SaucyNSassy 40F
2021 posts
4/3/2006 5:05 pm

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4/4/2006 9:59 am


I see her from across the room, she is so broken and so torn. I see the pain in her eyes and I want to help her but I know that I cant. I have to sit here and be helpless. Her heart aches for a man she will never be with. He loves her. He truly does but she wants something he is not willing to give her. He declares his love for her but its upon one condition that they can be together. She will not give up her dreams but he would let her because he has already fulfilled the dream she aches for. Her heart is still held in his hands. It's been almost a year since their love affair yet at the sound of his voice she is weak again. Her eyes are so sad. Her face so pale and her body appears so lifeless. She goes through the motions, lives everyday life but she will always ache for him, her one true love. If he would share of her dream of seeing their eyes looking back at them one day... She would leave. She would give up the life she is accustomed to. The comfort and the convenience. She would give it all up for him. She would give it up for true love... but he won't bend... he just wants her to break... Then there she is broken in the glass... not only is she broken on the inside but now her reflection in the mirror is broken and I see myself through the cracks in the glass and I'm sad because this woman is me and my heart wont stop aching.

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
4/3/2006 5:28 pm

Ok I don't want to be the one who kicks you when you are down, but if he really truly loved you he would know exactly what it means for you to be a mother and if he truly couldn't give you that he would walk away for good giving you the peace to let you get on with your life amd find what you want and need elsewhere.

jadedbabe78 107F

4/3/2006 8:27 pm

Sweetie, man77 took my words. If he truly loved you the way he claims, he would bend on this. He should want to give you the one thing you want. Being a parent is a gift, not something that should be bartered because he already has experienced this gift. You haven't and it isn't fair of him to think you should give that up for love.

It isn't true love if he doesn't want to make you complete. If you had left your situation for him, giving up this most cherished would still be broken.

You deserve so much better than that and you know it.

Stop taking his calls. Change your # if you have to so you don't have to worry about taking them. You need to let go and let the person who will give you everything you deserve. Not what the think you do.

Big hugs ~ Jadey

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
4/3/2006 9:09 pm

About all I can offer you is a virtual hug. Sorry.

ArgosPlumyKooky 46F
3902 posts
4/3/2006 9:21 pm

sassy sassy this is a poignant piece. hugz. . . and if you ask me there is a rule somewhere that says hearts are meant to broken sooner or later. . . .i am sorry the pain of it is with you right now
if you need me yell and i will be there

Cainseviltwin 37M

4/4/2006 4:53 am

oh sassy .. you make me sad, reading that. man77 and jadey have it right, of course. it sucks and it is difficult, expecially because you want someone so badly and he is a known, instead of some possibile unknown, but you have been clear about what you want and he refuses to change. Its not a silly issue that will go away, its a big issue that needs to be a factor. By not being willing to compromise, he is letting you know that a relationship with him is not the right choice. If he were the right man for you, there would be discussion, possibilities, options, not a simple "no". Here's what I think you need to tell him, as politely as you care to: The disagreement over kids is a dealbreaker, and as he has made his position clear, there can be no relationship. As there can be no relationship, the contact from him just causes frustration, stress, and upset. While you don't completely dislike him, its in the interest of your mental health to distance yourself from him, and not have any contact at least for a while.

just my 2 cents. if you want more advice, you have to pay the normal hourly rate.

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
4/4/2006 9:45 am

Be strong. Heed the advice of those that came before me. How wonderful will it be to give the love you have to someone who will return that love with the gift of life. How nice will it be to see the light in his eyes as the eyes you have created look back at the two of you. It will be the best ever.
Hold on to that thought.
Big hug

SaucyNSassy 40F

4/4/2006 9:59 am

Man77, you are so right. He is an ass.

Jadey, I'm not talking to him anymore. I know he is a selfish jerk but it's hard to resist him.

Kelli, thanks hon!

Matchie, you are such a sweetheart. Just seeing that you commented put a smile on my face.

Cain, you are sooo right on everything. Thank you for taking the time to give me some advice. You know I adore ya'! BTW, you would never charge me bc you are CRAZZZY about


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