Ads for guys 101  

Senseyoualize 53M
13 posts
3/23/2006 4:11 pm

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3/24/2006 9:26 pm

Ads for guys 101

As mentioned in my first post, I have a very good friend who I met via AdultFriendFinder in the past who is currently looking for a new lover since I was unceremoniousy transfered to KC. She and I are still great friends and she is letting me know a bit about the guys who are sending her messages.

Now, I've seen a number of places online outside of AdultFriendFinder where guys complain that this place is full of fakes and they never have had luck here. Since I've had lots of luck here, I contend that this is likely because of one or more of the following:
1) Their ad sucks
2) Their approach to women sucks
3) They never read the woman's ad in the first place to see what they desired
4) They have unrealistic expectations

Look, I'm an average looking guy with a receding hairline, glasses, and am even part of an open marriage - lots of strikes against me! Still, I've been privileged to meet 6 women while I've been an active member here - I likely could have met more but once I became friends with one, I stopped searching until I was no longer an object of her desire. One of those women was what I would call a perfect match - we were friends for 2 years. Only a job transfer split us apart. Am I screwing a new woman every weekend? No...but that has to do with #4 above.

But let's start with #1 - guys...while you may be interested in a woman who simply puts "I want to fuck someone now" into her profile, you are unlikely to impress a woman by putting the same into yours. I'm sorry to inform you that there are precious few (real) nymphomaniacs here on AdultFriendFinder. While you should be honest in your ad, give some information about you, about the time you have available, do you want just no-strings sex or is a relationship an option? Fill out the extra questions - it shows you are making a modicum of an attempt at trying to show a prospective partner what you are interested in. Have fun with it! The questions are actually quite fun...

We're a visual society! Don't, don't, don't put a picture of your goddamn cock as the main shot. If you must, you can put it into one of the secondary shots - but guys, women need to be attracted to YOU, not your cock if they're going to fuck you. Think about it - you do like pictures of a pussy...sure...but you still want to know what she looks like before you're going to make a date, right? So make your initial picture a CLEAR, current image of you - probably waist-up. Make it recent. Wal Mart sells digital cameras for $29.95 that will do the job. Lose the grainy web cam images of you looking at your monitor with a slack mouth. Not sexy, or even slightly interesting.

Don't want your picture broadcast all over AdultFriendFinder-dom? Okay...that's understandable. But have a clear image of you that you can offer to a woman who likes your profile. Just be ready to accept it graciously if she turns you down after seeing the picture - that's something you just have to deal with if you're going to do things this way.

Smile in the picture, guys. I've seen so many horrible grimaces, frowns, surprised looks...its astounding you'd put those things in a profile in an attempt to lure the opposite sex to you. Bottom line, women are here to find someone to have a good time with. Good times means smiles.

OK - go out and work on your profile. I'll talk about #2 in my next post. And boy, do you guys need work there...

rm_metalmama69 43F
3878 posts
3/24/2006 5:49 pm

AMEN, Brother!

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