Self Control... Rejection....  

SaucyNSassy 40F
2021 posts
3/24/2006 11:52 pm

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3/26/2006 10:54 pm

Self Control... Rejection....

So, my ex, THE EX, from Dallas is trying very hard to crawl back into my life. He sent me a text last week and I managed to ignore him. It was hard but it was made easier b/c I was talking to someone who I thought was being real with me and really liked me. He turned out to be a fake. Whats new? You all know that I find the liars, I find the fakes and I find the losers. This last guy wasn't a loser. He's a nice guy but he was fake w/ me. He acted like he wanted to be w/ me but when it came down to it... He didn't. All of the sudden he couldn't meet me b/c I am married. I have been married since he and I first started talking. He KNEW that. HE approached me. Anyway, some men just like to lead women on... That's just how it is. I get attached easily so I am a sucker for them. It's hard to be rejected... We planned for dinner on Sunday night and he blew me off... It hurt but it's okay, I'll live. I think it hurts most bc I didn't expect that kind of rudeness from him. He was a fabulous actor. Some men are really good at fooling people. I am just too trusting. This isn't the first time I have ran into this problem. WHY must I be so damn nice and trusting??? grrr...
So, he and I were talking and he fell asleep on the phone w/ me. It was really late and basically unless I want to leave my husband before I even meet him...he doesn't want to meet me and take the chance on falling in love w/ me and me not leaving.... YEAH, Im going to leave my comfortable life just "in case" someone likes me. I'm not crazy. What happened to just meeting someone and getting to know them? I mean, damn, lets meet at least once before I have to get a divorce... If I fell in love I would leave my husband in a heart beat. I WANT to be happy w/ someone. If this guy hadn't chickened out bc of what might have happened and he had met me, I could have really seen myself w/ him in the long run. He was so sweet and I think that if we had any thing close to the chemisty in person that we have had for mths on line and for a while on the phone... I would have left for him. BUT, we will never know because he wouldnt even meet me ONE FUCKING TIME for dinner unless I had divorce papers in my hand. I think he should have been a man and told me that he wasn't going to meet me before he made plans w/ me and we talked about them for 2 weeks. I was led on... period. Then blown off. I had never been blown off until I got on AdultFriendFinder. How sad is that?
I have enough BS and emotional abuse at home I don't need it from men online... How sad. Hell, I can go back w/ the man I love who doesn't want any kids and be screwed up in that relationship... If I was a glutton for punishment... Damn, I am the queen of hopeless relationships. At least people usually meet me before they give up on me.


rm_bigchoklatdk 46M

3/25/2006 6:17 am

aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh......forget him!!! You're too sexxy 4 him anyway!!

jadedbabe78 107F

3/25/2006 8:26 am

You know my thoughts on this, too. And there is nothing wrong with meeting someone for the first time, regardless if you're married or not. If you go into it as a friendship attitude, not expecting shouldn't matter.

It was wrong and it was weak on his part to blow you off like that. Afraid he'd like you too much...whatthefuckever. He knew you were married, not like you hid it.

And your reasons for doing what you do...well, I back you up on it. It's hard to leave situations even though you know you want to. Circumstance prevents it. Or delays it.

You're better than him.

And hey, if you got ONE good thing out of this got me . (And sorry guys, NOT in that way!, lol.)


mrgrimshade 45M

3/26/2006 6:57 am


I would not stand you up...but what would come of it? Maybe atleast a nice dinner and kissing!


SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
3/26/2006 9:31 am

I can understand cold feet. It's easy to go overboard on-line where it's safe but to have to take real action is more difficult. But This is no case of cold feet. These are moral convictions. If he said up front, like you, I don't play with married folks then that's one thing. And then maybe you could have met, as friends, and enjoyed each others company.

I'm sorry you got hurt.

Don't give up on trusting people. Be smart and maybe cautious. You'll still get hurt sometimes, but hopefully not really taken advantage of in a way that can't be undone.

Maybe you should have the equivalent of a King's taster who eats the food first to make sure it's not poisoned. Have only the guys who pass the test be granted access to the woman that is Sassy. Wouldn't that be cool?

Hugs and a little kiss,

SaucyNSassy 40F

3/26/2006 10:54 pm

Big, thanks and believe me, I

Jadey, EXACfuckingLY!!! I didn't hide that I was married but as soon as the time and date was set he had a moral dilemma. Grr... What a waste of time. Damn...
You are so right! I have made an amazing friend here! You know I luv ya girlie!

Grim, a nice dinner, nice conversation, nice kissing is all very NICE!

S.R., THAT is exactly what I need except for I would call her a Queens taster...NO! WAIT! I hate I do miss talking to him. He was a sweet guy but again HE KNEW I WAS MARRIED! Why suck me into him just to blow me off? It sucks but he literally feels no guilt about the BS... makes me ill.

Hugs & Kisses,

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