Desperately Seeking an Orgasm/ Why can't I CUM????  

RuMysugardaddy10 48F
29 posts
9/8/2006 12:00 pm

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Desperately Seeking an Orgasm/ Why can't I CUM????

You ever notice that you read these profiles that blow you away and you get all excited...hmmm FOR WHAT? I have got to say I am now a little more discerning. I'm still looking for that off the chart orgasm. Hell I'll settle for a great one. I want multiple orgasms. My track record in the last year there were 3 pretty good ones.

Wondering if I should turn to women. I've been curious about couples as well but women. My only hang-up is I don't have the desire to go down on another woman. I have breast envy and would primarily pay attention to that. Isn't that odd BREAST ENVY!! but no PUSSY ENVY...tsk tsk tsk. Can't have your cake and eat it too...

I feel like a guy I'm horny all the time. right now I want to just get my world rock. I actually have acquired a fondness for giving bj's if there cock is gorgeous.

Why can't I cum??? I need help... desperately seeking an orgasm.


Satyr48 69M
1805 posts
9/8/2006 12:32 pm

Assuming there's no physical reasons why you can't, I have a suggestion...

Try joining another couple for a FMF threesome. You'll have the opportunity to experience both types of lovers and see what turns you on the most. There are +'s and -'s to both genders, and you should give yourself the chance to explore.

Also, couples who are experienced in threesomes will be able to help you explore your desires within the boundries of what you can accept. As time goes on, you may stretch your "allowed" activities to include things you're not ready for just yet.

A lot of sex is the fun of experimentation, so GO HAVE FUN!

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...


LadyGrayLeopard 57F
26385 posts
9/8/2006 12:47 pm

Don't try too hard...
Orgasms happen in your head in fact! If you try too hard to think about it, no way...

Just enjoy, enjoy, enjoy...
And relax... RELAX... relax...

Do what ever you need to feel relaxed: bath, massage, dinner, wine, porn film, night out in town, long kissing; the things that make you feel good, make you feel wanted, make you excited.

Better to live the situation, perhaps close your eyes and just feel with your body what is happening on you, that tongue, those fingers, that cock... all over you...

Forget the neighbourgs, forget the rest of the world!!!

Just relax and let go!!!

Sure you can try with a woman, with a couple but you need to be happy about yourself... Breast envy etc make me feel you are not fully ok with yourself.

Remember you are you, the best you there is, and be proud of it

Good luck..


MsBehavinGal 50

9/8/2006 12:52 pm

Well ... maybe your anticipating an orgasm and working yourself up to achieve that and with you thinking you have too its like your stressing yourself out and it won't happen? Is that understandable? LOL


RuMysugardaddy10 replies on 9/12/2006 8:14 pm:
Your right about that. I do anticipate it and work myself up to get it. I agree with the logic behind that. I just wonder how to avoid the anticipation. I love making love. I can do it everyday. I think of sex everyday. Have I psyched myself out?

lifeisablast333 55M

9/8/2006 1:04 pm

Dam girl, try couples, have two people work you over, you are bound to have one hell of a time.....the Redneck
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Hydragenias 57F

9/8/2006 2:27 pm

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guilty_az_cynned 35M

9/10/2006 5:21 pm

would really love to help out with your problem I guess you could call it...Im orally talented and wouldnt mind going down on you until you came then rock your world


TongueDance99 51M
2 posts
9/10/2006 5:57 pm

Hi RU,

There could be a lot of reasons--there are some medical reasons that could be at play (blood flow/cardiovascular disease, diabetes, etc), but presuming those are not the issues, many psychological and partner issues... These might include anxiety provoked by being too goal-oriented towards cumming (cumming is not the only thing that matters in good sex play), trust or comfort with a partner, partner's skill or technique (for example, women are more likely to have orgasms or multiples beyond the first if they are stimulated, touched, caressed, etc in places other than just the clitoris and/or vagina--researchers not sure why this happens, but part of it may be the full sensation experienced by the nervous system), performance anxiety, feelings of guilt or shame about indulgence in pleasure (seen this in women raised in very religious households), etc. Regular exercise can help some women more easily reach orgasm--more efficient blood flow and flow control into the genitals and pelvis during arousal. Perhaps you need a long, slow build to oral or vaginal sex (i.e. lots of foreplay may be very important). Probably the worst thing to do is to worry too much about it (vs exploring some potential causes). Have you thought about seeing a licensed sex therapist? Just some ideas and I certainly don't know enough about you to help you at a distanced, but hope some of this helps...

All the best and enjoy life,

J


cruzan57 60M
1 post
9/11/2006 2:38 am

I guess you haven't found the one to lick you like you need to be licked and made love to and touch that special spot that you want touch


lickpumpsuck 58M

9/11/2006 7:03 am

I'm horny all the time to, just the vibrations of a car going down the road gets me going. have you tried playing with yourself to find what gets you off and to find that sweet spot on your body, some women get off on a mans lips on their nipples or neck , some get off if a hand slides up their thighs and slowly plays with them. i start with a body massage and work it up till she begs for me to do her.


gdsht 40M

9/11/2006 4:55 pm

Well, hopefully you will get what you seek. But I can't say you should or shouldn't turn to women. Ask yourself, although you are horny, do you find women attractive. If a woman's touch or smell turns you on then maybe you should try, but if not, you just haven't came across the right guy, who will take the time with you, and make sure you get what you desire.


RuMysugardaddy10 replies on 9/13/2006 3:49 am:
Your right about just finding the right man. The idea of going down on another woman still does not sit good with me. But I get aroused by the thought of sucking her breasts all night *Y*. It may sound odd. I'm curious nevertheless. My friends use the term strictly dickly...lol ...\8 I do prefer a man working with my body but I wonder, could this problem be less of a problem with a woman after all doesnt a woman know what a woman needs? happyf;

flyblue300 34M  
17 posts
9/28/2006 1:06 am

Your the first middle age woman I have heard of with that problem.
I have all ways known it to be the other way around, you get a 36 year old woman to start cuming and they just don't stop. It is like opening up the orgasm flood gates.
Yea you can't get worked up for it, I get my woman good and relaxed with a good back and chest rub and move down past the clit to the legs, then the inside of her legs and work my way back up the legs to the pink O-button.
Mmmmm, makes my mouth water and my toung hunger for pussy.

...\8


lickemlow118 44M
1 post
10/6/2006 3:48 pm

I'M NOT GOING TO SIT HERE & SAY WHAT I CAN DO BUT I GUARANTEE I CAN GIVE YOU WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR


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