Quality Of Life  

Serenely_Yours 118
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9/2/2006 9:03 am

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10/13/2006 11:58 pm

Quality Of Life

I met an ex-classmate the other day at the train station. I almost could not recognise him as he had lost much weight. I learnt that he has sunken into depression and has been seeing a psychiatrist. His child had contacted a terminal disease and might not be living till the end of this year. Worst of all, his wife had rejected him due to his inability to work because of his depression. He had been chased out of the house. Currently he stays with his parents. He only get to see his child when the child had to go to the hospital for checkup. A man with the saddest gaze and had no money to top up his transport card. He did not asked me for help but out of goodwill, I helped him to top up his card. He had no plans. He could not get on with life without medications. He asked me, " What am I going to do with my life? My wife wants a divorce and my child is dying... My life has been fucked up for the past one year and Im still fucked up."

Im sure his psychiatrist, psychologist or counsellor had advised him or tried to assist him with ways to improve his life. But if he does not have the will, he would not be able to find his way. What quality of life would he get then?

My last words to him were, "No matter how hard life can be, do not give up hope. You have to find that faith and the power to live. Every aspect of life is a challenge and a test. If your wife is not going to reconcile and your child may die anytime, it is still not the end of life. Whatever that is going to be lost, it would be gone forever but we needed to cherish whatever that we have now, which is our own life."

I gave him my contact and I hope that I did not make a mistake for doing that. I told him to call me if he needed a friend to talk to. Most importantly, I pray that he would not think of ending his life.

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rm_sbby123 45F

10/13/2006 10:51 pm

I think you do the rite thing. very kind of you.

EyeOfTheTiger88 51M
745 posts
10/12/2006 1:44 am

tats really sad.. i hope the advise u gave him will enable him to find hope in adversity. u did the rite thing and was a very nice gesture.

God Bless Him..

solidandwide 55M

9/4/2006 1:46 am

You did the right thing. You are a wonderful woman. Every person deserves the right to dignity, and to not die alone and unloved. God bless you!

Malespicies38 46M
247 posts
9/3/2006 3:20 am

you sure are a very nice person. Well...although we can offer any helps to the person. However, one has to reply and depends on his own will and enthusiasm.Relatives or friends can only be there to offer emotional or financial suypports but not forever. You should aware of my situation as well. I still couldn;t get over it but I choose to live on and strugles. I occupy my time by working and make myself tired and fall to sleep. I guess no one can help the most but ourselves. Thankfully I still have 2-3 friends be there.

rm_ff2max 52M
54 posts
9/2/2006 10:58 pm

You are most thoughtful.. I would do the same..

Life can be very beautiful.. if there are nice people around us...

rm_edwhoo 44M
88 posts
9/2/2006 8:54 pm

Well,at least u try ur best right.Fate is unpredictable but yet among the millions of people both of u still met and talk about the problem he is facing right now.Maybe God wish that u play a part of salvaging his soul ,that is wat friend is for.
Cheers n Have a Good Day

sassybelle21 33F  
13313 posts
9/2/2006 5:42 pm

That's very kind of you and I hope he's going to stay strong

baby_fat_femme 34F
214 posts
9/2/2006 12:08 pm

I can more or less understand the shit he is going through, and yup hope is something no one should ever give up. I don't think you made a mistake giving him your number, cos I believe that everyone is connected to everyone else for a reason. Maybe your meeting with him today is to show him the light in all his darkness! I'll keep him in my prayers.

rm_Blinded1969 40M
916 posts
9/2/2006 9:52 am

oh well... maybe he can talk to me.... i was once a patient too... i was too emotional after the death of my ex. One thing you need to be is to be strong, anyone and evryone can talk to you abt it but the inner strength and beliefs comes within yrself To your friend all the best! Nothing is impossible..

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