Women in 2006  

SilkenKiera 39F   
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1/25/2006 1:18 pm

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Women in 2006

Looking back on my prior post, I’ve decided to take my little endeavor very seriously. This is mainly due to the fact that I harbor so much toxic shit mentally that my nick name can be New Jersey. At least recognizing the change that needs to be made is half the battle. Right?

My love/hate relationships for politics and all that is wrong with the world, especially America, has me in a state constant awareness. Which is funny because I would love to be heavily involved in politics one day soon. However, if I played the association game with myself about the subject of politics it would go something like this;

Politician = Beware
Scandals = Politician
George W. Bush = Don’t go there
Social Security = In trouble
Enron = Speaks for it’s self
Taxes = I’m Speechless
Women in Politics = Minority group
Minorities in Politics = Even smaller of a minority group

See, nothing positive at all. No thoughts from me that sparkle with hope. No “I can see the amber waves of grain”, “George W. will one day make a good decision, or any decision” It's all sour grapes with me. Now since I realize this, I have devised a little plan. A 12 step program if you will. This guideline can be used by anyone, though it is directed to women here, it just has to be adjusted to fit.

1. Keep an open mind-

A lot of political issues surrounding females specifically, threaten the progress that we as a sex have made in the past century. These issues can effect our health and ultimately our lives. I dare you to pick up any female magazine and try not to find one article about how legislatures are taking our choices away from us. No matter what your feelings on this topic EVERYONE must be aware. If they can take one choice away from us, they can take more. To me this states that lawmakers feel that we are not smart enough to make the right decisions for our selves. Are we going to take that?

2. Get on with our lives -

There are more than enough women on this site, some of whom I can call friends, who know all to well that it is necessary to put the past behind us. I have nothing but bad stories about looking into my love life rearview mirror. Stories that could have changed my life for the worst if I was married to someone else. Someone less forgiving and understanding. No good can come of it.

The amount of ill will that we as women can find in our hearts to harbor against enemies, makes it extremely hard to let in the good stuff. We have to be careful here, especially the number one killer in women right now is heart disease, which can be related to stress. And anything turned inward for too long can kill us, if not physically then emotionally. We may still hate our ex’s, hate our high school bully, Kelly what’s-her-name, but it’s time to let it go and move on. These people probably don’t even remember our name, yet every time we think of them in hate, we’re taking 10 minutes at a time off of OUR lives!

3. Respect our bodies -

If you saw a friend, or a stranger for that matter, treating herself the way that you your self do you would tell her to stop. We treat other people and animals better then how we treat our bodies. The yo-yo diets, the dehydration, the constant berating of ourselves because of a few laugh lines. It’s gotten to the point of ridiculous. That’s enough already.

4. Forgive ourselves -

If your anything like me, I carry my mistakes around with me like a neon sign flashing “IDIOT”. If I just gently reminded myself about a past failure while making a decision in a similar situation again, I could be happier. Negative self talk is dangerous and destructive.

5. Pinch your pennies -

a. Nothing on this subject is easy. We all know that a safety cushion in the bank eases bad patches. However, when the time comes that you need money and you find that you have “forgotten” to save any, please refer back to # 4.

b. Buy life insurance, and make a last will and testament. I know that being a Civil Litigation Paralegal this sounds drastically like a self-plug, but that can’t be further from the truth. Every day I see the misery that not planning for the inevitable causes your families. Going to Court over Grandma’s broach that she promised to so and so at her last Thanksgiving is not worth it. I’ve seen people squabble and ignore my and their attorney’s advice, go to court and spend everything to get there. Need I remind you of the nonsense that tied up Congress mid 2005. A living will at the minimum will allow others to obey your last requests. Take it from me, I’ve seen too many families that to this day no longer speak. It’s one piece of paper that can save everyone.

6. Travel solo just once -

I know that this is supposed to promote self-reliance and independence, but have you ever tried being negative in a foreign country when unplanned things happen? It doesn’t help that’s for sure. I actually know someone who was mistaken as a rioter while serving the Peace Corps in Morocco and arrested. Bitching everyday didn’t get him out of there, thanking God that he was alive, being thankful that he was being relatively fed, and that he was an American citizen who would be allowed to go home eventually got him through.

7. No more excuses -

This is a funny one for me. If there was ever a daughter born to a cynical and negative parent, it was me being born as my father’s daughter. My dad, oldest of 5, grew up a hard working upper class Italian family in New York. Was president of his college fraternity and an all around good guy. But he is cynical. Oh yes. His first career choice was to become a journalist and have a newspaper spot named “The Critic”. Thank goodness he decided to become a Pharmacist instead.

Because of the above, and the type of Dad that I had I thought that negative thinking was a birthright. Kind of a free pass to be this crass and negative. After all, we can’t all be John Lennon right? Some people have to be the Walrus. NO MORE EXCUSES!

As for the other 5 steps of my 12 step program, it’s a work in progress. Much like me and this little endeavor of mine.


redmustang91 58M  
8935 posts
1/25/2006 2:42 pm

I am an optimist despite the dumb stuff I see. There are always work arounds no matter how bad things get. Having lived a while it used to be worse in many ways. Minorities and gays get more respect these days and even have the law on their side as far as anti-discrimination cases go. It used to be legal to discriminate based on race, gender and sexual orientation! So keep fighting for what you believe in and get like minded people to vote! If you want to keep the right to privacy and the right to an abortion then don't vote Republican for an example!

docdirk 49M

1/25/2006 10:16 pm

Hey, Kiera. I'm not smart enough to comprehend anything you've posted above. I only dropped by to say - I love your new photo! Very complimentary of you - you sexy thang!

(You make us Fighten' Blue Hens proud!)

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

SilkenKiera 39F  

1/26/2006 8:00 am

~ RedMustang - your preaching to a young Democrat. I'm a conservative liberal if you will.

~ J.J. I love you so much! Thanks for that!


rm_ohsolustful 59M
859 posts
1/26/2006 8:11 am

Hello, I usually cruise thru your blog whenever I am on here. I tend to be politically active myself. I don't blame you for being cynical about politics in general, there are lots of problems with our system, the erosion of our rights in general, the corruption, the way our elected officials are not responsive to us but to special interest groups, etc. I don't think it is a purely Republican or democrat thing at all, depending upon where you live the politicians are all the same no matter what party the consider themselves. I think the answer to the systems problems lies in the apathy of the people in general, If more people took the time to get involved and voted out all the chumps who disregard their obligation to their constituants both parties would get the message that thy have to do what is right for the people and not what is right for the special interest group that gave them the most money.The apaty of the general population makes it possible for the minority to rule the majority. A lot of people don't think their vote matters but history says different, Just look at GW's first election, Kennedys victory over Nixon etc... Elections should be funded differently, more restrictions on donations from special interest groups, if you get enough signatures to get your name on the Ballot, you should get X amount of free air time, with all candidates getting equal amounts, more debates between candidates with no restrictions on subjects or pre approved questions, let em wing it so we can get a better sense of who they are and how they stand..The other thing I believe this Country needs is a real viable third party to shake up the Rep and Dems, show them that they are not guaranteed to be in power just because they get the backing of the established parties...On this subject i could go on and on, I grew up in a political family, work for the Superintendent of Elections Office as an Investigator,and have seen an awful lot of crap over the years..seems to me that you never vote for the lesser of two evils all the time,we never get the right man for the job, the right man for the job doesnt want to get involved in the messy political system we have.......Oh and by the way, I'm from New Jersey too, You know "THE GREEDY STATE", Home of Corruption and Pay to play politics, and Pretty woman, your cute enough to fit in around here, we would be happy to have you call yourself New Jersey...shit , ya wanna be Govenor???????? How about Senator or something like that???? You would have my vote, at least you seem to care!!!!!!!!

SilkenKiera 39F  

1/27/2006 9:04 am

~ ohsolustful - Thank you so much for your post. I always enjoy when you stop by. I couldn't agree with your statements more. Very well said! Also, thanks for the wonderful compliment about me and New Jersey. I don't think the world is ready for me in Government just yet!


rm_ohsolustful 59M
859 posts
1/27/2006 11:58 am

Damn thats a shame, just when I thought I had found a candidate i could vote for without reservations.......I am sure all the other guys and a lot of the woman here would have voted for you as well...just on looks alone, let alone your mind.........Well, we have a spot for you on the ballot if you ever change your mind

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