No offense.  

RaytownRick 62M
91 posts
4/21/2006 5:11 pm

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No offense.


I'll readily admit that I'm not a great blogger. First, I'm sort of new to this. I do (and have) written a lot, but not in a blog. So, it is quite possible that I don't know all the rules on this site. So, the other day, as I was learning what the regular members could do, and what the premium members could that the regular ones couldn't, I stumbled upon this blog stuff. I've been learning ever since. But before I got to click on the blog link, I clicked on the Magazine link. There, I uploaded three magazine articles. I thought I'd get a comment or something. Nope. Nothing. No one cared. So a little later (a week or two) I hit the Blogs tab. I started a blog. I got several comments within 24 hours, so I decided blogs are better than magazine articles--and perhaps read more widely.
I like to write. (That isn't perfectly true, it is more true that I want to matter, and I know that if I write, and someone reads, I've had some affect on something on the planet--and that matters.) What I really like is the attention. So I wrote a blog or two.
About then, I decided to get self-righteous, overcome my own stupidity, and close my account on this site. So, I did that. Then, a week later, I came back (mostly to see if anyone cared that I'd been there, or been away.) Alas, several people had made comments--good and bad and silly and sane--but comments. That was ego boosting, which is what I supposed I needed. So, I wrote another blog. No response this time. I wondered if I had done something wrong. It is true, my blog is about me, but . . . nothing this time? That seemed odd. Then I realized I didn't really have one of those provocative titles, and maybe those that had read my blog were just plain bored with my life. Humilitating? Yes. Possible? Yes. Probable? I didn't think so.
So, I read someone's blog that really seemed like it should have been a magazine article. Then the idea popped in my head, "Hey, if I put one of my articles in my blog, would it attract more attention?" I tried it.
0 comments. None. A few read it, and left without comment. That either means it bored them to tears--which would explain why no one read it as a magazine article either--or it was so wonderful, that they read it, and immediately went out and found the first mate of the opposite sex, and made happy love up a mango tree. It is possible that posting a story in your blog is against the unwritten rules of blogdom--in which case, please educate me. I meant no offense.

So, today I write, knowing that the chance of comments has been reduced to pity remarks by someone who is only curious, not really interested. Pity me, and say so! Let me believe, however erroneously, that something I do has some impact for good or bad, somewhere, to someone.
Then, I'll know I'm not as impotent as I feel.
I'll go weep into my pillow for a few minutes, and wait a few days before I check to see whether out there someone ANYONE has taken enough pity to at least comment.
Please take no offense. I'm just griping at my own limited value without my family around.
And on the very slight chance that the story I wrote a few days ago was entertaining, or out of place, or whatever, just let me know.

willgivesex4U 65F
21 posts
4/21/2006 6:15 pm

dear sir.....writing for writing's sake and ultimately saying nothing of value will not get you many responses at all....this is a sex site.....spice it up.....tell us what you want ....what you like....tell us a fantasy..and then someone might respond for a sexual escapade.....please write something of value sexually.....I want to be sucked and fucked by a man that knows how to make me cum by eating my pussy....and I want my size 40 F tits with inch long nipples to be sucked and tugged at and pulled....driving my pussy to such wetness that I must be fucked....hard and deep and rough....now....tell me what you can do for me sexually....as far as what I can do for you...I am a great cock sucker...let me do you...go down on you...make you explode in my mouth and swallow all of your cum....then suck you dry...and then...suck you hard again....so you can fuck me...fuck my pussy babe...suck my tits...milk them...be naked....I am right now....nipples hard and pussy wet....waiting for you babe....stop writing now and undress....MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM


waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

4/21/2006 6:34 pm

There really aren't any rules to blogging. Just write about what you want to. Write about how you feel about something, tell a story....get crazy or goofy. Do what feels comfortable. Also, if you visit other blogs and post comments a lot of the time that person will come to your blog and post one.

Wish you wouldn't have turned off your profile because now I can't go read your other stuff.


RaytownRick 62M

4/21/2006 7:01 pm

Sex4U, I appreciate your response--and see the value of "spicing it up." The problem with that is that my life isn't particularly spicy; therefore, everything I write would be a fantasy. Now, clearly I could fantasize in front of others, but that would be an unrealistic voyeristic experience. Now, in truth, the story I wrote that got ZERO comments, was a fantasy. That was my attempt to "spice it up." I thought it might. But then, Lookin4Fun comments that sicne I once turned my profile off, she now can't read my former posts, which also might explain why I get no comments about it.
Frankly, I'm a little puzzled. I'm a novice on here, and certainly not very blog-educated. However, I didn't know that my old posts are now only available to me. That makes me wonder if I shouldn't re-post stuff (although that becomes sillier and sillier as time goes on.) So here's the help I need: What can you see? What is the oldest post of mine that displays?
Do I have to re-state things that stayed in a "thread?"
Let me know.
As is, I've learned that I can't respond to your comments (without joining the site) and therefore I have to respond to your response about my blogs on my own site. This, of course, means that you'd have to come back to see that I responded, and that becomes less and less likely with time.
I VERY MUCH appreciate that two people Lookin4 and Sex4U both commented! Thanks.


TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
4/21/2006 7:11 pm

I agree with waerlookin- just write whatever you feel, perhaps on topics you want other's opinions on. At the beginning you might not get many comments but as time goes on you may, depending upon the subject matter. Good luck- blogging is fun.


LilSquirt_4mfm 68M/69F
3394 posts
4/21/2006 7:18 pm

just so you know.. comments for newer blogs only cum from being on the "new posts" list on the "blog" page..it's roulette as to whether your post stays on it or not.

Now, cummon, get a grip now..let's not judge ourself bi comments, of ALL things..many, few,..good,..bad..etc..sheeeesh

Say that "willgive" above sure writes hot stuff .. . i dont chase fems, but she got me goin ... gonna chk out her blog

LilJessicaSQuirt


sideline1968 49F

4/21/2006 8:10 pm

First off -- thanks with the warning about the malfunctioning link on my blog. I'm going to have to growl at my 'regular' readers who failed to say anything.

Second -- don't worry over much if you don't get a comment. I have several posts that never encourage an utterance from anyone. (not even [blog coathanger1] )

Write what you want to write. AdultFriendFinder will approve it or not. To hell with what surfers and lurkers may think once they leave. I realize that you may feel like you are trying to impart some knowledge, but don't take it to heart if you aren't openly informed of the absorption.


RaytownRick 62M

4/22/2006 12:30 am

Alright all, I'll drop the pity act. It appears that if I beg for attention, I'll get some! Thanks to all respondants.

I did learn a little thing from this too. Everyone who commented to me, did so after I commented to them. This means, what goes around, comes around! There is also a timing issue: Folks comment more on weekends, than weekdays. That makes sense--it's easier to stay up until 2:AM on the weekend, and by that time your resistance level has dropped so much, that you'd be willing to talk with anyone--even a pitiful guy like me!

Oh, since I'm dropping the pity stuff, now write to me not out of pity, but out of sheer friendship! Who knows, I might just be the last true romantic left on the planet.


sideline1968 49F

4/22/2006 7:00 am

    Quoting RaytownRick:
    Alright all, I'll drop the pity act. It appears that if I beg for attention, I'll get some! Thanks to all respondants.

    I did learn a little thing from this too. Everyone who commented to me, did so after I commented to them. This means, what goes around, comes around! There is also a timing issue: Folks comment more on weekends, than weekdays. That makes sense--it's easier to stay up until 2:AM on the weekend, and by that time your resistance level has dropped so much, that you'd be willing to talk with anyone--even a pitiful guy like me!

    Oh, since I'm dropping the pity stuff, now write to me not out of pity, but out of sheer friendship! Who knows, I might just be the last true romantic left on the planet.
Didn't take you long to figure out the "what goes around" aspect of blogging, did it? And you may find the comments coming through more on the weekends ... But it's harder to get your blog seen at that time. Take the bad with the good ....

Still having fun with the sight Ray?


RaytownRick 62M

4/22/2006 8:45 am

Oh, yeah, sideline. I'm having fun with the site, despite the moral dilemna about being on it. It is comforting to know that my fantasies are not considered perversions, despite the guilt trip these fantastic ideas lay upon me.
You are on here a lot. I'm here because I'm frustrated a lot, bored a little, and curious beyond my ability to control myself. You?


sideline1968 49F

4/23/2006 12:44 am

    Quoting RaytownRick:
    Oh, yeah, sideline. I'm having fun with the site, despite the moral dilemna about being on it. It is comforting to know that my fantasies are not considered perversions, despite the guilt trip these fantastic ideas lay upon me.
    You are on here a lot. I'm here because I'm frustrated a lot, bored a little, and curious beyond my ability to control myself. You?
I'm here because of [blog coathanger37]. I found out last year that he was surfing around on this site. I surprised him with my lack of anger, my small irritation that he hadn't asked me to join and my demand that he make his profile fit a couple. Then, I set up my own profile and blog and encouraged him to do the same. This site has spiced up our sex life dramatically. We've been able to meet a few couples (no extra relationships, just meets and greets). We have fun here. We also have profiles on other sites ... I'm sure one of these days one of them will pay off. But until then...we'll continue to have fun and learn.


rm_sj365 57F
2414 posts
4/23/2006 6:22 am

actually, writing for the sake of writing will inded get you comments. since you've visited my blog, then you might have gathered...I write for the writing or maybe its the reading ( i look at my # of views" as more important than # of comments)...
that said, a blog is a sacred thing. write what you feel belongs here & all will be right with the world. blogs tend to find their own audience.

how do i get people to view my blog?
i think you've stumbled on the answer: visit other peoples blogs & engage them through your comments.

it got me here..it will get others here also.


rm_shaveclean2 58M/44F
691 posts
4/23/2006 12:00 pm

It's touch and go with the blogs....as far as comments are concerned. I Blog cause I enjoy it and the people in my Network like it as well. I, like you, visited the Magazine first and then found Blogging!! I think it's fascinating that my spouse and I have found different communities on the same site. I visit someones BLOG based on the comments that I read what he/she wrote on another persons BLOG..that's how I found yours. Your BLOG is good and I encourage you to continue to write it for yourself and not worry if others comment. Cause to be honest many read but few comment!! Good Luck and Happy BLOGGING

Chow,
g the female 1/2 of Shaveclean2


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RaytownRick 62M

4/23/2006 12:17 pm

To Sj and g, thank you both. I'm learning--and I appreciate you teaching. I'm an old dog though, and new tricks are pretty hard to internalize. I appreciate you treating me with kid gloves, despite my advanced age.
What I need is a renewed sense of others. When I get depressed, one of its manifestations is that I become extremely myopic. The solution is always the same: In the service of others, you'll find joy.
So, for the blogging world, this means that I should focus more on the writings of others, and allow that to suffice. When it is sufficient, I'll be addicted to reading--and writing will just be a reflex.
Again I thank you for your insight, and your blogs.


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