More Information Than You Want  

OcelotScratch 49M
112 posts
7/8/2006 2:16 pm

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7/10/2006 6:35 pm

More Information Than You Want

I'm writing this mostly because I have to. I found out on Thursday what the thing was that she wouldn't talk to me about, and that has us at the point of possibly watching a ten year marriage go down the drain.

For a long time, I have been sexually dysfunctional. I have standard erectile dysfunction, but Viagra can take care of that. I also have premature ejaculation, which is harder to deal with. The urologist put me on a drug called Clomipramine for it; the only problem is that you have to take it 10-12 hours before having sex. With two people as moody as we are, it's tough to plan that far ahead.

But, as I said, I've had this problem for a long time. Since before I'd ever met my wife. It's probably connected to my depression.

So, in counseling on Thursday, she said that a couple of years ago, it started to really bother her. She doesn't know why, but it did.

Now, beyond the fact that that's a pretty wounding thing to hear, I can't help thinking that that's not a particularly good reason to end a ten year marriage. We had work arounds; I've become very good at giving oral sex, as well as some other tricks. Am I missing something? Is it really that important?

I don't know, but I've been really down ever since.

LustyTaurus 49M
21253 posts
7/8/2006 3:22 pm

It's gotta be tough all around. I think patience is required and deep understanding from both sides. It may be she just doesn't want to deal with the issues any more too...and that you cannot do anything with but accept it and make your own choices from there.

MsConservative4U 42F

7/9/2006 7:02 am

donnu wot to for me now, love making is not really important, all i want now is affection

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