My Bi- Sexuality... for real this time  

4888 posts
3/29/2006 11:16 am
My Bi- Sexuality... for real this time

Well folks... did not mean to tease... I had carefully typed out a long Blog about "MY BI-SEXUALITY"
But as I went to push the "add post" button I saw silver glitter spill all over me, and the felt a cool draft from the Bi-princess of blogville wand...
suddenly my fingers were wet... wet I tell you.. some how my wet fingers hit the wrong key and all the heart wrenching, painstaking,truth of MY BI-SEXUALITY WAS GONE...

The Bi-princess is evil..I tell you... YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE... She will go at any lengths to cast the spell to keep you at her Bi-side... as her Maiden.. her Jester ..her trinket of pleasure..

So frustrated..this is when I posted the question.. should I could I..

I was going to give up....until I bowed to the Bi queen of Blog land...and she lifted the spell temporarily... so I must post Blog fast... If she approves.. a part 2 ... "My first Bi- experience"
will follow....
Bare with me... the spell is wearing down.

This is "MY BI-SEXUALITY" bare in mind... all Bi-sexuals are indeed different... different attitudes.. different reasons...This is "MY BI-SEXUAL ATTITUDE..
The reason for this Blog is Because of all the emails..
" I want you to meet my wife"...
"you would like my girlfriend"
and the best.... I will make you never want a woman again"..
and yes there is " your hubby doesn't make you happy" lol

I don't know if I can be considered Bi sexual.. I'm just very sexual... but I'm very sacred in my sexual experiences.. I need the chemistry.. the warmth.. the connection.
In other words Just because I'm in the same room with a bi woman does not mean we will connect on a sexual level.. we may talk.. laugh.. hug...even flirt.. but if it ain't there.. its not there.And I do appreciate people that see what they want and go for it at first sight... I'm just a lil slow at the connection part... (I hear the laughter stop )lol.

And for the men and woman that think that its because we are just not satisfied... sooooooooo not true..
being with a woman for me is a totally different level of sexual energy, awareness,the bond is completely different and does not take anything away from being intimate with a man.

And for the Bi-curious... I wish you luck.. I myself don't want to be a test project.. I will say take your time and make it right... a bad experience can make you miss out on a beautiful, fun, sexual side of your self.

for 3 somes.. I have learned that woman do not have to be Bi for a wmw experience.And if your a couple... man and woman.. you need to really communicate what you both want.

My first wmw with hubby was not wonderful...even though I arranged the date... we were so excited but In the middle of the act.. It all came crashing down on me... seeing my hubby with another woman... after 9 yrs of marriage at that time, and I'm right there...I was not prepared for this emotion of total loss at all, was a bit to much for me to handle, And guess who heard about it after words.... yes hubby. And the poor man was clueless... poor thang.
Yes I told him I wanted to... I wanted to experience this in our lives..but then realized I was only doing it for him... Big mistake..I could of made the mistake and left it at that... I learned.. I just needed connection.

Dammit.. there's the glitter again..I feel the draft of her wand..I will continue this after my visit to the queen.

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
6/30/2007 5:35 pm

That was very insightful you know being comfortable with someone and the attraction that is what makes the difference I think it is weird that some people think just because a person is a certain way it is like turning on a switch. And with hubby oh my dear how that must have felt you know you never really know it is funny how sometimes in life you get exactly what you want and it is not at all what you thought it would be. Hmmmm boy do I know that one! Very good read girl Later JD

seek_my_flame 41F
465 posts
4/4/2006 7:53 am

"Being with a woman for me is a totally different level of sexual energy, awareness, the bond is completely different" indeed!

I always say that there is something like a great hidden conspiracy going on when two women make love or even better, fall for each other...

Great post!

SacredStarDance replies on 4/4/2006 8:03 pm:
thank you..Conspiracy..hmmmm an interesting way of putting it..

rm_metalmama69 43F
3878 posts
3/30/2006 9:13 am

EXCELLENT, thank you!

SacredStarDance replies on 6/11/2007 11:52 am:
I'm reposting this and noticed i did not leave you a response..
so hello..hope all is well and thanks..1 yr and 3 months later

fantasylover_05 63M

3/30/2006 8:03 am

This is indeed a great post MrsMuff!!

I admire your courage to talk so openly and honestly... KEEP IT UP!!!

As you know.. I too must have connection for anything to happen! I sincerely hope you were able to talk it through with Hubby..

If you are able to talk it through perhaps would be better.. or perhaps you talking about it can realize it is not something you can do again.. either way.. if you do not talk it all the way through it will haunt you both!

I enjoyed this post a great deal and look forward to MORE MORE MORE!!

SacredStarDance replies on 3/30/2006 6:34 pm:
Thanks so much, and thanks for the encouragement to write about it

Hubby is wonderful about it.. we are very open about this subject since then.. It has to be for the both of us.

runzwithknives 61F

3/30/2006 7:57 am

Amen sister!! Being with a woman doesn't mean I don't or won't have very deep and emotionally connected feelings for or with a man. Just different energy.
I don't fuck every bi woman I meet, just like I don't fuck every man I meet.
What I do notice is that there is a bit of a different flirt that goes on between bi and lesbian woman, even when meeting the first time. A shared knowing, a shared secret...Delightful!

Great post and really looking forward to more!
(B sent me too)


SacredStarDance replies on 3/30/2006 5:53 pm:
Thanks so much... and yes I agree with all that you say... so glad you came by... Please come back

keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
3/30/2006 7:49 am

This is my first visit here too. I followed a link from one of your comments in BlogLand.

I'm glad I dropped in, because this is a terrific post. I always find it interesting when the difference between expectation and actual experience becomes known. As with the threesome fantasy with hubby.

It is a pity that you lost your original manuscript. I hate it when that happens. It happens rarely for me now, as I compose most stuff on a processer, and save it often as I write.

Blog On!

SacredStarDance replies on 3/30/2006 5:51 pm:
Thanks for stopping by.I'm glad you liked the post, and yes.... Have learned to use the

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

3/30/2006 7:05 am

I love this post!! Wonderful !!!

You touched on so many key things. I could write a book in replies but I won't.
Just know that I'm feeling ya.

SacredStarDance replies on 3/30/2006 7:32 am:
Thanks.. your comment means alot to me...keep me growing

mycin62 55F

3/29/2006 10:55 pm

I admire you for having the guts to talk about it. I really find it hard to do.

Just found your blog and looking forward to more.


SacredStarDance replies on 3/30/2006 7:30 am:
Thanks sooo much

southrnpeach333 51F

3/29/2006 10:00 pm

Great post. I am waiting anxiously for what comes next......

SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 10:41 pm:
biting nails.. but I'm gonna keep this subject up... many more emails pouring in..

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
3/29/2006 9:11 pm

Mrsmuffland...this was a great post. You really poured your heart into it. And the last part meant alot to me. My hubby would like to have a FMF threesome...and I'd like to do that for him. But my heart isn't into it...and I would probably react the same way you did. Thanks for your open heart...and your willingness to share!

SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 10:39 pm:
awwww angel.. Thanks and yes... your heart needs to be in to it as much as his.. I have had two many friends break up due to lack of communication.And her just wanting to please him... It can be very uncomfortable..

ProtonicMan 49M

3/29/2006 6:12 pm

LibgemOH referred me. (thanks, B!)

WOW. That's a very moving post. I could feel the emotional intensity you have.

I totally understand about the sacredness of sexuality. You, much like me, really crave the whole thing. Sex without the emotional connection is really not the same. I had it on occassion with my ex-wife. Yes, I still enjoyed it, but I would have preferred the intimacy, too.

I think it is wise that you recognize that you need that in an encounter, regardless of your partner's gender.

Thank you for sharing.


SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 10:24 pm:
thanks Protonic...yep... I need it all...and a bag of chips

firestarter665 43M/40F

3/29/2006 3:53 pm

Communication does play a big role when you are a couple. Thanks for writing such a great post.

SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 10:22 pm:
fire ...Thanks so much.. needed the support on this one

rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
3/29/2006 3:44 pm

Thanks for sharing.

SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 10:21 pm:
thanks for reading

libgemOH 57M/53F

3/29/2006 1:08 pm

You sweet and sexy little bisexual princess you! That's your own glitter silly! ROFLMFAO!

I am REALLY looking forward to your revelations and reading what you on this subject. Screw the wand, screw the glitter and write wench!

From your sister sweet, sexy bi-princess! -B

SacredStarDance replies on 3/29/2006 3:23 pm:
lol... put that wand away and c'mere...

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