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Secrets733 44F
224 posts
5/31/2006 6:49 am

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7/20/2006 3:26 am

Now hiring...

If I were Donald Trump I would call all of my so-called girlfriends into the boardroom for one huge firing...I would love to say "YOUR FIRED!" and exactly why.

One friend is a backstabber snob who I'm always feeling that I have to compete with. I somehow wound up in an office lesbian non-sexual love triangle with her and another friend. Well, would that then be more accurately called a "friend triangle"? Anyway, it ended up being a big mess because one girl was jealous that I was friends with the other girl and I ended up quitting that job I just could not take the drama anymore!

My second friend of many years admits to me that she has had 2 affairs with married men and doesn't plan to stop anytime soon. Should I be worried that she had previously told that she finds my husband attractive?

I try to stay away from these friends these days...It's hard because once I had thought that those girls were really cool. I'm mad at them for, well? not being cool...

So now, I'm hiring a new best girlfriend. Someone who drinks a little, hopefully athletic (but not a jock), and likes to shop. Someone who IS COOL.

Guy1378Fox 47M

6/1/2006 8:15 am

The end of a relationship is always hard.It doesn't matter who ends it or what the reason is. It is still hard.
It does sound like they are people you do not need in your life. You should not feel like you are competing with a friend. You should be on the same team. You should not have to worry that your friend might be after your husband. A friend should be someone that you know you can trust.
As far as looking for new friends, I would suggest going out and doing the things you enjoy doing with other people. The new relationships will probably find you when you are having fun rather than looking.
good luck.

JudeL5 47M  
1595 posts
6/3/2006 11:42 pm

I'll have to change the "gender" box on my resume before I apply

It's tough, but I have found that relationships are dynamic, just like people change. What you needed (or thought you needed) from a friend at the time is no longer what you need now.

florallei 100F

6/13/2006 9:16 am

Hello Secrets,

I am really getting a sense of the type of woman you are. A woman of principles and integrity. I am sure you have many other fine qualities...In my life I have had the honor (blog - Friendships) of knowing unbelievably terrific and loyal and confidential friends...I have lost one to cancer and the others are scattered all over the country...I miss them dearly...
It is really true that to find one TRUE friend one is indeed blessed! So many today are what you would call Fair weather friends, which implies only when times are good they want to be with you but when storms of life comes they disappear or are unreliable...
Yes it is time to HIRE NEW LOYAL and CONFIDENTIAL friend or friends...

Secrets733 44F

6/13/2006 6:19 pm


newcouple4fun88 44M/43F

7/13/2006 12:09 pm

Wow, I understand where you are coming from, I think most women have the same problem...just different things with their friends.

Good luck on your search!

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