PillsburyCodeBoy 61M
479 posts
6/30/2005 8:19 am

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After three months on this site, I’m still fascinated by people’s profiles. They’re a never-ending source of entertainment.

There’s a phrase I’ve been seeing a lot on profiles: “I’m not looking to change my life.” I’ve seen it just like that at least a dozen times, as if someone had gotten it out of a book on how to write a profile for a personals site.

I don’t get it. I’m not being facetious or sarcastic, either. I literally don’t understand it. It seems to me that simply by being on this site, by putting a profile up and inviting strangers to contact us, with the idea in the back of our minds (or maybe front and center) of having sex with some of them, the least we can say about ourselves is that we’re trying to change our lives. Not all in the same way, of course, or to the same extent. But we’re all looking for some human contact that will change our lives for the better.

This site seems like the completely wrong place to be if you’re not looking to change your life.

Maybe it’s a superfluous statement, the kind of dead air that people sometimes write when they don’t know what to say. We all do it. There aren’t any Hemingways here, least of all me. Still, if I were teaching English composition, and I ran across this ...

“I’m not looking to change my life. I’m just wanting to add a little spice to it.”

... I’d take a red pen and mark out that first sentence. It’s not needed.

Maybe "changing your life" means something other than what I think it does. If so, maybe someone can enlighten me.

007sexy40plus 52F  
7603 posts
6/30/2005 8:43 am

I have seen the same quotes. However, I am married and not looking to leaving my family for something I think is better. It has to prove to be better before making life altering decisions. I think that those who write that are married and don't wish to leave the marriage. I think they should say, point blank, "I AM NOT LOOKING TO CHANGE MY CURRENT SITUATION, BUT WILLING TO ADD SOME ADDITIONAL EXCITEMENT" Because if a man is married and miserable and is still willing to stay in it, then he's not miserable at all, he's just blinded by the lust steaming from his dick.

I am not here to put down all the men because there are women here too who do it(myself included) but I have never said that in my profile. I realize that there are circumstance that prevent most from getting out of their situations, but they need to understand that if they are here undercover and they are discovered, or meet someone who will blow their mind, their life will change whether they are looking to do it or not.

I hope this helps.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


6/30/2005 9:05 am

I have to agree with this a small point.

if they didn't want to change their life .... then they would be happy ... out there also.

By entering here ....something made them ...want to look for something .... that they miss.

But .... many say it as ....changing their lifes ....actually at the way ...they think.

We all want to change our lifes .... not by living meaning ...rather than find what we want ....which can fill more our lifes ..... make us become better persons .......

* By ... better persons ... I mean easily ... to make us have the pleasure we want ...we are looking for and also enjoy more our lifes *

You have right ... and good point

Just Me --- EAGLE KK 2005

berrigal2 62F

6/30/2005 11:13 pm

I think our lives change everyday we live. We face new adventures and they change us.

That's deep huh?

*putting my boots on*

PillsburyCodeBoy 61M

7/1/2005 6:48 am

Thank you for your comments, everyone. I was hoping to understand what I was seeing better, and you've helped me do that.

I will add, straightten2002, that I've seen the phrase on as many profiles for single people as for married ones. I'm not sure what that means, but it sort of leads me back to my theory that it's more verbiage than anything else, something that some people see on other people's profiles and think, "Yeah, that's what I want to say." I like the way you worded it much better.

PillsburyCodeBoy 61M

7/1/2005 6:52 am

Berri, you're wise. No, I didn't say wise-ass. Just wise.

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/1/2005 10:20 pm

Hmmm.. I don't know... but, insofar as I am concerned, each meeting or encounter that I have had with an AdultFriendFinder man during the past couple of months has indeed changed my life in some form or fashion; you can't help but be affected in some form or fashion by those you meet... even a stranger you encounter on a sidewalk who says, "Hi!" to you and/or responds to your "Hi!" that you tell them.


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