Breaking Up is Hard To Do ! ..but not this time  

Scott_in_Tulsa 46M
1611 posts
7/26/2006 10:48 am

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7/31/2006 10:11 pm

Breaking Up is Hard To Do ! ..but not this time

I stopped by P's house today at lunch. She and I had a matter to discuss.

I explained to her that a woman I am becoming involved with ( JL ) is not comfortable with the idea of anything other then a monogamous relationship.

That isn't 100% accurate either. I have yet to promise JL that I would be monogamous, but I agreed, if I have sex with anyone other then her, I shall let JL know before we see each other again. This seems only fair and respectful and I intend to honor this agreement. The underlying understanding is that JL will probably wish to no longer see me after said occurrence.

P and I chatted for a while, mostly discussing the rest of her love life and some other issues. She's been a busy gal lately. Go P!

P and I have very similar outlooks on dating and relationships, which is probably why our relationship has been low stress and as much fun as it has been. She got a huge laugh out of the goings on at the party I attended last weekend. She also told me that some of the others there kept calling her and telling her she needed to come up there. As we compared notes, it became obvious that those calling her wanted her to arrive and see me with L, thereby generating a drama scene. The joke is on them, it just wouldn't have gone down like that. P would have walked in, either with her own date, or alone, came across L and I, said hello and that would have been the end of it. That was one of the great things about P and my open relationship, we realized that since we travel in the same circles, the odds of running across each other with someone else are considerable, and it should be handled in a mature and friendly manner.

Anyway, she and I agreed to remain friends as we probably haven't seen the last of each other, her pool league plays in one of my favorite bars on a weekly basis. We hugged and I went back to work.

That has to be one of the less stressful breakups I have ever had.

"We are all worms, but i like to think of myself as a glow-worm" - Winston Churchill

wildokiewoman 45F
30 posts
7/30/2006 10:12 pm

Perhaps P is someone you should keep as a friend and someone you can talk to about just about anything. Stressful breakups are just not kool and cause problems. Why not be adults and at least remain friends?

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