SexyArmand69 46M
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5/2/2006 9:16 pm

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You know there are times when being "out of the broom closet" just doesn't pay. This especially applies when looking for a girlfriend . I mean lets face it, I am as "out & proud" of my being Pagan as are those who are "out & proud" of as members of the GLBT community. But there are so many times when this one fact has kept me from having that one person I am most interested in as a girlfriend, partner, or whatever term you wish to use. Well that or they are a Lesbian... in which case I usually bite my tongue and never hint at my feelings for them. But I digress, the reason for this blog is to vent, no that word is not the proper one, to let my voice be heard is perhaps a better way of saying it.

I mean here you are both looking for the same thing, a person to share your very soul with and then the religion thing comes up. I mean I can and do respect a person to feel strongly enough about their faith as to let it influence other aspects of their life such as who they date and all. But that never makes it easier for me.

In the past I would have simply locked away my beliefs and gone to their church, and "join" and what not for the sack of making things easier, but in the end like all lies that one would be exposed due to a book I would be reading or the pattern that I place house-hold candles in or what-not.

Now I am of the mind that I'll never change again. Even at the sack of being lonely and alone. I wouldn't expect my partner to change, so why would I.

And yes recent events prompted this post, but no names will be mentioned out of respect for that lady who I am attracted to...

Éagann an ní a dhéanaimid dúinn féin - Maireann an ní a dhéanaimid do chách go síoraí ('What we do for ourselves dies with us - what we do for others is immortal' )


ViciousPleasure 56M/55F

5/2/2006 10:18 pm

I must concur with your frustration at those who are closed-minded and fail to see the value of your beliefs. I toyed with Wicca for a bit and liked a lot of what it had to offer. I grew up in a christian church, but I never really embraced the teachings there. I could never fully accept any religion that feels they have a monopoly on "the truth", and that, if you don't believe as they do, you are a condemned heathen. Or Pagan, as it were. I suppose if I were to catagorize myself, I would say my beliefs are closer to Deism than anything else. I believe that the higher power(s) are revealed in all of nature and in the souls of men. I think the Buddhists have some wonderful teachings. Non-judgemental and peaceful, recognizing the potential holiness in each living thing.

I learned the hard way, quite some time ago, that trying to change your beliefs....who you are suit others is a miserable way to live. I tried to play the good "christian" girl for a long time, but it wasn't in my heart and I was very unhappy. I no longer feel like I have to meet anyone's approval or behave the way someone else wants me to. I am who I am. Take it or leave it. It is liberating to feel this way, but it was a tough journey to get here.

Anyway, enough of my philosophical wanderings. Hang in there and don't give up. There are those who share your beliefs and your acceptance of others for who they are. Settle for nothing less in those you chose to befriend. If it takes a bit longer, so be it. Don't compromise your principles to please another. Be true to who you are and what you believe. If the fates, or whatever power you believe in, intend for you to meet someone, rest assured that you will. In due time.

Blessed Be.

The Lady of Shadows and Myst

SexyArmand69 replies on 5/3/2006 5:46 am:
Thank you for the comment. It's nice to know that at least someone out there understands where I am coming from.

Every Blessing,


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