Secrets733 44F
224 posts
1/19/2006 2:08 pm

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Why is it that people always want what they can't have? (I'm specifically talking about myself) My life is going so well right now. I've received a pat on the back at work. My husband is finally being sweet to me again. (except for sex, which I am still confused about) He makes sexual inuendos like " Hey baby did you say you needed some sausage?" Then? nothing happens. Why does he tease me like that? I know I could have sex with him if I asked him for it but I guess I just want to be wanted... maybe by someone else other than my husband..to be lusted after...

Besides being lusted for...I have everything I've been wanting. So why do I want more? Why am I being a selfish, spoiled little princess? Why am I unsatisfied today? Even if I were to get lucky with hubby tonight I don't think that would change my mood, which I can't justify feeling this way today because I have everthing I need in my life. Do I like to be sad? Maybe I am "one of those" people, who like to be sad and to wallow in my own sadness. Maybe I want to be sad just for today.

Tomorrow will be another day

caressmewell 54F

1/19/2006 3:49 pm

Good luck..

rm_phoundrx7 40M
340 posts
1/19/2006 4:08 pm

Ok, why the sexual torment? Just jump him. He's probably waiting for it, unless he's been giving you the brush-off in bed too.

No, you're not being selfish, but it is natural to want more, especially when everything looks so good right now. We always say, "things could always be better." So when they are better, well, we want more, instead of sitting back, and appreciating it.

But, one little thing. If the sex isn't living up to your standards, you aren't getting everything, obviously. Sex makes up a good chunk of your happiness. Once that starts lacking, other things are used to fill in the voids.

An idea, do you have a dildo? If so, try masturbating in front of him with it. Give him what he's been giving you, and see if he responds.

curiouslysweet9 46F
9 posts
1/19/2006 4:28 pm

Secrets....OMG Can I ever relate to this scenario! I feel the exact same way. Some of my friends tell me that it is because my relationship has grown predictable and I long for the sneaking around that I once had in past relationships. For 3 hours while we are out my boyfriend will act like he is going to totally rock my world when we get home. We get home and he quickly dozes off on the couch. I have exes wanting to hook up sending me messages all the time. While I don't want to stray and hurt the one I love, the attention is thrilling from others. An ex had me so wet and wanting the other night that if he had been in town I know I would have gone and met up with him. Then would I have been miserable later? I too wonder if my mood would change if my lover would return to the wanton activities we once knew. Take care of yourself and if you come up with any ideas on how to remedy the situation...please share. Best of luck to you...Sweet

mailmantrouser2 55M
534 posts
1/19/2006 4:54 pm

Just because you want somebody to lust for you, why does that make you a selfish spoiled little,princess. Maybe you are a little princess, but you are not selfish to want to be wanted. You obviously have sexual needs that are not met and you are looking outside to have them satisfied. You feel that asking hubby for sex turns you into a slut? A whore? Is the sex withhim ever any good, even after you had to ask him for it? Why don't you read the fantasies in my blog (Oralman) and tell me what you think . . .


rm_art_persists 53M
1789 posts
1/19/2006 4:56 pm

maybe you're deeply unhappy....

bornfreaky77 41M
3 posts
1/19/2006 5:08 pm

I put a post today similar to what you are saying. I questioned my sex drive. I think we have alot in common. My wife doesn't get it. I have a huge appetite for lovin. I have got to get satifaction and that's why i'm looking here for discreet fun.

rm_workin_gal22 34F

1/19/2006 5:50 pm

I know the feeling, I got everything I could ever want, I got some great kids and great future step kids, I'm getting married in March to the perfect man in my eyes, and on top of it all, I'm pregnant with another baby, due in the beginning of august, but still there always feels like there's something missing. My man makes me feel wanted, he tells me every day how much he loves me and how beautiful I am but I still always feel like there's something missing.

So, no, you arent the only one who feels like that, and I bet you there is alot of people out in this world and even on this site who can relate with how you are feeling, just for some reason they dont like to talk about it because they think something is wrong with feeling this way, but you shouldnt be ashamed with how you are feeling.

marriedinspokane 38M
5 posts
1/20/2006 9:49 am

It's very sad that our marriagess don't fullfil all of our needs, but it's the way it is. I think thats why we are all here.

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