RogueAgent000 51M
62 posts
5/4/2006 2:25 pm

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5/21/2006 6:46 pm


So I've been browsing today, like many of you do...looking through blogs, profiles, etc...and I noticed a pattern in a lot of the profiles I visited: Friends With Benefits.

Now it's not just FWB, but the caveat of, "must be mature enough to handle this type of relationship, no drama, fuck buddies, must be able to hang out and do all the things friends do and still be available when I want you...this type of stuff.

My question becomes this, what happens when we spend all this "friendship" time together and all of a sudden you or I get twisted because one of us no longer wants to hang out in that way? We can be friends, but no more. No more "bump and grind!"

Doesn't that become a real concern prior to getting with someone? Isn't there something that always gets in the way? I've not ever had that type of relationship. Other questions pending, but I'll leave the rest of this alone.

jdocfunguy 51M

5/4/2006 4:42 pm

RA....My thoughts exactly. In my blog, I asked which is better; fuck first, then friends, or friends first, then fuck. I'm like you, never done FWB before. Not sure if the friends part is just a safety valve that women rely on to qualify guys, or what. Or more to your point, what causes the sex to end? If we have such a great friendship, why would one of us not want to keep having sex for the benefit of the other? Also, the phrase "available when I want you" really implies that someone is using the other person. Be sure to let me know when you get some answers cause I'm confused too.

RogueAgent000 replies on 5/4/2006 5:15 pm:
Something has to, or eventually gives at some point I'd think. Tough call to make...without having done the research, an answer seems as likely as my license to kill being re-instated.

absolutelynormal 57F
6563 posts
5/8/2006 9:52 pm

I had a FWB thing that went from that to me wanting more than that to just being friends with the benefits. It's weird. In a strange way we're closer now than when we were having sex. He's my best friend. He hurt me terribly but not enough for me to say FUCK YOU!

RogueAgent000 replies on 5/9/2006 5:58 am:
Weird how things turn out sometimes...glad it was a win/win for you; I hate to waste ammo anyway...lol!

titsrus2 53F
331 posts
5/13/2006 1:16 pm

personally, i think that most women and a few men are not built for this type of relationship. the more time you spend with a person, the more you WANT to be around them. one person starts to want more. the other still wants the same. i don't think they ever end well..unless someone moves, that is. then distance closes the door on all the drama.

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