The End is near...  

(Juan S)
3683 posts
9/6/2005 2:06 am

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The End is near...

I told myself when I started blogging that I knew it was not going to last long. I was shocked that I had actually lasted as long and gotten to the point that I had gotten to...
Now tonight i have gone through an emotional rollercoaster from one end of the spectrum to the other and because its the internet on some things and real life on the others, it has become just a hodge podge of BS.
There are some issues with my kids, issues with my job, my book, my career, my friends... I even came to Blogland to try and release a little tension and encountered my third imbecile. At least it was not on my blog...Then, while nursing a tension headache and preparing to stay up all night, doing a 9.5 hour download, someone that has been vying for my attention, just added to the headache.
Is there anybody out there besides me, that when they are feeling a bit overwhelmed, they just wanna sit somewhere and be quiet? If there is a significant other, you either want them to quietly just hold you or quietly get the hell out of the room?
NO FREAKING TALKING, DAMMIT!!! No Dr. Phil, philosophizing, no emotonal study group propaganda, just let me sit quietly...I'll be okay in an hour or two and cracking jokes as per normal, but let me have my freakin space!! Now on top of all of the BS, I'm going thru, I have to feel guilty because i didn't let this person into my sphere to HELP me feel better. Now they are hurt.
Steadily trying to build something, when i have said there is nothing to build. Simply exist and see how it goes. The person, I think is "The One", may not be at all and even if she is, we can still be friends. Have I not poured my heart out? Have I not communicated what I'm looking for?
I think I communicate fairly well. If I am upset, don't corner me, let me be, check in a half hour or so later, so that when I come out of it, I still know you care, but other than that, let me think...
I'm feeling the need to forget about Blogland, forget about my book, my kids, my career and even..."The One".
I'm too straight forward, NO BS and bring it straight to your door like the delivery man.
How the hell did I get here? What am I doing still here?
I need to think... Check back in a half hour.

DirtyLilSecret61 56F

9/6/2005 4:31 am

Solitude is necessary. I need my space as well, even if it's just to go on a bike ride through the countryside. Give me just 30 minutes of peace and quiet, and not someone standing there going "anything I can do for you?" and I'm fine. Give me my time then I'll come back to curl up in those arms that shelter me from life's problems.

I totally understand.


pussnboots694 74M/79F

9/6/2005 6:17 am

close your eyes..
Take a deep breath in..
and drift to the place that gives you tranquility..
Life is overwhelming..
at the best of times..
I feel your tension..
You know where the peace lays..
find it..
Stress kills dear one..

CuriousKitty675 42F
365 posts
9/6/2005 6:37 am

It's alright baby. Take the time you need. I understand how you're feeling. I hate more than anything someone trying to be all up in my space when I need the alone time and the quiet. I've found that playing music in headphones (the type of tune depends on the mood) helps to drown out the rest of the world and let me receed into my own mind.

Don't feel like you have to be here for anyone all the time. You don't have to break your neck to post to us. While it's always wonderful to read what Sizz has to say today, we'll be fine if you decide "Ya know...I just don't feel like writing today."

I would hate to see you leave this place forever. It does brighten my day to log in and find out what Sizz has to say. Just take a break baby. Take some 'me' time and tell the rest of the world to bugger off. Turn off the ringer on the phone, set the answering machine to pick up, turn off the cell, don't answer the door, and don't feel the need to answer emails or posts. Take the time you need alone darlin. If it hurts someone's feelings that you aren't at their beck and call 24/7 so be it. If they are going to get upset like that then they don't really care about your feelings anyway or they would respect that you need the downtime.

If on the off chance you decide to leave Blogville forever, please contact me thru an email here. I'd like to give you contact info so as not to lose track of you forever. You're a great and genuine person and I like that about you. You need a friend? I'm here. A'ight?

SunneyOne 45F

9/6/2005 7:01 am

I call it decompression time. Sometimes it is quiet, sometimes it isn't. Sometimes I am just not ready to talk about whatever it is yet. I just have to decompress so that I can get a handle on what I feel and how best to express and act on it.

So, yup, been there. Peace to you and patience to deal with life.

wyvernrose 39F  
3962 posts
9/6/2005 7:14 am

I feel that way every single day .....

I can't wait til I go back to work

I can't even get away from them in the loo


rm_summer765 53F
123 posts
9/6/2005 8:15 am

Baby..everyone needs their space and alone time.I get my alone time by coming in my room...locking the door..and totally block out the kids for about 30-60 minutes..depending on my state of mind.If u do decide to leave blogland..u will be greatly missed...but u must do what u have to do to preserve ur own sanity.If u ever need "just a friend" u know what to do. kisses and hugs baby.

007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
9/6/2005 9:30 am

I know what you mean. Take the time you need to think about things. Your friends in blogland is still here. Take care of you first.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

Theflinkychick 106F

9/6/2005 9:51 am

Sizz, I think you got here because you were supposed to get here.

I been there where you are, in fact, I think I've been living there.

Please don't leave, blogville wouldn't be the same without its Sizzle.

Not all who wander are lost.

someonelikeithot 51F

9/6/2005 11:02 am

... space for oneself is vital! I am sure that the people that love you will understand that, may be not half an hour!
I hope you are not going to leave blogland!
Have a relaxing evening, take your space as and when you needed!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/6/2005 2:20 pm

Thanks ladies, I'm not leaving yet, but life in general is what is getting to me.
Its going to be ok. I just felt that venting need and happened to be near the computer when it happened...LOL

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/6/2005 2:25 pm

Curious- Will do.

Someonelikeithot- La riconosco dal blog del Bella. Ringraziaria per venire di visitare.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
9/6/2005 3:03 pm

vent away its healthy and most won't take offence, have a couple of days to your self and sort stuff out

I'm a

i'm here to stay

angel_wings2005 53F

9/6/2005 3:58 pm

Sizzle~~~ I think that anyone who had read your blogs know that you are a very intense that knows what he wants - needs- desires-- and with that said- I know that we all have 'those kind of days'- when we just want to lock the world OUT and be alone- not necessarily to think - but to just "BE"....take all the time you need my dear friend!-just please don't leave us- we all need some SIZZLE in our lives! And if you need someone to talk to - I promise my fees are resonable- HUGS ARE FREE !!! *WINK*... Just know that "WE" are here for you !!!

rm_bella_ 48F
4030 posts
9/6/2005 4:13 pm

sizz...relax...time heals everything...just know that there are so many thinking of you..

Mikey_B1972 45M

9/6/2005 6:00 pm

I totally agree with the needing of some alone time. The only thing is, if it is quiet i go even crazier. I must have a tune to go to. I always find it relaxing to go to the club, by myself, sit back in the VIP section and sip on a drink while listening to some of the latest new breaks. If i am in a more serious mood, i break out the Joss Stone cd's. I have foud blogland to be quite stress relieving also.. just my 2 cents..

islandgirl_702 55F

9/6/2005 9:02 pm

Boo: I'll be there in 30 minutes! xxoo

missy973 48F

9/7/2005 9:10 am

It was several years into my marriage that I figured out that he just wanted quiet, and not me to help him talk, help him feel better, whatever. I read it somewhere, guys are different, and for them to feel better they often need to be left the hell alone. I started leaving him alone more, talking less, unburdening less on him. I mean come on ladies, he's not your everything, he's just one person. Dump on your girlfriends, write in your journal, pray to God, whatever. But stop trying to talk to him every 5 minutes. You will drive him away.

I've said my peace. I hope some ladies are reading, and thinking.

(Princess Lips)

9/7/2005 9:34 am

find a quiet spot
close your eyes...

take care of you...

we will be here...


impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
9/7/2005 9:25 pm

pixie...sitting quietly holding your hand wrapping you in a peaceful aura. Should you need to cry - I will cry with you, should you need my heart - I freely share, should you need my strength...I am here. Take all that you need my brother, for you have freely shared all with me here with your words and I'd be happy to do the same for you. Peace!

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn

keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
9/8/2005 4:53 am

It don't mean nuthin man. Heal thyself and those whom you love will also benefit.

dano6332 57M

9/8/2005 7:31 am

missy973 said it well. I think all men need space to think, breathe and unwind. My marriage counselor used the cave analogy to explain it to my ex back in the day, She would become indignent when I would ask for space as if I could not love her and be apart from her when I had something to mull over. Men have a cave that we retreat into when we feel confused, overwhelmed or stressed. Sure it is a balancing act but we all need time in the cave.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 10:50 am

DirtyLilsecret, Humboldthonni- Thanks for the kind words in my hour of venting

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 10:52 am

womenlooking4fun- Thanks for the rehab offer...I have a feeling I would find a way to het in trouble in there also... Like the time i went to visit a friend at her sex addiction anonymous meeting

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 10:55 am

Puss- Rediscovering my Chi is very important. Thank you for reminding me...

Curious- Its not the blogging that is doing it babe

Sunney- Thanks. As Axl Rose says...we all need a little patience...

Summer- "Just" a friend? ...LOL

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 10:58 am

Wyvern- wait till they are out of the house and still seem to stop by at the most inopportune moments...LOL

Flinkychick- Alas, there will come a time ,when I will be heating a different spot...

Papy- Thanks. You reminded that those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind..

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 11:02 am

Angel- Reasonable fees for talking...Huggs are free...hmmm, what about your 45 minute specialty?

Redlips- Thanks darling! Could you untie these ropes now...?

Bella- Thanks babe...I just need to change some of those thoughts...

MikeyB- Are you a DJ?

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 11:05 am

Islandgirl- vegas is a little further than thirty minutes, but if you think you can handle it, when you get here...hmmm

Kateybabe- One of many??? Drat!!! Drat it ALL!!!!!!

Impish_Pixie- How sweet! Thank you!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 11:08 am

Traveling- LOL...Don't tell everyone the primal male instincts...LOL
As to the 20 minutes, I used to feel that way when my kids lived with me...
Everyone, but the wife would pounce when I hit the door...Dog, cats, fish...
Then once I got rid of them, I'd get the long list of what I did wrong, what is wrong and why the entire world was wrong speech...

Keith- Thanks...HEY!!! What's cooking? I gotta drop in to your blog and see what you been up to.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 11:10 am

Missy- Great advice. I hope they are listening too.
In general men tend to want to be alone. Women tend to want to vent, then be alone...
Of course there are exceptions to the rule based on the person or circumstances

Mikey_B1972 45M

9/8/2005 4:07 pm

Sizzle, Nope not a DJ. I bounced for many years, which is also great stress relief, which is where i found my passion for music. I can get lost in a song, like a infant staring at a lollipop

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/8/2005 8:35 pm

Dano6332- Didn'tt mean to leave you out. As a matter of fact, i want to start using the cave reference in my normal lifestyle vocabulary...Thanks.

Mikey_B.- Kindred spirits. I use to bounce as well. Hey the 2006 Superbowl is in Detroit and the guy heading up the security team, used to be my Drum teacher...LOL.
If you wanna see the game and make a few bucks at the same time, hit me up and I'll get you his contact info...

rm_summer765 53F
123 posts
9/8/2005 9:58 pm

LOL...yes baby.."just" a friend. You know...friends cum in very many varieties BTW..i'll be getting to part 3 very soon...i've been very busy lately lol hugs and kisses.Hey..when do we get to see the rest of u? Anticipation is drivin me crazy

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/9/2005 9:21 am

Summer... Is that a personal invite? For you to see the rest of me...? LOL

rm_summer765 53F
123 posts
9/10/2005 9:32 pm

I'd love to see the rest of u..u gonna show me?

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/11/2005 1:45 pm

you never know summer darling...

TopFisher 64M

9/13/2005 12:07 pm


It all goes away with the first "FISH ON"!!!!

When the Stripers are bustin loose on the shad on the surface, believe me, NOTHING else in the world even exists!


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