I'm Gonna Be In Trouble  

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5/3/2006 10:46 pm

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8/25/2006 10:29 am

I'm Gonna Be In Trouble

Someone on this site once told me that married men are treated like lepers because they are posted here.

Married men, some of them seemingly BEGGING for sex because the "passion" is gone at home. The manner in which some of these profiles are written...you'd think they lost their balls at the alter! I've seen photos of some of these guys... Dude, do ya think your wife might want to have sex with you if you lost that beer gut? Dunno... just a crazy thought!

My opinion on this varies because... it depends on who it is, why they are looking, and how they conduct themselves on this site. For instance, I have great respect for the person I quoted above(don't have the screen name)because of some additional insight he gave me. I have also met or spoken to two other married men who have educated and given me alternative points of view. Again, I have great respect and understanding for their situation.

But...here's what irritates the hell out of me... the married men who write profiles and give out sappy depressing details about their non-existent sex life at home! So what??? Do you think that earns you a courtesy fuck??? AND to top it off they add a disclaimer..."not planning to change my life, just want to live a little" or get this...they say they want a long term sexual relationship outside of their marriage. What the hell is that bullshit and what makes you think that someone is gonna put their life on hold to wait for you to come and fuck them??????? UNBELIEVABLE!!!

Here's my opinion...if a woman is physically and emotionally able to perform sexually for her husband, yet she chooses not to, that indicates to me that she doesn't love him because if she did then she'd do whatever it took to please him whenever she could. Granted, I understand life happens, but hell if the sex isn't there you might as well be dead anyway!

If I were married, I would do whatever it took to ensure my husband was satisfied and I would expect the same from him, even if I had to entertain some of his kinky ideas or fantasies (within the law). Isn't that what love is about, sacrifing yourself for the one you love to make them happy????? OR have I been reading way too many romance novels???


5/3/2006 11:42 pm

You have been reading too many romance novels. I did whatever it took to please my husband 24 freakin 7 and he still cheated! So now I am getting mine!

Blue_eyes_smile 43F

5/4/2006 12:12 am

Ahh, the joy's of being single... you dont have to worry about anyone but yourself...


5/4/2006 5:11 am

HotandBothered.... I RESPECT... revenge...and I truly mean that....maybe there are some legit reasons why you stayed married, kids etc...

Lagano, here's a question: Why would anyone marry someone who thinks their sexual philosphy is disgusting and are you tell me that sex is .1% of marriage? Every couple that I know, that are happily married, has a healthy sex life and sex IS a major part of their relationship. So, I'm not biting.

rm_parysongs 53M

5/6/2006 12:26 pm

Hi everyone, I am married and have sex 1 to 2 or more times a day with my wife-I still want more I had sex once a day with a 22 year old just recently and it was great, she is beautiful and I'm glad I did it, its like having strawberry pie every night and all of a sudden you have chocolate cream pie damn thats great! But why stop there I want mocha, custurd and of course cherry pie and I will go back for a second and third portion, anyone want a piece?


5/6/2006 3:19 pm

luv u super M.

airbear85 74M

5/7/2006 1:47 pm

In of all places, National Geographic, there was a great article on the chemistry of sex earlier this year---I'm on the road so don't have access to my copy, but basically there's:

SEX---pure animal attraction and I suspect there is some of the good stuff in this too.

There's infatuated love where the brain gets a dose of chemicals a lot like a good drug high every time you see your love---which lasts a maximum of 4 years---that's when you do the sex diet---skip dinner and have sex all night (ah the good old days).

Then, if it is true love. the drug high goes away and the chemical your brain gets is a contentment drug---you are very comfortable with and enjoy your partner---but the sexual high is gone---AND YOU MISS IT TERRIBLY! Both of you, but there doesn't seem any way to bring back the "spark". Or even have really good "just sex". So people look elsewhere...just good sex helps, though NG doesn't mention this...where I am.

Of course if it is not true love you get divorced or live in a marriage of hate for security or the kids or because you have sworn "till death do we part in front of God"....

Just read where one should be humorous here---but this isn't very humorous to me...

Good blog SMRBRZ, you put thoughts out folk have to think about.airbear85

Brandnewbadger 68F

5/10/2006 4:59 pm

Sorry guys.
The author is 100% right on.
Justify all you want; there is a different reason for every man.
Whatever your "unique" circumstances (and I say that tongue in cheek) it does NOT change the FACTS.

It usually says one of three things:

You don't think you are worthy of "having it all" (a happy marriage--best friend--love and wonderful intimacy in all its forms)
You don't have the gonads to go after it (by being single for a while.)
You must believe you have a small amount of time left to appreciate love and sex. (how sadly pessimistic)

ANY of the three are simply not attractive. Period.

shooter0085 42M

5/11/2006 9:57 am

Anti-depressant drugs take away sexual urges. Every man that is married that experienced this knows what I am talking about. Doesn't make it right to cheat, everyone knows that. There is no justification. I just wonder why certain people are even on here, I thought this was a sex site? Are people honestly looking for a husband on here? All advertising I saw to get to this site are things like "Get Laid Tonight" and "Find Local Sex Partners in Your Area" I am literally shocked that someone would even post this. Good Luck to you and keep smiling!

Jabud20001 41M

7/4/2006 6:41 pm

This is ALL BULLSHIT. Married,single or whatever 90% of the women oh here looking for so called sex are all FAKE. THIS IS A SEX SITE! DUH!! DO YOU WANT TO FUCK OR NOT????

woodhammerman69 56M

8/23/2006 7:15 pm

got a thought on this,what if the wife is medicaly unable to preform with her husband due to medical condition(cancer and seizers and all the meds that goes with it)as this put a strain on their relationship, i know the death do us part, but he/I will stand by her and take care of her needs the the fullest of his abilities and always i hear "your such a good husband to stick by her, most wold have left by now..speach" but deep down im a dog and i enjoy scratching from time to time ...does this make me a bad person? your thoughts?????

SMRBRZ replies on 8/24/2006 11:19 am:
No, it doesn't make you a bad person.. just human.

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