What's sensual to you?  

Senseyoualize 53M
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3/24/2006 2:47 pm

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3/24/2006 9:46 pm

What's sensual to you?

In this latest round with AdultFriendFinder, I've been searching for partners that understand the kinds of sensuality I enjoy. My last partner and I were so in-tune we were able to and bring sex to a level that neither of us had ever experienced before. It focused around the ability to enjoy the moment, without focusing on any necessity to reach orgasm. Mind you, we always DID come, but on the process toward orgasm, we developed the ability not to strive so hard to reach it. And we also found some amazing ways to feel good even after orgasm.

I realize now how special this ability was. I've asked a number of people if they've ever considered the idea of not focusing on getting to orgasm while being "serviced" by their partner. All have said, "No," while eyeing me suspicously.

And I can understand why. I mean, for a lot of people, sex is about ego. Most guys want their partner to come from whatever ministrations they're providing - and if she doesn't, they feel bad about it (though often, lesser men blame the woman). It is equally a charge for a woman to bring off a guy. So if your lover is simply enjoying the hell out of whatever you're doing, but not coming, there can be a bit of a problem there.

The main reason this even came up with my most recent lover is that I always have had a hard time coming from oral sex. It typically take so much effort that it really isn't enjoyable to me if the focus is on orgasm. I explained this to my lover - who happened to love sucking cock - I told her that I loved the feeling and could go with it forever, but she shouldn't expect it to make me come. With that out in the open, she thanked me for being honest...and from then on, she relaxed a lot more with sucking me - since she knew she was pleasing me, but didn't have to try to make me come. She even developed a raft of new ways of pleasing me with her mouth since she felt she could take her time...that I wasn't laying/sitting/standing there wanting her to get me off.

The experience opened doors in how I went down on her...and how we fucked. Time was thrown out the window. The idea became to last as long as possible and our lovemaking sessions stretched into the hours as we played with each other in our gentle, passionate way. We'd alternate fast and slow fucking...sometimes changing from fucking to something else - like me going down on her...or her on me. Soon after starting this, out of the blue, she became multi-orgasmic...something she'd never been before. She even, for the first time, started ejaculating with some of her orgasms.

My orgasms, when I could hold back no longer, were mind blowing. I'd never felt anything like it before. This was sensuality - focusing on the feelings right now and not on that brass ring at the end.

I'd love to hear other's experiences with sexual Ah-Hah's in your life. This one changed forever the way I view and prefer sex. The days of the quickie pretty much disappeared after this realization!

Darkpassion 58F

3/24/2006 4:37 pm

Very eloquently put. The Tantric experience is what I long to share with a partner. Still looking and hopeful.

rm_metalmama69 43F
3878 posts
3/24/2006 5:38 pm

" I've asked a number of people if they've ever considered the idea of not focusing on getting to orgasm while being "serviced" by their partner. "

It is amazing when you just get lost in the moment. No time or space, nothing else matters or exists, two bodies and souls as one floating in subspace.

My orgasms during sex were almost non- existant until I met the one man who could make my eyes roll back in my head. hehe! He takes his time, he makes love to every inch of my body, we are totally in tune with one another physically, mentally and emotionally.

If you have trust in your lover and are totally comfortable with them anything can happen! You are only limited by your own boundries, that is IF you have any!

rm_metalmama69 43F
3878 posts
3/24/2006 6:57 pm

I was never multi-orgasmic until he came along too! It is amazing what being totally free can bring to sex.

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