Help Me! I am in Need!  

Passionateall4u 37F
35 posts
8/29/2006 8:53 am

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Help Me! I am in Need!

So I met this guy and we hit it off instantly. The one thing is that, I want to keep our relationship descreet.

I saw him a couple of times and he is sooooo irrestiable that I can't help but to give myself to him.

One day I went to see him at his friends house and I had a ring on my left hand. I'm sure he thought I was married. He started to act very strange. After the fact I forgot that I had it on, and as soon has he left the room I took it off and hid it in my purse.

Unfortunately this guy does not know a whole lot about me and he does not want to know about me. We both just want a fuck buddy. Yes, I am engaged but not married.

My fiance never gave me a ring, I just custom made this ring myself, out of earrings. This ring is alot of bling that looks like a real wedding ring. I work in a real high class environment and jewerly is a must!!! married or not!

I really want to see this guy again, but evertime I call him he is busy and he wont return any of my emails. What should I do?

Do you think he is afraid? Or I might just be too big of a freak for him. My engagement is really going down the drain and I feel that I am too young to get married right now.

I am very career oriented as a Marketing Director and Graphics Artist. I also go to school part-time in the process of getting my bachelor's degree. I am not a bumm and if I want something I have the funds to get what I want. Nobody supports me.

I need excitement in my life to keep my head on straight. I am not into drama and I don't want drama. But, I am in need of this guy and I want him to feel the same way to need me because I am down for everything he wants to offer me.

Please give me your comments and opinions and help me get this guy to satisfy all my needs, because he is exactly what I need. I guess you could call me DICK WHIPPED!!!

buddhamike 107M
7006 posts
8/29/2006 9:14 am

About all you can do is give it your best effort, then if you don't succeed recognize that you don't always get what you want. So is life.

43 posts
8/29/2006 9:15 am

It sounds to me like you want the bird in the hand as well as the one in the bush. If your engagement is really in the toilet as you claim, then end it. Dont make this new guy part of a triangle of which he is an unwilling participant.

rm_skenbones33 46M
30 posts
8/29/2006 9:27 am

I think you should try to meet him in person somewhere and explain the reason for the ring. You explain the engagement to him also. The truth is gonna be the best thing you can tell him at this point. I hope everything works out for you.

KghtTtemplar 55M
4791 posts
8/29/2006 9:28 am

If you truly want to make an honest go with the new guy, you'll have to dump the one you are engaged to. If you are not prepared to do that, you can try half truths. Ask if he is upset because he saw a ring on your finger. Tell him you made the ring yourself and you are not married. (Truth) If he ask why you wore it on your married finger...Tell him you like that finger, or too many people hit on you. (Lie) Lol. If he won't even respond to you trying...he is pretty, but an idiot.
Good luck.

bvsfun 50M

8/30/2006 10:43 pm

If he's not responding, don't waste your time and love on him. If your engagement isn't working out, don't waste your time and love on him, either. Getting divorced later is a LOT more complicated, heart-wrenching, and expensive than ending it now.

I disagree with Templar's take on little lies. They grow huge fast and having them revealed is never pretty.

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