Believe me, or not  

Seriously_Real 49M
1458 posts
6/1/2006 6:14 am

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6/5/2006 6:46 am

Believe me, or not

So here's the thing, and you can believe it or not....

I am not getting married tomorrow. I'm not even picking out china patterns, calling movers, or deleting my profile(s).

I never once said that My Imaginary is the next great love of my life.

I have never even once said that My Imaginary is someone I am in love with. Not even to her.

What I've tried to convey is that My Imaginary is an extremely cool person I like to spend time with.

That's what dating is. You know, I have in fact done alot of dating here recently in a very short period of time. That's how I operate, people. I don't move slowly when I move on. That's not a pattern; that's me. And while I've not dated per se in my lifetime, it isn't like I am not a keen observer of human beings.

It isn't like I don't have preferences.

And it isn't like I don't know what I like when I see it.

I have no idea what My Imaginary will be. But you people are reading far too much in between the lines. Way, way, way the fuck too much. I like spending time with her. For that I will not apologize.

I will also not apologize for the timing. I will not be any more moved on in 90 days than I am right now, and that is absolutely the last time I am going to explain that to you. (And if there is any irritation over the comments that have been made, it is my irritation that you lovely people have no idea why or how I've moved on as easily and cleanly as I have.) But if it is too soon, where were you people yelling at me when I started dating at all? I mean, seriously, you don't seem to have a problem with me getting out there, and yet you seem to have a problem with me finding someone I like when I do.

She isn't the first person I dated. She's the first person I dated that I really liked. She was the fifth person I've been out with, and about the 10th I've corresponded with in the past two weeks, not counting a couple from this site that I have no interest in, for those of you keeping track at home.

So now I am just going to make a request of you....please relax. I am still under construction. I still have a new plan to build. I see no reason not to be happy while I do it.

Over the next few days I'll be doing a series of posts about my patterns, in detail, and what I'm doing to break them. Again, you can believe that, or not.

But I'm not off the deep end. I'm not rebounding. I'm not doing anything other than what normal people do -- dating, finding someone I like, and wanting to spend time with them. The only thing abnormal is that I'm writing about it in the way that I write. That makes it sound like I've lost my mind, again, but it isn't that way.

I shouldn't have to explain this, but I put my life out here in an honest way from the beginning, and you've supported me in the good and bad times. So now I do think you need an explanation. And I need you to relax and understand that I've not done what you all think I'm doing. Okay?

One last thing: she and I have talked about this ad nauseum. Don't think for a minute she is not acutely aware of what is going on with me and this. She's got her feet on the ground even more than I do, and my feet are covered in dirt. She has been single for a while, made many of the same mistakes I've made, and understands every word I am saying. And she's with me on this. So, again, relax people.

Summary: Relax. I'm just having a great time with a fascinating woman. And I'm ready to do exactly that. When it becomes, if it becomes, more than that, it will be more than that because it is good for that to happen.


imLadyBambi 59M/51F

6/1/2006 6:30 am


Mr.Bambi and I are behind you all the way and we will support you in any way possible.

Lady Bambi

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 6:57 am:
Thank you, Bambi. I appreciate it more than you might know.

countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
6/1/2006 6:30 am

You have to do what you need to do to make yourself happy! You are the only one that knows exactly what you are wanting and needing and if not, you will learn along the way! Good luck in your adventures!


Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 6:58 am:
Thank you, Countryheart. And welcome! If you knew all of my history....well. Just say that I can understand the concern, and maybe I haven't done a great job of explaining what's going on in my mind before.

rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
2110 posts
6/1/2006 6:34 am

Amazing. I think some people definitely need a hobby.

Keep doing what you're doing, Real. It's your life. When "it" happens, it will happen. WHEN IT'S SUPPOSED TO. Karma, and all that...

In the interim, have fun. Getting your feet "wet" again can be trying. This I do know.

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 6:59 am:
Thanks, Buc. Truth is, I understand where they are coming from. I put it all (or almost all) out there, and people know me and what I have done and been through. They have legitimate concerns, and I can appreciate that. It just isn't what people think, and I need to be clear about that.

sensually_4ever 43M/F

6/1/2006 6:47 am

Seriously defensive there sweetie....

It is your life, and you live it how you choose,,,~~not~~ for bloggers most of whom you do know...

I am gonna look back outta curiousity in your blog and see what's going on...

Haven't been by in a while...

Live, laugh, and in the end.... love yourself


Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 9:08 am:
You gotta stop by more often. You miss an hour, you miss alot....heh.

PurplePeach72 45F  
9199 posts
6/1/2006 6:57 am

    Quoting rm_Iwillwait4u2:
    don't worry what other people think...if she makes you happy...well then..its no one elses business but yours! Not theirs!

My sentiments exactly! Don't worry, be happy!

Still be glad to spank you, and sounds like you could use a massage
We love ya big guy,


Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 7:00 am:
You won't actually leave marks, will you?

wickedeasy 68F  
31332 posts
6/1/2006 9:00 am

not a single person outside of you can make any of these decisions

bonne chance

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 9:08 am:
I do not mind at all the questions and concerns, though. All I hope for is that people understand what and who I am.

Mermaidslut 51F

6/1/2006 9:13 am

....penguins please

....marching to the sounds of circus music.

and a big polar bear, with an iceberg slide

and a submarine that goes deep down

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 12:41 pm:
You like things going down, huh?

bipolybabe 56F

6/1/2006 10:11 am

Sounds great to me. You go, guy!

As long as you promise to keep tellin' us the details. I was an exchange student in high school because I love spying on how people are in their homes.

Here in Blogville, I get to glimpse what people are like in their personal lives. That's way cool!


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 12:41 pm:
Thanks, BiPoly. Nice to know you're still around....heh. Don't worry. This is still my place, and I'm not going anywhere.

rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
6/1/2006 10:26 am

Ya know, I stayed out of the last post or so, just sitting back watching really. Don't be too hard on them. The ones that were concerned you were moving too fast seem to be basing their doubts on your past experiences. It's funny, but both groups, your defenders and the worriers did what they did because they care about you and what happens to you.

I figure you are going to do what you want to do, no matter what anyone tells you. I'm pretty much the same way. The only thing I'll say, is keep your eyes open, see what you are going into and have fun with it.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 12:44 pm:
Daph, I totally get what you're saying, and I hope I tried to convey my appreciation for both the defenders and the worriers. Truth be told, I love everyone here (and everyone who used to be here). My past experiences are, in fact, good reason to worry about me. But I am not that guy any more.

And I am going to do what I think is best for me. That means that I'm going to be moving forward in a positive direction with, as you said, my eyes wide open. I know that people worry for me. They don't need to. I'm fine. Everything is ducky.

sexyariesgirl 59F

6/1/2006 3:35 pm

You know, it's wonderful and terrible at the same time to have people who love you and care for you so much isn't it?!?!? lol We all have our own speed...we all have our own "internal guide" if you will. And you know....sometimes we DO get hurt...but you know what?? In order to NOT be hurt you have to NOT LIVE! Enjoy yourself's part of what life is all about! I'm gonna throw your own words back atcha now darlin...take care of YOU first! The rest will follow in due time.

Power To FOK

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
6/1/2006 3:50 pm

Under construction... imaginary... seriously... I'm confused.

But hey, if it works for ya, wanna send some imaginary women my way? Eva Longoria looking types?

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:01 pm:
You should imagine whoever you want to reject you, Loyal. Saves time.

Heh. (Why am I dogging you? Sorry.)

jadedbabe78 107F

6/1/2006 4:14 pm

It's always understandable to have one person you're dating that you like more above any other. It happens. So, why not talk about it.

Keep doing what you do best...which is ramble on and make us all confused .


Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:02 pm:
Thank you, Jadey. I confuse you? Really? Sigh. But it IS an easy thing to do, you know.

spinmedown 50M
3626 posts
6/1/2006 4:52 pm

A man with a plan. Sounds good.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde

Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:03 pm:
So far so good on the plan. Welcome, Spin.

rm_truedom2 57M
663 posts
6/1/2006 4:54 pm

I'm not even going to comment here because I've never had any issues with you doing the things you felt like you needed to do for whatever reasons you need to do ...not post....damn-it

Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:03 pm:
Thanks for not commenting...heh.

EroticaXTC 51F

6/1/2006 5:14 pm

Well, I definitely missed something...maybe that's a good thing..because I have absolutely nothing wise or opinionated to say to this post other than...

Let's talk about You!!!

Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:04 pm:
It's like heroin for a narcissist....

Smooth_GaL 35F  
424 posts
6/1/2006 6:08 pm

Do what ever you need to do just know end of the day I can only hope the best for you... *Promises not to worry too much or read too much into you **** Just can't help it as ure a nice decent guy



Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:05 pm:
Thank you for being so sweet, smooth.

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
6/1/2006 9:25 pm

"I mean, seriously, you don't seem to have a problem with me getting out there, and yet you seem to have a problem with me finding someone I like when I do."

I have to agree with your statement. I never got in the middle of that last post because you're a big boy and can make your own decisions. I never judge. I just want you to get out there and have fun and that's exactly what you're doing.

Seriously_Real replies on 6/2/2006 5:07 pm:
The only problem, of course, is that being a big boy isn't particularly the best thing for me sometimes....but I do have good optimism.

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