Choices and Settling...  

(Juan S)
3683 posts
9/22/2005 12:16 am

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Choices and Settling...

Had a couple of deep. meaningful conversations with two friends today camille61 womenlooking4fun
The subject was also broached with some people at work...
Thought I would ask all of you what you think.
If You had an opportunity to touch what you had always dreamed of in your life, but there was a chance it would not happen, would you wait for that or would you "Love the one you're with" or at least who wants to love you?

wyvernrose 39F  
3962 posts
9/22/2005 12:32 am

I don't understand the question


SunneyOne 45F

9/22/2005 3:56 am

I'm going to say the same as BigGirlzRSweet. Well said. Me too.

hourglasses 48F

9/22/2005 5:05 am

I would probably wait for a while (I'm not sure how long) and try to make it happen, try to make it possible. But I can't seem to be alone for long, so I'd probably also 'Love the one I'm with' but hopefully never again love the one someone else is with.

digdug41 50M

9/22/2005 6:24 am

it took me along time to realize I already had what I was searching for

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/22/2005 7:57 am

LOL...Rose... I'm not buying that from you!!!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/22/2005 8:01 am

Mizzkitka... I am currently battling that demon. Those male vibrator rings tend to be too small for me and we are not even going near the blow up dolls, so there is no option...LOL

BigGirlz... my dog is afraid of me... rolled over one night...LOL.

Hey Sunny

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/22/2005 8:06 am

Jez...I am SERIOUSLY starting to believe that you two are trying to seduce me...

Well put HG... would I be out of line to suggest a visit to Chateau Sizzle for the almond Mocha latte back rub?

Digdug... WE do, do that, don't we? If women knew that secret about us, it might cause an entire revolution...oh wait... uh...ladies pretend you didn't hear that...darn...cats out of the bag... How's the bass playing going? Got a band?

(Princess Lips)

9/22/2005 8:08 am

my blog just reeks of this...

does discontent cause ripples thru blogland?

Chaos theory??

*music playing in my head*

Can you help me unravel my latest mistake
I don't love him and winter just wasn't my season.
Yea we walk through the doors so accusing their eyes
Like they have any right at all to criticize
Hypocrites you're all here for the very same reason.

But my God it's so beautiful when the boy smiles
Wanna hold him but maybe I'll just sing about it

Cause you can't jump the track
We're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass glued to the table,
No one can find the rewind button boys so cradle your head in your hands
And breathe, just breathe, whoa breath just breathe

There's a light at the end of this tunnel you shout cause you're just as far in as you'll ever be out
And these mistakes you've made
You'll just make them again if you'll only try turnin' around

If i get it all down on paper it's no longer inside of me
threaten' the life it belongs to.
And I feel like I'm naked in front of the crowd
Cause these words are my diary screamin' out aloud
And I know that you'll use them however you want to. "


(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/22/2005 8:56 am

Redlips... Not only in Blogland, but all around us in everyday life...
It is the changes of the season...I think...
BTW...what song is that?

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
9/22/2005 12:00 pm

Sometimes what feels like waiting for the perfect dream is actually an excuse for living in the present. Not always. But just sometimes.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
9/22/2005 12:01 pm

Ooops, typo. I meant to say it can be an excuse for NOT living in the present.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

yagottalikit 50F
583 posts
9/22/2005 3:15 pm

wait for me darling......or me now......uhhhh....guess I need to know which role I play here! (giggles)

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

someonelikeithot 51F

9/22/2005 5:04 pm

If you are looking somewhere else...may be it means you are not happy with what you have!?? Or is it just persuing a mere fantasy ?

shychurchmouse 50F
239 posts
9/22/2005 5:16 pm

Love the one your with. There must have been something u were attracted to to be with that person. Chances are the other person will have hidden flaws also.

1586 posts
9/22/2005 6:02 pm

Sizz -

All of my romantic notions of what I thought love was have been squeezed, stomped, crushed into a fine powder and blown away by the wind to parts unknown. (If that's not overly dramatic, I don't know what is. LO

Having said that, I am now firmly in the Love The One You're With School of Thinking.

slightlyjadedone 51F

9/22/2005 7:34 pm

do you mean you dont get both????....because ummm...why cant you be with the one that loves you ...or wants to be with you although you truly do not feel the same way with them...and then attempt to go after that one that you have always wanted...perhaps you will be let down ...perhaps you will not be...perhaps it is the chance that made them notice you...maybe it was your move that they were also waiting with everything in life it is taking the chance make your own fate...( good gawd I am a hallmark card and I dont even follow my own damn advice)

dano6332 57M

9/22/2005 9:35 pm

Sizzle, GREAT QUESTION the problem is (as we all have seen in the past) that when you think you found them your sometimes wrong. Hell if there was a way to know for sure there would be no divorce, no single parent kids and we could all stop looking (well except for some of my friends here who seem well matched already sighhhhhhh)
Anyway for me I wait and occasionally give in to the temptation knowing I am settling but damn its lonely and the nights are long

redmartinigirl 44F

9/22/2005 11:32 pm

Love... such an elusive emotion. You think you have it, finally found it and it gets stomped on, used, and disrespected. And yet, deep down it is what everyone is after. I've had my heart broken and yet I (still) believe in love. While my head would like to say that we would "love the one we are with" if presented with that situation, my heart knows that we'd go after that elusive Love...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/23/2005 12:51 am

1Hotwahine... welcome to Sizzles... very good point...

KJ...You two just make me feel all warm and gooey inside, when I think about how much you love each other...

Trav... I have no clue whatsoever as to what you mean...LOL...clarify please!

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/23/2005 12:58 am

Yagotta...what role would you like to play? You know that convertible looks good with your name on the license plate...

someonelikeithot... Neither my dear... Not with anyone at present and definately not in a fantasy world... That would be easier...just lay back and look at all the pretty flowers...
and spinning items, dancing in my head...LOL

Shychurchmouse...Welcome to Siz's spot...See above...

Hi DC!!! If I was with someone...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/23/2005 1:06 am

Kateybabe...Its good your heart is that big...It will help in your October adventure...

Slightljadedone... i think your question, had gave me the answer to my question, better than anything else i have thought of so far... The reason to NOT just love the one you're with, If you do not feel the same as they because you are not being fair to them...
Acquiring a relationship with "The One", would give you both feelings and that would be
the best thing possible...

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/23/2005 1:13 am

Dano...True point..the nights are long and getting longer... I suppose as long as the communication is VERY clear, then it is what it is...

Redmartini a/k/a cosmo i don't think I can sustain getting stomped again...
maybe a kick or I could take a punch...but that stomping thing is SERIOUS...

rm_Jme681000 46M
29 posts
9/23/2005 3:38 am

time will not wait, however I will keep looking...everyday

question? is there a perfect person 4 some1?

if so how deep do we look in 2 the perfection?

A machined head, on a machined block, still needs a gasket to seal better and these pieces R bolted 2gether(sorry for the car analogy)

and this will only hold for a time... food 4 thought

(Princess Lips)

9/23/2005 7:54 am

I need to enroll...


(Princess Lips)

9/23/2005 7:59 am

the "one" did come along,

not wanting, looking, or expecting it...

and left a HUGE hole where my heart used to be...


(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/23/2005 10:55 am

JME... Deep thought! No apologies for the analogy needed...
I think, in clarifying my OWN statement is not that I am looking for perfection, I'm looking for the person who is perfect for me... I think that gets lost in translation when people use, read or say that... Thanks for coming by...

Lips... Your heart is still there darling, it is merely in hiding somewhat..while it heals...
but you can't hide it...we all see it.

wifey3223 49F
126 posts
9/24/2005 8:10 am

sizzle.a man with such deep thoughts, untoucable hum.well i understnd youre blogs,& questions. if i ever get close, half way or have the opportunity,i think id go awol at work & loose myself in life. right know, i do all the motion's ,i get off ,im happy setteled & setteling. but to get that undescribable lover, bondage is nice to. i always was into it, it's also a form of trust & love between partners. but alt , some are to oggish for my freaky taste. ps ur women look tastee.

Mikey_B1972 45M

9/24/2005 4:37 pm

I have always been a believer in "what if", but now that i am getting older it is just remaining comfortable with what's here. Why buy a new car if the older one looks and runs good?
Alittle off the beaten path, how are you holding up for tomorrow?

CuriousKitty675 42F
365 posts
9/25/2005 7:06 pm

I've gon ethe 'Love the One You're With' route (and curse you Sizz for getting that song stuck in my head!) LOL. However I was also a late bloomer on getting started into the whole foray of sensual pleasure. I was almost 21 when I lost my virginity. I waited for the right one to come along despite the hormonal urges that plagued me and it was the right choice. So now? Now I'm back to the waiting game cause while the LTOYW path is fun for the brief moment you live it, later it just makes you feel more miserable and lonely.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/25/2005 9:16 pm

...and the eagle flies, with the dove
...and if you can't be with the one you Love...darling
Love the one ya wit...
Ya got ta love the one ya wit
da, da, da, da da da dada
da, da, da, da da da dada
dadada dadada ...oooo

I know the feeling it was stuck in my head last night... arrrgh

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