Real friend? I'm not sure  

Slicknsweet22 37F
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7/30/2006 10:21 am

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Real friend? I'm not sure

Well, what to report. . .hmm. . .

My little brother shipped out the 25th, I bawled, he cried. Its weird not having him here. My supposed friend had to tell me all about how many people she knows that have died in the service. I wanted to beat her for that. Seriously, I had just put my little brother on a plane, and she starts in with this shit. It pissed me off so bad, I just wanted to hit her. Now, come to find out, she has gallstones, and could die if she doesn't have surgery. Mind you, I have never wished death upon anyone before, not even my abusive dad. But, with the way things are going between me and her, right now I could care less if she dropped dead. And thats horrible. She is so damn unhappy she feels the need to drag everyone down with her, and I can't take it anymore. I miss my little brother like hell, and I have the Anti-Christ walking around, DEMANDING money from me to pay for her fucking prescriptions! And can anyone understand why I'm hesitant to help her? Her and I are supposed to be friends, but how can a friend do this sort of thing to another friend? To sit there, as I am in tears watching my little brother leave, and start telling me about all these people she knows that have died, and then start telling me what a fucking retart I am for getting my tattoo, in support and honor of my little brother. Please God, just shoot me now! I can't take this shit anymore!

VCF1962 106F

7/30/2006 12:55 pm

I would NOT call her a friend. Friends do NOT demand anything of each other and why should you pay for her meds ?

Does she have any other friends ?

I had a friend that thought she had fibromyalgia and whilst I couldn't actually get to see her often, I always called to see how she was and even sent her some books from online to help out.

When I had trouble at the end of last year, with a guy I met on here, all she could do was hang up on me and wasn't interested. Then it went from bad to worse and she wondered why I didn't tell her about it. Things haven't been the same and she's shown little interest in being a friend - I'm the one that's listened to her whine about a job she hated for 2 years and offered to help her find another one and yet nothing is paid forward.

Course there's the other one that I helped out when her BF left her and she had no money - I ordered groceries online for her and had them delivered and now she's come into money and I'm in a little difficulty this month, nothing.

What do I give these friends now - as little as possible. I have better friends at work but they live on the other side of London.

She isn't a friend - but how would you feel if she dies ? Refuse to pay for her meds but be there for her - tell her you can't afford it and that she has no right to demand that you pay. Mind you from the sounds of it, it will make things worse so perhaps cutting the ties wouldn't be a bad thing, especially if she's bringing you down too.

Good luck - it's never an easy decision, no matter how horrid the other person is, especially when they're sick.

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SingleWarrior 53M

7/30/2006 1:07 pm

I for one am proud of your little brother

My own son had his 20th birthday on the 25th and is in Germany (Air Force).

Slicknsweet22 37F

7/30/2006 5:08 pm

Thank you SingleWarrior. I'm proud of him too. He's my hero. VCF, thank you for the advice. I've been "friends" with this woman for 9 years, and frankly, I'm getting tired of being the utter "bane" of her existance. Its hard, and it hurts like hell. I don't want to have to cut ties, but I see no other choice. She has backed me into a nice little corner on this, and she thinks she will wear me down. Not going to happen. Well, maybe when pigs fly in hell while Satan is giving sleigh rides!

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