Dominate or submissive?  

SexcravingBBW 48F  
256 posts
7/30/2006 2:33 pm

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Dominate or submissive?

Something has been bothering me. Where have all the men gone? Now hold on.. let me talk before you get mad. I get a lot of emails and most are from submissive men or very ultra dominate males.. UGH.. isn't there an in between? I want a dominate male. Not to the point of pounding on his chest and dragging me by my hair to his cave.. (Hmmm.. that actually sounds exciting..LOL..) Ok.. can't use that example but you get my drift. I like a man that knows what he wants. I don't mind being Domme every so often but I also want him to be able to be it. I want to know that he wants me and isn't afraid to say it.

Now all this D/s talk is about sex and the bedroom. Outside of the bedroom. I still want him to be manly (be able to make decisions and not wait to be told to kiss me and touch me..things like that). But also sensitive and romantic. I just don't get it. It isn't in me to be ultra Domme. I can't do it. Sorry Guys.. I have tried. I don't want a guy to always be Dom either. Why can't we both be ..well, both???

Now if I could only think of a way to build my own man.. that would be excellent...LOL..

But, alas, no such thing.. so guess I will have to keep searching...

Till next time..
Everyone take care...

MarriedJoyStick 47M
8 posts
7/31/2006 8:48 am

I consider myself a Dom for sure. At the same time I will get the car door for you and treat you with respect. Staying in control is your willingness to be controlled.

rm_pashun4u585 48M
26 posts
8/2/2006 12:37 pm, very true. blog. I like what you write and most of it is very true. I know I desire the same thing you do, except in female form. I do a lot of contemplating myself and just end up frustrated because most people don't know what they want or how to get it, or try to get what they want without working for it. Anyway, enough of my babbling. Peace!

SexcravingBBW 48F  
70 posts
8/2/2006 1:12 pm

Thank you all for writing in my blog.

I am glad to see that some men do have ideas on how to share role playing. There also does seem to be gentlemen out there. Gives me hope.

rm_ORB486 58M

8/28/2006 10:06 am

You are describing the majority of men out there, though perhaps not on this site as the population is skewed a bit here. What most men want in a woman is passion. And passion peaks and wanes, ebbs and flows. It cannot be controlled because by its nature it is out of control. Dom & sub are only forms of it, hopefully...because without it they are mere perversion probably leading to frustration, as you seem to have experienced. If we could build or order a mate by trait, we would soon lose interest. Part of the passion or spark is the finding, becoming, and creating. That's an important element in keeping during the dark days. 'Seems to me.

rm_JBEACH9976 42M
2 posts
6/6/2008 10:22 am


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