I was able to do some creative financing and keep the house. They, including the and cat, have moved out. I have the place to myself other than all the stuff they left behind and are slowly moving. I feel quite taken advantage of since I did say they didn't have to do it all in one day and could finish up on the weekend. They barely did anything the first day it is still an ongoing process. They have their new place and can start fresh. I have to deal with their mess and put things on hold for setting the place up to my liking.
But I really haven't had time to do much so I am not raising a fuss yet. As soon as the agreement is signed and foresee free time I will push the issue if things are not well in hand by then. No sense getting too worked up over it and adding stress to their lives if I can't do anything right now anyway. All part of my keeping things in perspective plan. lol.
So there has been lots of stress and drama getting to this point. Especially in the process of getting the house ready for sale. We did have it on the market before I saw my way clear to buy her out. I know she is not happy with what I had to do to move things along but I felt there was no option; we would still be getting the house ready if I didn't. She seemed emotionally paralyzed and unable to move forward in many ways. It was my last act of love (caring) to do what I had to do to get us to this point. I'll take the hit of her being upset. I did however try to do things in the nicest, kindest way possible, without anger, without malice, without spite, etc.
The is pissed off at me for what I don't know. Typical and part and parcel of the marital problems. Both would never communicate when something was wrong despite me asking. I continue to try to ask how things are going and how they are doing yet still get the same very generic responses and only an acknowledgement that something is wrong but not being told what it is.
In this process of divorce I attemted to keep the communication going. Communication was a problem in the marriage. In a divorce I saw it as even more important if things were to go smoothly. I knew I needed to grow in that area so I gave it my best effort to communicate where I had failed in marriage. As they say, you can only control yourself. And communication is a two way thing...
So I will soon be able to say those wonderful words "would you like to come back to my place?" I will soon be legally able to fuck with reckless abandon! (taking volunteers). Having folks over and entertaining will be possible. Yeah! We hardly entertained. Only on holidays. We really didn't have adult friends that we did things with either in home or out (part of the marital problems). I have expanded my social network in the past few years and would love to invite all my friend over for a Divorce party!
For quite a while I planned what I termed my "Freedom Tour 2008" It was a 10 day driving vacation in August. I fully expected this to be all over by then; agreement would be signed and I would be on my own. I missed by a couple of months but at least the agreement draft was written. So the hard part was over at the time I went on my trip. I met 4 on-line friends along the way. Missed out on meeting a fifth. Saw friends and relatives. Had a blast.
I have mentioned before the growth it took to get to the point of asking for the divorce. There was even greater growth in the process of getting the divorce. The me of today is a much new and improved me.
I really don't think I was ready for marriage intially and probably not in love. I understand that now. I would not trade the years because they got me to this point. I am happier than I have been for most of my life and looking forward to my future. My next relationship will be soooooo much better.
There is more growth to come as I live alone for the first time in my life. And more growth as I have my next significant other an a much more healthy relationship.
So that's what's up with me.
What's up with you?
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Merry Christmas - Going Standard
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Posted:Dec 24, 2007 1:29 pm
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2008 9:15 am
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MERRY
CHRISTMAS
Wishing all my AdultFriendFinder friends a very Merry Christmas and all the best in the New Year.
For those of you who have followed my saga over the years, here is an update.
It has been a year and a half since I asked for a Divorce from my wife of, now, 13 years.
She was ready to divorce as well.
Everything has been civil all along and continues to be.
I never expected to have another wedding anniversary as well as another Christmas. In fact all the Winter gear, clothes, snow shovels, etc as well as the Christmas tree, decorations, etc were in storage.
We have gone the Mediator route. It took a while to find a suitable Mediator; one that could provide the services we required.
We are in the process of getting the house ready for sale. That is a big project as anyone knows who has sold a house.
We have a draft divorce agreement. Everything but the financial information.
It seems I have had to become the project manager in this Divorce. For whatever the reason, maybe fear, my wife has been paralyzed, in a sense, as far as doing anything to move things along. Neither of us are the best self motivators when it comes to certain things. The silver lining, given all the frustration I have had in doing everything myself (with a little help from my friends), is that I am becoming more self motivated. I am doing what I have to do so I can get to the goal of being free.
I am anxious to get to the next phase.
My goal has always been to do this right so that in the end, after all the emotions have died down and the stress and frustration are gone, I can hold my head high knowing I did the best I could.
Thank you to all my friends who have been with me all along; supporting me and helping me. I never would have made it without you. Seriously. The civility of the divorce and my new level of confidence and hope for the future is in large part due to the blogging community.
I maintain connections with a few very special friends from this site.
For whatever reason my addiction (you all know what I mean) to this site seems to be over. Mostly because I have had to concentrate on moving on in my life and getting to the next phase.
With that being said I will be a standard member beginning in Jan. This will still allow me to blog every now and again.
Be well all.
See ya somewhen (as my friend used to say).
Cheers,
Sir Neal
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Changing my Underware
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Posted:Sep 12, 2007 12:03 pm
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2007 10:02 pm
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For years, it's been Tighty Whities all the way.
It's just what I grew up with. Fruit of the loom, Haynes, BVD's, etc
At one time I went with a more bikini style colored underwear because I thought it was sexy.
Butt that didn't last very long. It was back to the standard white.
The wife had expressed a preference for Boxers. I couldn't stand them. And the story she told me of finding her Mother with her hands in her Dad's boxers when they where sitting on the couch (he had no pants on), kind turned my stomach.
Now, at the end of my marriage and a long forced celibacy, I started to explore my sexuality. Hooked up with an online social networking community and started communicating with others.
Well, one of the things you start to think about when the prospect of dating comes up is your underwear. In the hopes that someone will see it of course. So first comes the black briefs. Always a sign of hope. Is it called Fuck me black? I think I heard that before.
And of course the Boxers or Briefs discussion comes up. Figured I'd give them a try again.
Not so bad this time. Kinda like it.
Is that it?
No, there's more! (hear Marissa Tomei in My cousin Vinny).
Naturally I hear of many Women who choose not to wear anything at all more often than not.
No big surprise there.
What I didn't expect was that some guys did the same thing. Heard a report about 14% of the population doesn't wear underwear as a rule.
Decided to give that a try. Very nice. indeed. It became a habit. Funny how you don't notice things until they are gone or changed. Like suddenly putting underwear on after not wearing it for a while and then going to get in the car. Kinda gets caught up as you sit down and adjust yourself in the seat.
Now, actually there was a step in-between:Oh I wear my pink pajamas
in the summer when it's hot
And I wear my long, white flannels
in the winter when it's not
And sometimes in the springtime
and sometimes in the fall
I JUMP between the sheets
with nothing on at all!
Glory, glory hallelujah
Glory, glory what's it to ya
Glory, glory hallelujah
If I JUMP between the sheets
with nothing on at all! I did try out sleeping nude. Was never really comfortable being nude. After sex I wanted to get right back in underwear (never really liked pajamas after I was a ). Didn't like walking around nude. After the shower as well, right into underwear to start getting dressed.
This also was a wonderful experience. No longer felt weird sleeping naked or being naked. Getting out of the shower I would not get dressed right away. There is always a little drying off left even after using the towel and it works best to just be out in the air. And with my subsequent enjoyment of wearing no underwear I wouldn't be getting into any anyway. lol
So now I mix things up as far as sleeping goes. Always have something handy to slip into when going alfresco should I have to get up and let the out or some such thing.
Underwear is an on and off thing (pun intended).
So, boxers, briefs, commando? Women, what do you prefer in men? What do you do for yourself? Are you wearing anything? Thong all the way? Bikini? Granny panties?
Ladies, have you been about to get down and dirty with a guy and find he isn't sporting underwear? What was your reaction?
Guys, what are your habits? Boxers, briefs or been there, done that, only skin for me.
We'll talk about shaving next time. lol
SR
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Happy Belated Anniversary to me!
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Posted:Sep 7, 2007 11:21 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2007 9:04 am
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OK we actually have mutliple anniversaries here.
I have been on AdultFriendFinder for 3 years now. OMFG!
Who knew?
So many good times and good friends.
Slowed down now but still here.
Now the other anniversaries I never thought I would see.
It has been over a year since I asked for a divorce. OMFG again! Who knew it would take so long to get out of the house and find a good divorce mediator? Well good thing we all live in relative peace and harmony. Basically independant lives as we have been living for some time.
And with that we had our 13th wedding anniversary.
Thirteen has always been our number so it is only fitting. We started dating on a Friday the 13th. There are all sorts of 13s or multiples thereof in our lives.
So here I am. Getting closer to closing the deal. Can't wait to get on to the next phase.
Cheers,
SR
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Friday funny - Happy Nekkie Friday!
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Posted:Sep 7, 2007 11:12 am
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2007 9:50 pm
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1. WHAT DO YOU SAY TO A VIRGIN WHEN SHE SNEEZES?
GOES-IN-TIGHT.
2. WHAT DOES A 72-YEAR-OLD SNATCH TASTE LIKE?
DEPENDS ..
3. WHAT'S "68"?
YOU DO ME AND I OWE YOU ONE.
4. WHAT DID CINDERELLA DO WHEN SHE GOT TO THE BALL?
GAGGED!
5. WHAT DO YOU CALL A MAN WHO CRIES WHILE HE MASTURBATES?
A TEARJERKER
6. WHY DO THEY SAY THAT EATING YOGURT AND OYSTERS WILL IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE?
BECAUSE IF YOU'LL EAT THAT STUFF, YOU'LL EAT ANYTHING.
7. HOW MANY PERVERTS DOES IT TAKE TO PUT IN A LIGHT BULB?
JUST ONE, BUT IT TAKES THE ENTIRE EMERGENCY ROOM TO GET IT OUT!
8. WHAT'S THE DEFINITION OF A VAGINA?
THE BOX A PENIS COMES IN.
9. WHAT TWO WORDS WILL CLEAR OUT A MEN'S RESTROOM?
"NICE DICK!"
10. WHAT DO YOU CALL A TRUCKLOAD OF VIBRATORS?
TOYS FOR TWATS.
11. WHY DO WE HAVE ORGASMS?
HOW ELSE WOULD WE KNOW WHEN TO STOP
12. WHAT'S THE DEFINITION OF INDEFINITELY?
WHEN YOUR BALLS ARE SLAPPING AGAINST HER ASS, YOU'RE IN
DEFINITELY
13. DEFINE TRANSVESTITE: A GUY WHO LIKES TO EAT, DRINK & BE MARY!
14. WHAT DO A DILDO AND SOY BEANS HAVE IN COMMON?
THEY ARE BOTH USED AS A MEAT SUBSTITUTE.
15. WHAT DO YOU CALL BORN IN WHOREHOUSES?
BROTHEL SPROUTS.
16. WHAT IS EVERY AMISH WOMAN'S PRIVATE FANTASY?
TWO MENNONITE.
17. HOW DID PINOCCHIO FIND OUT HE WAS MADE OF WOOD?
HIS HAND CAUGHT FIRE.
18. WHY IS SEX LIKE A GAME OF BRIDGE?
YOU DON'T NEED A PARTNER IF YOU'VE GOT A GOOD HAND.
19. WHAT DO YOU CALL A SMILING ROMAN WITH PUBIC HAIR BETWEEN HIS TEETH?
GLADIATOR.
20. WHY DO YOU GET PAID MORE AT THE SPERM BANK THAN AT THE BLOOD BANK?
SPERM IS HANDMADE.
21. HOW DO YOU MAKE 5 POUNDS OF FAT LOOK GOOD?
PUT A NIPPLE ON IT.
22. WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF YOUR GIRLFRIEND STARTS SMOKING?
SLOW DOWN AND USE A LUBRICANT
Enjoy the weekend peeps!
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What Real Men Eat for Breakfast
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Posted:Jul 31, 2007 7:01 am
Last Updated:Oct 27, 2008 11:48 pm
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It's been a while but here I am coming straight to you in my signature blue.
What do you want for breakfast Johnny?
Cooters!
That's right. Here at Generic Bag Cereal we make the best breakfast. So try all of our wonderful flavors including our latest:
Cooters!
Pour them in a bowl, make 'em wet to release their exquisite fragrance and then lap them up. Give in to your desire. Feed your hunger.
Yummy!
Make sure to eat you Cooters every morning.
Enjoy as an afternoon or evening snack. Anytime is a great time to have Cooters.
Have you had your Cooters today?
ROFLMAO!
SR
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070707 - Happy 457th Birthday
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Posted:Jul 7, 2007 12:03 am
Last Updated:Jul 31, 2007 6:43 am
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What's that you say? Another Birthday? It's a very special one Ladies.
I'll take Birthdays for a $1000 please.
In 1550 this well known confection was introduced in England.
Do Do, Do Do, Do Do Do. Dump, Da Dump Dump. Dump. Dump. Dump. Boom Boom.
What is Chocolate Alex.
That's Right.
Ok, so today is 7/7/07. And what do you make of it? Are ya into numbers? Did you think anything special when it was 12:34 5/6/7
Well it's now 3:00am and I need to sleep. Wake me around Eight please.
SR
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Happy Birthday Bikini
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Posted:Jul 6, 2007 8:31 am
Last Updated:Jul 6, 2007 11:42 pm
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<-- Brazilian Wrap Monokini. Original Monokini's were just bottoms.
Yummy!
On July 5, 1946, the bikini was unveiled during an outdoor fashion show at the Molitor Pool in Paris. The bikini made its first proper introduction to the world of fashion design on July 5, 1946, as it is was worn and displayed at a Paris fashion show by French model Micheline Bernardini.
The bikini began to be marketed and sold in the United States just one year after its introduction in France. Reaction to the swimsuit was great, but sales were initially quite slow. Men and women alike assumed that the suit was simply too bare and scandalous for conservative American women to don in public. American women did indeed approach the swimsuit quite cautiously until the revolutionary decade of the 1960s, in which bikini sales soared tremendously.
The bikini has inspired even more shocking innovations in swimsuit design, including the short-lived monokini and the immensely popular thong bikini. It would be interesting to learn if Louis Reard has the foresight to know of the far-reaching implications of the scanty two pieces of cloth that comprised the original bikini.
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Happy Birthday USA
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Posted:Jul 4, 2007 12:25 pm
Last Updated:Jul 6, 2007 8:40 am
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Here we are. Another candle gets added to the country's Birthday Cake.
So how many of you remember the Bicentennial? Now it's 30 years later. Wow. I have memories of tall ships in NY. Lots of excitement and Red, white and Blue everywhere.
So is this a big picnic day for you? Is there a parade in town? Ours stopped years ago. Fireworks. Oh how I love a food Fireworks show. Been to the DC fireworks a few times. Saw the display at the Golden gate bridge in 1989. There are a few towns around here that do a good job.
I have childhood memories of running around the back yard with sparklers. The last two years I was in FL. Fireworks are legal there. we would put on our own display as would the neighbors. It lasted for hours between everyone. Not as impressive as a formal show but just as good for the variety and fun.
So got any good memories? Any family traditions?
What's happening this year?
Enjoy.
SR
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