Posit, Connections  

Sailor376 64M
953 posts
9/11/2006 8:50 pm

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9/19/2006 7:59 pm

Posit, Connections

How do we come to know each other?

We meet for coffee, a drink, and the modern word, chat. I dislike that word for some reason. Hmm.
Well lets see, during our 'chat' we likely speak of the mundane, 'How is the weather? Wow! How about those Tigers! (Detroit sports team) And out of this flow of the banal between two people we begin to define or see the other person or at least the edges of.

The limn of another. We take a small flash light or the momentary lightning flashes that come through the window after the lights have failed and we find our way about the room. Pausing at times until there is another flash to light the way. Sometimes many flashes in a row. Sometimes waiting stretches until the next small blink of light to find our way.

Yes, my knowledge of another comes in those small bits and flashes of insight. Another analogy is the small flash light. But I am not allowed to look straight at the person. I am allowed only to view the persons shadow on the wall behind. I don't even get to see the whole shadow at a single time. The small flashlight can only show me just a bit of the outline or shadow on the wall. I must assemble the whole in my minds eye.

ONLY in MY minds eye.

Ever held separate by the limitations of words. Blunt and obtuse of meaning. So what comes from my brain, is then shaped by the ill fitting blocks, is then uttered by my mouth, is then heard by an ear, and is then translated by another brain. Only by repeated and frequent description can we slowly focus in on what is meant by one to another.

It is amazing that we ever accomplish anything. Were it not for the language of math, I fear we could not.

But now that we are coming to know this person how are connections built?

I believe, tiny thread or spiderweb, by tiny thread, by tiny thread. As I said in an earlier email, had the people of Lilliput used spiders spinning cobwebs and enough strands connected the giant Gulliver to the ground , he would be there still.

So too is this post connected to the previous posts and especially to the topic of be-ers.
Okay be-ers live in the moment, the emotional moment. But are we just going to radiate this emotion? Or soak up the warmth of?

Or are we gonna do something with the damned thing!

So now we look at the micro, the strands of tying web.

A tiny compliment. Particularly when it is true and deserved.
A laugh. Genuine mirth only.
A smile.
A look into their eyes. Look deep and feel what is inside. See yourself in the reflection. You ARE there.
A word used perfectly.
An offer to help pull weeds or sweep the hall.
A touch.
A kiss on top of the head. (Hey, I'm tall, works for me.)
A million little things, freely given, freely received.

And for those too rare few, a life time of little webs is not enough and at once the hold is firm.

This is not a quick solution to anything. But mud and dung, and sweat and time grow flowers.


TabithaElectra 39F

9/13/2006 8:24 am

This is not a quick solution to anything. But mud and dung, and sweat and time grow flowers.

I very much echo those thoughts, how perfectly expressed.

Sailor376 replies on 9/13/2006 2:11 pm:
Thank you, Tabitha. So nice to have you visit. Tabitha, you write well.


ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
9/14/2006 10:33 am

*smiles*...I like the way this one weaves an image...thank you

Sailor376 replies on 9/14/2006 2:11 pm:
But it is spiders and webs! lol


__Huntress__ 56M/59F

9/14/2006 4:23 pm

Oh, but I have to ask ... do we ever really get to know another ?

I spent twenty years with a man, who was more a stranger to me at the end than he was in the first five minutes I spent with him ... and so I've learned I have to take each person as they are in the moment.

The softest wind can shatter the web, it's silken threads as fragile as a dissipating morning mist ... we are moments gathered together, one after the other and we are formed by who we were before the next one occurs ...


Sailor376 replies on 9/14/2006 7:28 pm:
"do we ever really get to know another?"

I am of two minds; To the world at large, No we do not.

To those few, so few special people that share our path for short or long times, Yes or at least mostly. And why do I think thus? All of the symbols that we use to communicate are inexact. Clumsy boxing glove mitts that handle and convey or meanings to another.

Imagine that our meanings come whole and real and true from us. But now we have to guide this soft snowball of import to its recipient. The gestures help to guide, the words form a rough textured canyon to guide the snowball on its path. The blocky words erode and damage the meaning on the way, misguide and often destroy enough that the meaning is altered.

If we have a special one , who can finish our sentences better than we can and so gently not to damage meaning. These few special people who can read between our lines just as we can read between theirs. We can know that person awfully well. Perfectly? Never. Always fresh ever interesting, not static.

The webs are not fragile. Those tiny strands pound for pound are between 7 and 20 times stronger than steel. They will hold 100 times their weight in dew and still hold to the breeze. But your concept of time is spot on. Spot on. Do you read or understand anything of String Theory? Well quite apparently you do.

Such a pleasure, such a treat to feel the tug and pull of your mind.


__Huntress__ 56M/59F

9/15/2006 2:43 am

Ahh, sweet one, imagine then two twin towers built of concrete and steel and in comparison to its weight, size and strength, an aircraft crashes into it and destroys it, then tell me that steel is not also just as fragile ...

I know nothing of string theory, but I know a whisper in the middle of the night can cause more damage then a thousand voices screaming in my ears at once ...


Sailor376 replies on 9/15/2006 4:34 am:
Good morning Huntress, Yes, steel and all the works of man are fragile and temporary. And yes, I know of the whispers you speak of and the strength of them to build or destroy.

You would be interested with this new area of Physics. The language used most often to describe is math but when words are used the describing becomes difficult. Your description of moments gathered together leading on to the next before we ..... Your phrase is both accurate and true. You may have the ability to to translate the math into words. Mathematicians normally do not. I thought your phrase elegant.


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