An update on the night  

Seriously_Real 49M
1458 posts
5/29/2006 11:09 pm

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An update on the night

3 p.m. -- meet The Lawyer at Caribou. It was like talking to myself, in a way. She is me in so many ways, but so different in so many others. She has had a run of hard luck that no one I have ever met can touch, really. And yet she is resilient....and hates being told that. It gives people permission to put her on a pedestal and not support her, she says, and I so get that. It was three effortless hours. About her: she smokes (a big plus in the world of that "regular" dating place); she is a great great great great wow what a kisser good kisser, right there at Caribou -- go figure. With her, no topic is off limits, so there was a no holds barred, the whole damn sordid tale(s) telling right there -- and she didn't bat an amazing eyelash. She sings! And we're going to do karaoke alot. She's a writer and performer. In short? She's perhaps me with boobs and the necessary female parts....good thing I'm a narcissist. I told her that I kinda was wishing I didn't have another date (yes, of course I told her) tonight, but she just wished me luck on the date with a wink. I told her to shut the fuck up.

6:30 p.m. -- Met The Teacher (finally!) after days of hit and miss. Of course the place we were going was closed, so it was Plan B on the fly. We talked about kids, exes, getting past the shit and moving on. She's honest enough to admit that she's not quite over her last BF, but is glad that I'm happy with where I am. The concert was good (Rob Thomas), but we left early because she had to pick up the offspring, so we missed the oncore. Meanwhile, in the middle of the show, I get a text from The Lawyer -- "Hope your date is ugly, boring, and sleepy." I knew it was coming -- after all, she's me and that's exactly what I would have done. I couldn't respond, of course. As for the Teacher, it was a little awkward body languge at the show, and saying goodnight it was just a peck? I went in again for more and just a peck again. Hmm, I said. That's about what I expected. About her:She is a distance runner, and was wearing a miniskirt she warned me would look like a teen prostitute. Well, it didn't, but damn already. She has .natural red hair the color of copper, and it is long and healthy. Soft, even. She has green eyes that are impossibly open, too. Why the physical rundown? Because that's largely what I remember. That and the fact that she's not over the BF yet....

10:45 pm. -- So I of COURSE call The Lawyer when I get done with The Teacher. After all, she lives just a little bit away from me, and I suddenly had alot of night left....she answers. She said she was in her PJ's and just turned out the light. I tell her that I can call her later tomorrow, but she said "Umm, Seriously? I answered the phone, you know. I had it right here by the bed."

"You knew I would call, didn't you?"

"Well, you knew I'd text you in the middle of the concert, didn't you?"

(both) "Yeah."

She asked what the plans were for the rest of the night. I tell her I have no plans and am still out and may go find something to do. She said that I could come by if I wanted. I didn't hesitate, because at this point she knows anyway. She gave be directions (I know that part of town pretty damn well), and I was there in 10 minutes.

I got home about an hour ago, at 1 a.m.

In the meantime, there was (duh) conversation about the bizarreness of the day and meeting yourself (her words, not mine). There was discussion of the "state of things" with each of our lives, and so on. There was discussion of the need to date other people, but an acknowledgement that, well, sometimes things don't go as planned that way.

We resolved to remain casual, open, honest, and ready for whatever. Because really, in the end, isn't that all you can ask for?

One thing I do know: I do not want to fall for her. I do not want to push it. And I do not want to stop seeing other people.

And this will be my stance until I cannot maintain it any longer, kicking and screaming, fighting it every step of the way. Because my pattern is to fall for the first one that gets through and gets to my mind, regardless of what else there is there (or not there). Because my pattern is to seek validation by the affection of people I admire, rather than knowing that I need no such validation to be whole. Because my pattern is to jump to lily pads, usually without looking closely to make sure they are lily pads and not leafs. Bye bye pattern.

Still, I like the promising start. I like that I know my patterns. I like that I'm breaking them.

Hell, I like my life.


PurplePeach72 45F  
9199 posts
5/29/2006 11:19 pm

Jumping up and down on Seriously's blogville bed, shouting, and hollering "Woohoo, way to go, you go big guy"
So glad to hear you had such a great multiple date in a night experience. And love the attitude, she sounds like a good friend and an even better lover. I thrilled for you! {=}LeeAnn
I hope this doesn't mean you're dumping me for Blogprom..pout...ok roll over so I can finish your massage while you tell me the good details, don't you dare fall asleep on me without the end!hahah{=}


MoonRise9 59M

5/29/2006 11:28 pm

That was fast. Maybe I should move to Atlanta.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
5/29/2006 11:54 pm

Sounds like fun! Yea!

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

JustaSeeker 107F

5/29/2006 11:56 pm

Hurrah for recognizing patterns.

rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
5/29/2006 11:57 pm

Oh great, a female you. lol
Glad you had a great night. Hopes that each successive is as good or better.
If not.... onward and forward.
goodnight, ger

Smooth_GaL 35F
424 posts
5/30/2006 12:06 am

Sounds like you had a great time... Like the female version of you heheh You do make sense about not rushing into things better not do so as most of the time it's pointless.. Do give us more details


bulging_boy 50M

5/30/2006 1:36 am

So you're saying you just talked?

Yeah right!

You're soooo not serious!


EroticaXTC 51F

5/30/2006 3:35 am

You know, I married myself(with a penis), LOL...and it was great, neat, all the similarities...until I started seeing him as all of my traits magnified ...and the more I saw, the more of them I weeded out in myself....until I saw him and realized how glad I was that I wasn't so much like that anymore....not that he was a bad person or anything,
Glad you had some success and some fun!!! And it's good that you know what you want to be doing.

sexyariesgirl 58F

5/30/2006 4:56 am

So glad it was a wonderful day! (and

Power To FOK

countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
5/30/2006 5:06 am

I'm still waiting for an experience like this. Nice to know that it can happen.


southrnpeach333 51F

5/30/2006 6:18 am

Glad you are out there and having fun.

TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
5/30/2006 7:02 am

What a great night- so cool to share it all with us! Keep going with the patterns you are breaking. Life is full of surprises, see? I'm happy for you

Mermaidslut 51F

5/30/2006 9:51 am

.... you ARE suh a HOTTIE! The girls will be squirming to get a chance to have a date with you.. unless I was there


rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
5/30/2006 1:06 pm

    Quoting bulging_boy:
    So you're saying you just talked?

    Yeah right!

    You're soooo not serious!

Kiwi, you have to realize, they are both LAWYERS! Talking is all they do.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

bulging_boy 50M

5/30/2006 3:21 pm

    Quoting rm_DaphneR:
    Kiwi, you have to realize, they are both LAWYERS! Talking is all they do.
Lawyers also screw people.

I'm guessing they're both good at it!


rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
5/30/2006 5:09 pm

    Quoting bulging_boy:
    Lawyers also screw people.

    I'm guessing they're both good at it!

Okay Kiwi, answer me are they to decide which one will take it up the ass? Because you know they are both used to being on the giving end of said screw.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
5/30/2006 7:47 pm

Well this is fun. I'm trying to remember my favorite lawyer joke. It's hard cause there are SO MANY.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

jadedbabe78 107F

5/30/2006 8:39 pm

Sounds like you're doing alright with the whole dating process.

Good for you.

Ummm, granted, you may have been exhausted when you wrote this..but...ummm.....oncore(encore)? Some typos....rebellion or just too elated to care?



TripleHARD3 58M

6/1/2006 1:29 am

believe it or not my is' r jealously jaded....

TripleHARD3 58M

6/1/2006 1:32 am

or was that a seriously real freudian quip?

Seriously_Real replies on 6/1/2006 6:49 am:
tell me about your mother....

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