The One...  

SaucyNSassy 40F
2021 posts
1/24/2006 5:35 pm

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The One...

Do you have that one person? You know the person that you feel like you should be with but you aren't. The person who was able to do things with you... to you or for you that you would never let anyone else do? The person that made your heart beat faster, your pulse quicken and your palms sweaty everytime you were together. The person that you could talk to forever. The person you could talk to forever... ABOUT NOTHING... and still enjoy the conversation. The one that was ready to go anywhere or do anything that you wanted to do... The one that you would do anything for.. just to make them happy. You were willing to do anything just to see him or her smile....even if you didn't want to... The one that had fun doing silly things with you.

However, for SOME reason... you aren't with that person. It breaks your heart but you have moved on...
Do you have that person?
Why didn't things work?
How long has it been since you saw him or her?


Cainseviltwin 37M

1/24/2006 8:21 pm

i'm not much of a believer that there is just one person. I have felt that way twice, for sure. I still talk to the first one, though we haven't been together in years. I've mostly lost contact with the second, though once in a blue moon we'll exchange comments on my other blog. But the elements were all there, that you mention. I just consider it being strongly 'in love' as opposed to 'loving someone' .. of course there are generally both when you're 'in love', but you certainly don't have to be in love to love somebody. Both times, it was me that made the relationship stop. The first, i left for the second. The second left my life because i didn't hold on to what we had tightly enough.

lifeisablast333 55M

1/24/2006 10:30 pm

heart aches, heart breaks and true love, I have lived them all, but
life went on, and I met the Sex Goddess, all the odds were against us. 20 years differance in age, she is a city girl, and I'm an old redneck..........But we have loved each other, and we act happy to see each other at the end of the day, I still watch her sleep, she
has fully stolen my heart, and I am a Happy Redneck....And she has pretty pink spots....LOL.....The Redneck

ticktock500 45M

1/24/2006 10:32 pm words...
borrowed from a friend

Dallas_Male_35 48M
255 posts
1/25/2006 12:29 am

I met her in September of 1997. We started to date and I knew 3 seconds into the first date after she smiled at me when she opened the door that I was going to ask her to marry me.

I bought her a teddy bear and gave it to her on that date. She clutched it close to her all night long in the car. She kept it on her bed all the time.

I wanted to be a gentleman, and I didn't kiss her on the first date. She wasn't used to that, and she actually admitted to me later, that she almost didn't accept the second date because she wasn't sure if I really liked her, or if I was just asking her to be nice.

We dated for a few weeks before we admitted that we really liked eachother enough to be serious and when we finally did, it was incredible. We had actualy been friends and had been talking for a couple of months before we became intimate. We had already become the best of friends.

We statyed together for just under a year. I don't know what happened, but one day, she just started yelling, screaming and getting violent and throwing shit at me and swinging at me and kicking me. She accused me of cheating, when I had never even so much as kissed anybody else while we dated.

You know my 4 essential components of friendship and that it's necessary to have a relationship. But somehow, she lost faith, or trust, or honor, and respect at some point. Maybe she lost them in herself. Maybe she just took it out on me. I don't know.

Looking back, I think she was probing because she felt guilty and she would rather that any problems were because of me. . . but that was just not the case.

She didn't know that I had just bought her an engagement ring. . . . that she never got. We broke up that morning. I took a new assignment at work, changed all my contact numbers, changed my locks at home and on my car.

We didn't even communicate for a year and a half. I went back to the jewerly store and walked in and told them that I wouldn't be picking up the engagement ring set. They carried wedding rings, wedding rings, wedding rings, oh, and a few earrings and watches. Being a guy, I don't have a spot on my lobe for sapphires and rubys, and I didn't have anybody to give shit too, and theyd didn't give cash refunds. . . . .so I ended up buying a really expensive watch, a rope necklace and told the clerk to "keep the change" lol.

I saw her three years later. Once. For maybe 10-15 minutes. She asked me if I could ever forgive her for starting that fight and get back together with her. During that conversation, she admitted to me in great detail that she had slept with at least 25 men (she actually counted them off on her fingers and named them) since we broke up. I was physically repulsed by that, and told her I could never get back with her.

That was the last time I ever saw her.

I've corresponded with her by email a bit since then; but I can never go back.

We broke up in September of 1998. I've dated two times since.

I don't want "for now," and I won't settle for "as long as it lasts."

If you know someone that understands trust, faith, honor and respect, and knows what the concept of "forever" is. . . . let me know.

dasher121 37M

1/25/2006 6:44 am

we all i think have experienced that in life. the best thing to do is to remember and learn from that person. but live without regret. live, love life, and laugh. move on and dont look back, glance every once in a while, but dont stare. smile and move forward

LoveOralSex6 43M
22 posts
1/25/2006 9:24 pm

Sassy, I was fortunate enough to have one such person in my life a long time ago . . . We dated several years in high school and in early college. She was a wonderful and beautiful part of my life at that time and I hated that our relationship ended when I moved away to attend school. It was her decision to end the relationship at that time because she had two years left in high school while I was living a good distance away as a freshman in college. We tried a long distance relationship for a while . . . and weekend dating . . . but it didn't work. It ended rather badly and very sadly for me just before the end of my freshman year in college.

We both moved on . . . each getting married to other people about three years later. . . but I never forgot her even after my marriage to my first wife. I simply bottled her memory up inside of me, always remembering the love we'd shared, and went on with my life, never looking back.

During my first marriage, I finished graduate school and my wife also finished college. We both began careers and had a "generally" happy life together, with normal ups and downs . . . moving across country several times as we made career moves and family decisions.

Five years ago, my first wife and I ended our marriage. While I had never been unfaithful to her, she'd cheated on our marriage multiple times over the years. When I first learned of her last infidelity, which had been going on without my knowledge for several years, I finally decided it was time to call it quits. During this time, she'd been inviting multiple strangers into our home when I was traveling in my work and I couldn't stand the fact that she was putting my life at risk by having unprotected sex with these sleezebags while still having a marital relationship with me. She was also putting herself and our son in danger with these practices. We ended our marriage in a very bitter and costly divorce.

About a year later, I learned that my first love had also divorced her husband of 15 years, just a few months after I'd divorced my first wife. We'd not seen or heard from each other since we ended our relationship during my freshman year of college, because I never returned home after college, except to visit my folks. I lived in several other states over the years and only visited home for a few weeks each year. However, we literally ran into each other in a store one weekend in my hometown as I was visiting my folks a few months after my divorce was final.

Both of us were surprised but elated that we had found each other again . . . and we immediately started dating again . . . picking up almost exactly where we'd left off so many years ago. We dated for almost a year, meeting each other for weekend camping trips and hiking trips . . . wonderful weekends of love making and adventure. Knowing that we were madly in love with each other, we finally decided to get married, just so we could slow down and catch our breath. Her work and family were in my home state and mine were in an adjoining one. We managed a long distance marriage for about 6 months until her daughter finished the year in school and they moved here to live with me and my son. All during the time we lived apart, we were totally "in love" with one another. While we were frustrated at being apart most of the time, when we WERE together, our lives were perfect and everything was wonderful for the short time we would spend together on weekends and holidays.

When she was finally able to relocate here with me, we lived together for another eight months, most of which was wonderful. But the longer we lived together, the more we each realized the other was NOT the high school sweetheart we each remembered from so long ago. It wasn't possible for us to learn that during the "weekend" part of our relationship. During those weekends and holidays, the love and the sex were so wonderful and such a major part of the time we spent together that we never had time to see each others' warts and wrinkles (metaphorically speaking). When she moved here, we both tried very hard . . . Truthfully, I realize now that she even tried harder than I did . . . but it wasn't going to work. We began hating each other and wondering what in hell we had done. She didn't like my son, and I didn't approve of her daughter . . . I was a night owl and she was an early riser . . . She needed quiet to fall asleep and I needed the radio on . . . There were many things that made us realize that we'd simply made a HUGE mistake. She moved out of my life for the second time nearly two years ago. The lesson we both learned, I think . . . (I know I did) is that you really "can't go home again". I will always love the person I knew as my high school sweetheart. I also love the person I met and married after my first marriage ended in disaster five years ago. However, while they shared a name, they were two very different people. I couldn't live with the second, even though I still love them both today.

Life goes on . . . and a few months ago, I discovered this site when I found the user-id and password on an old e-mail account belonging to my first wife . . . I don't know who set it up, but I assume it was my ex and one of her "friends". While I don't think I would have EVER sought out such a site myself, I decided to take a look and I've discovered more than I anticipated I would. I didn't choose the handle and I didn't write the profile, but I've lurked here for a number of months just reading and getting to know some of the folks on here.

Sassy, your site and your sweet personality caused me to break my own rule a few days ago. I never intended to post anything on here until I started reading your blog. Something cute you wrote a few days ago caused me to give it a try. Now that I've decided to talk to some of the nice folks on here (well, at least one of them), I suppose I should probably select my own handle and put something accurate on a profile. I just haven't thought of anything creative to get me started. Any suggestions?

I'm wondering . . . how did you know what question to ask to get me started? Thanks for asking it. Hope I didn't ramble too long on your site . . . but this was actually somewhat cathartic and healing. (Did I tell you what a sweet person you are?)

The simple answer to your question is YES, I've had someone like that in my life, and it ended nearly 25 years ago . . . I don't think I should have ever gone back and tried to rekindle a relationship that ended so long ago. It would have been better to have just carried the memory of what I had in high school than to go back and find out that person no longer existed anymore. You really can't go home again. - R

SaucyNSassy 40F

1/26/2006 10:20 pm

Cain, this statement struck a nerve for me " because i didn't hold on to what we had tightly enough" I understand what you mean.

Redneck, you are lucky to be with that person who has completely stolen your heart.

Tick, hmm... okay. Thanks for coming by.

Dallas, OMG!!! Your story broke my heart! You had already bought the ring! What a stupid woman. She makes us all look bad. So, when I come to Dallas next week... Can I hug you?

Dash, I will work on that! Thanks sweetie!

Tennis, I truly understand this statement "Why hadn't he been able to tell me there was "someone" else? don't know...if he had I would have never continued what I thought was a real connection" He didnt tell you bc he was an ass AND because he wanted to see you too. Men like to have it all. My "One" didn't tell me that he didn't want kids because "he knew I would never meet him and he wanted to meet me." (His words exactly) Thank you for sharing w/ me and stopping by!

Love, WOW! When I read this I thought to myself, I am " was a night owl and she was an early riser . . . She needed quiet to fall asleep and I needed the radio on . . . " I NEED noise to fall asleep, the tv, loud box fan, radio..something and I am SUCH a night owl.
I'm glad I caused you to break your rule! You are such a sweetie. I love your comments, I love what you have to say and I love that you aren't one of those men that just CAN'T express their feelings.
You REALLY need to create a profile of your own. I will think about some ideas for you. Let me work on that.
Now, when you said, it ended 25 years ago, you left me wondering how old you are.. hmmm....


LoveOralSex6 43M
22 posts
1/27/2006 7:22 am

Hi Sassy . . . (I'm at home working this morning.) In answer to your question about age . . . I'm old enough to have known better (51) but young enough to realize "this too shall pass". I've had some great, and some "not so great" events occur in my life, just like most other people, I think. However, I can honestly say that sharing my life story on an adult sex site is something I probably wouldn't have anticipated, had someone asked me what I'd be doing at this point in time. I've read a LOT of "stuff" on this site. . . Seen a LOT of crap, mostly . . . Your story is delightfully different than most. . . so I decided to just say Hi. The rest has been as surprising to me as it probably has been to you.

I guess we shouldn't bore the rest of your readers with more of my life history, but you have my e-mail address if you have other questions. (I think that went through, didn't it?) Have a great day, Sassy Lady! - R

dmasa01 55M
12 posts
1/27/2006 10:25 pm

My answer to your question is yes, twice. The first time was years ago. We could talk forever and after i was away from her i never could remember what we talked about. She was my best friend and first lover. In fact my first true hot kiss. She could get me to have all kinds of sex and share every thing i thought and felt.

Finnaly she told she was bi and in love with a woman. She wanted me to share her and my ego was tore apart. I had never even considered a woman so into the sex we had was also enjoying sex just as much with a woman. But what hurt most was the deciet and betrayal of trust. I took a long time to allow any one that close again.

She was that lady who told me lovers come and go, friends are forever. Seemed like such dear john bull at the time. But as i grew up i understood what it meant. I are also ahead of men arent they.

The second was just over the last couple of years. She was seperated for about a year befor we met. We would spend 2 or 3 hours after work sharing everything and nothing. She often would go on about how much she wished her husband was like me so dhe would have to compleat the divorce. Typical money, devide the house, insurance reasons.(excusses) Finnaly i saw that she still had a door to close with her ex and as long as i was there she would remain in limbo. I walked away.

bigattitudeguy 54M
140 posts
1/28/2006 1:13 am

Nope. Maybe that is why I'm so synical. All the same, I'm happy and at peace.

Dallas_Male_35 48M
255 posts
1/29/2006 6:27 am

Dallas, OMG!!! Your story broke my heart! You had already bought the ring! What a stupid woman. She makes us all look bad. So, when I come to Dallas next week... Can I hug you?

It broke mine, too. . . and my spirit, for a while. It was hard to trust anybody for a while after that.

Let me know when you are in Dallas. . . Sadly, I may be in Oklahoma, but let me know. I'm not good at anything more, but I'm really good at hugs.

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