Melting of Two minds into one......  

Raveheart2005 51M
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7/27/2006 10:19 pm
Melting of Two minds into one......


The melting of the Minds....

We all have been there , you look or dont look, and this person out of the blue appears in your life. You now are faced with a life change possibly, and deffintly are faced with issues of the past because no matter what you do or think, the person is going to act or talk, or think, or remind you of someone you have known before.

In this discovery and time of adjusting there are several processes that our mind takes us through, I will endevour to write about a few of these things in this section.

First, in this process is the fears that arise, from all the relationships past, of remembering what we failed at, what we didnt like about ourselves, and our partners. We have mental flashbacks of fights and arguments, Of things we couldnt tolerate back then that we may have not grown through as of yet, or may have but hope they dont rise to the surface.

Second process that happens is our fears that have now arisen lead us to doubts and worrys and over analyzations of our current life, and what we can and cant be. we tend to moove into a phase of comparing everyone and everything to the past weatehr it was good or bad, We get so caught up in what if's we fail to enjoy the now.

Next comes the comparison anxiety phase, where we worry silently if were good enough, if we have any flaws that wont be accepted, will we conform to the box they have in mind, will the pieces mesh, this is a mutal stage and in this phase conversations become light and laughing or sexual and exciting at the possibilites and what ifs.....

Never speaking out right these stages but mentally transtioning through them if you or your partner is keen to pick up body language or voice tone influctions they should be able to read you like a book and know what phase your mooving into...Thats where the next phase becomes important....

You can read your partner and potential mate you can tell when they are fighting back or surpressing urges, when they begin testing the waters, maybe a playful chide or a innocent flipping of the hair or skirt if they are real comfortable just to see what reaction they get from you.....

It will happen they will push and test boundries not always out of dis respect sometimes to mearly ensure to themself that they are safe and that you wont ignore thier needs.... I am going to moove into the next part of this in My next writing.... for now enjoy the hunt and being hunted, enjoy the melting of the minds into one fun unit yes I said fun if you cant have fun in life and in this way of life, then you wont go very far in the long run....

Raveheart

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