SmartType 53F
560 posts
7/10/2006 5:13 pm

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My sister and I have not spoken to each other in over a month after she accused me of sleeping with, I quote, "every man in Houston". She has disapproved of me being on this site, although was well aware of my lack of responses on Match. She's what I would describe as a Talbot-wearing, neo-conservative, First Pres (the one across from MFAH), prude. However she has admitted to having her 'needs', and with a bit of exploration on this topic, it was revealed that her first date from a Match contact turned into a first romp. So, I proposed to her that 'is it OK to screw with a Match person, and not an AFFer'. Sorry , my logic sucks, but it's not that bad. I have repeatedly explained to her that AdultFriendFinder has all sorts, yeah there's the type I would never consort with, but at least here is a venue where they can find each other.

The types I have met have been extremely accomplished, educated and in certain cases, public figures. The only thing different is admitting to a strong sexual appetite and expectations absolutely up front. None of this six date nonsense (kiss on the third), veiled references to bondage or alternative activities, etc. It's kinda refreshing to me. And just because you meet them, does not mean you sleep with them. It is about Chemistry. And so yes it happens....but not often.

I was madly in love with a fellow five years ago, and he was bigger than life, loud, funny, scary smart, irreverant, but a complete vanilla in the sack. Duller than dog water. He never even touched my ass (horrors), and seemed offended when I tried to give him a blow job (yeah screwed up Catholic boy). I remember standing at the foot of the bed to show him my latest treasures from a foray into Victoria's Secret and he pulled his nose out of his book, pushed his glasses down and said, "that's nice" and then went back to his book. Zippo. What!!!! I'm a decent looking girl, and have a nice rack - or so am told, and know what to do with my mouth as well as the rest of my body...so what was the problem! I announced that evening, well, if you aren't going to appreciate this, I think it's time to find someone who will. He talked a big game, but it was all a bluff.

So anyway, in this search for compatibility, this site helps to clarify so much up front. I love white picket fences too, but I want to know that a guy has a swing artfully disguised into the ceiling! Later.

rm_mk1867 59M
60 posts
7/10/2006 6:08 pm

I think I know what your talking about. I have been doing this for years, obviously with limted luck. I have noticed woman wanting this, this, and that and men in the same city offering this, this and that and they never connect. I scratch my head.
I can match a woman's profile to the letter and she won't give me the time of day???????
The profiles we judge each other by - a few words typed out, spur of the moment doesn't represent us. exchange e-mail, chat a bit. take time to find out about the other person.
OK off my soapbox

SmartType replies on 7/11/2006 4:59 pm:
Hey MK, the interent is an odd place to meet someone. And as I have found, just like in business, it's about the marketing. You wil eventually appeal to a target group, or you need to revise your approach to appeal to a target group you want. It's really no different than going to a club..you scope out the place, then approach what you want. Here it's done a little quicker and typically without beer goggles.

ImpishWolf 38M  
29 posts
7/10/2006 8:17 pm

Well if your sister was right I think you’ve missed a few… just teasing.

I looked at the match thing for a little bit too, but it never really seemed to be the place for me, to Christian to conservative and I was always more free, sexually than most of the women I met. Maybe I didn’t give it enough of a chance or was using it wrong some how but going through all that dating, just to meet some one I’m not sexually compatible with just wasn’t going to work. A lot of the girls we fun great people, but sex and sexually compatibility is important, at least to me it is if the relationship is going to work and getting the occasion dread “you’re a freak, you want to do what” response form conservative women was just to much.

I once dated this dancer, an exotic dancer I met. Yes, yes I know an exotic dancer not always the best of people to be seeing, to much drama. But I was thinking that maybe she would into some of the things I’m into. Boy was I wrong she turned out to be the biggest prude sexually I’ve yet to meet. She was a fun dancer, but in bed she would just turn in to a different woman. She didn’t get into sex at all, just completely limp, unmoving kind of like a bump on a log. She didn’t like oral sex any of it giving or receiving and just didn’t seem to have a libido. I guess it just goes to show you can never know about some people.

But I can understand feeling like the black sheep of the family and I know it isn’t easy. I come form the black sheep side of the family and I’m the blackest of black sheep family and even though it nice to be close to family and be able to take about things. I’ve found that really they don’t need to know everything. Hypocrisy is an all too human trait, and ever one does it at least once in while most don’t know they are. Cause it is easy to justify even is they aren’t any different form what you say you don’t approve of.

SmartType replies on 7/11/2006 5:07 pm:
Hi Imp. You are quite right about not screwing every man in H-town - partic since you are on the list! But hugs anyway. I'm the type you never know about either. Girl next door looks, big smile, and good grief what do we have in our little box of toys! I was actually a librarian at one time when I was at the university.....

I am in fact quite disappointed in my sister - at the hypocrisy level. She knows I'm a libertine-artist at heart and a student of the world. She made, and sadly meant, an ugly comment, and is now no longer welcome in my home. I told her to find a better sister and a better friend. Enough said.

ImpishWolf 38M  
29 posts
7/12/2006 6:01 pm

I'm sorry to hear that you and your sister on not on good terms any more, I’ve always felt family was one of if not the most important element in ones life, and even though blood may hurt you or disappoint you tremendously. You can’t just forget were you come form, can understand feeling really mad at family world knows I’ve had my problems with family, but I don’t think cutting them out permanently is a good thing to do; maybe time will help heal that wound. I’m not saying you should forgive her for here hypocrisy or anything. Just it’s a hard world with out family sometimes, and it’s a shame for something like different views of the world to make a crevice with in family.

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