Words are like bullets  

Nightguy_1961 56M
3324 posts
5/24/2006 8:29 am

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Words are like bullets

In an previous posting, My philosophiestwisted as they may be, I wrote the following:

"Words are like bullets in a gun; be careful how you use them"

Right now, I'm sitting here...carefully writing this post as if I were dealing with a high explosive...one wrong move and it will blow up in my face.

There has been some recent blog posts about the use of racial slurs, particularly the 'N' word. Coming from the South, I've seen that term used as a hammer to beat people over the head since I was old enough to understand the spoken word. I know it's a hateful slur; I know it pisses people off, I'm in no way trying to defend the use of that term.

But some have said, "Well, it's just a word." And they are right, it is just a word. So I went online to see what kind of a word it is. I found out the history of the word, how it has been used to denigrate individuals in our society for decades; how it has been vilified and denounced, and how it has been turned around by people to show that the word can be thrown back in racists' faces (2Pak's acronym Not Ignorant Getting Goals Accomplished was great, imho)

But the bottom line, it is a vile word, a dead term, and one that should not be uttered for any reason. But the comment remains, "Well, it’s just a word."

Okay, so let's go with that way of thinking for awhile:

If I call someone from the south a redneck or a cracker, they shouldn't get upset; after all, it's just a word.

If I call someone, man or woman, who enjoys sex a whore or a tramp, they shouldn't get mad; after all, it's just a word.

If I call a homosexual man a fag or faggot, they shouldn't get mad; after all, it's just a word.

If I call a lesbian a butch , she shouldn't get upset; after all, it's just a word.

If I call someone from Ireland a mick, they shouldn't get hot under the collar; after all, it's just a word.

If I call someone from France a frog, or a German a kraut, or an Italian a wop, or a Hispanic a spic, they have no reason to get mad; after all, they're just words.

My reasoning for the above: Yes, they are just words...but words can hurt. Think about when someone told you they didn't love you anymore...how did you feel? Were you upset? Why did you get upset?

After all, they are just words, now aren't they?

Think about it, dear visitor..it's not the word itself, it's the intent. A loaded gun sitting on a table does no one any harm. It's the person who picks it up and how they handle that gun; that's intent.

Just my viewpoint...

©NG61 2006

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

5/24/2006 8:46 am

I believe that people hide behind their words...ignorance is no excuse to hurt someone. Like the old saying goes.."If you don't have something nice to say...don't say anything."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:34 pm:
I've always held the idea that ignorance is the only crime that should be a death penalty crime...with no appeal......

Thanks for your comments.....

micahbiguns 52M

5/24/2006 9:59 am

Good point. Like the way your mind works. So do you wanna join our play group? Bloggers Game

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:35 pm:
Thank you, but I've already been 'analyzed' by MO....but thanks.....

rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
5/24/2006 10:45 am

Well said and great responses. People say things for a reason and the words they choose to use say something about them.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:36 pm:
I've always been told that the hate comes from fear and the fear comes from ignorance.....

Makes sense to me, but wtf...I'm a moron.....

HBowt2 60F

5/24/2006 11:18 am

you can't excuse hatred or hurt with the excuse that it is just a word....words are used as amunition to divide and destroy people...they are one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal and, like behaviour,we must be very clear about what is acceptable

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:37 pm:
Those who have never been on the receiving end of such words have no idea what it is like.......

rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
5/24/2006 12:26 pm

Exactly, and so goes the saying "Guns don't kill people, people kill people."

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:37 pm:
There you go....blame the weapon, not the one wielding the weapon...what a crock....

Thanks and welcome to the Fortress if this is your first visit....

BadAssBlonde1 58F
4989 posts
5/24/2006 1:13 pm

*Steps away from the Ignorant and takes lady with her* ... Sisters stick together.

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:39 pm:
one of my ancestors fought against the KKK when he was younger and didn't want them crossing his property, so stepping away from ignorance is not an option in my blood, sorry....

Thanks, darlin' for your comments....

NSAAddict 43F

5/24/2006 1:39 pm

Nightguy, thanks for writing such a wonderfully rational, thoughtfully worded, meaningful post. Having been on the receiving end of this particular word bomb, I can tell you that it's very true that words have the power to wound someone. Thanks for bringing it to our attention, hopefully encouraging us all to think before we speak.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:41 pm:
Thank you for your words....and in your words, the key one is 'attention'...they were trying to get attention to themselves...that's all

But remember the saying...be careful what you wish for, you may get it....

To be honest, for the life of me I cannot imagine why anyone would want to hurl slurs at you, 007, hell anybody for that matter.....

wondertwins2006 44F/39F
138 posts
5/24/2006 5:56 pm

Yes, words can be dangerous, but I try (try) to ignore the comments of small minds.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:43 pm:
Good attitude, but sometimes, you have to take a stand and say, "Enough is enough"

Small minds can't deal with confrontation....


MaggiesWishes 61F

5/24/2006 6:18 pm

I saw a "sign" once that was carried by an interacial child at a rally, it read...
"Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but YOUR WORDS do far worse".
It's just cruel to label humans.
We have enough names for ourselves as it is.

Wonderful post ... truly thoughtful, Dark One.
warm huggies 2ya

PS. I will always choose my friend in need and I'm there, for my friends.
Just so you know, the choice was easy to make ... with no regrets.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:45 pm:
Thanks Maggie *smiles quietly at the Dark One reference...*

I'm not sure what the postscript is about, but I'm happy to hear that...thank you.....

honeycomb1974 45M/44F
282 posts
5/24/2006 6:22 pm

My ex husband used to beat me and call me names. The broken bones have healed and the bruises have gone away but the words still linger in my mind after all these years. Words do hurt and they are not easily forgotten. Great post. Honey

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:46 pm:
You've hit upon something that slipped by my mind...the words used by family members...

and you're right...those are the deepest cuts of all, bar none....

Thank you...and welcome to the Fortress.....

real36CgirlPA 39F

5/24/2006 6:48 pm

That is a great point.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:46 pm:
Thank you...glad you liked it...and welcome to the Fortress....

MamChelle 49F
1443 posts
5/24/2006 7:00 pm

i liked this post. Often in trying to explain the difference of hummiliation play (which i like) and being hummiliated, i say...it is one thing to call me a whore, but quite another to make me feel like one. It is the intent, that book whose religeon i don't ascribe to, says, out of the heart the mouth speaks..... i would rather my heart be filled with good and my mouth kindness than naught... but even i am an imperfect being and don't always think before speaking ...i just try to be quicker to apoligise than what i was at offending .... *hugs* c

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:48 pm:

This is something that has been discussed among several of us Dominants, both men and women. We kind of came to a consensus that the use of words, names, phrases in humiliation play had to be negotiated with all involved....just like the use of toys and such are negotiated. What might turn one person on could hurt another....


libgemOH 57M/53F

5/24/2006 8:02 pm

Preaching to the choir here!! Thank you for stepping up and saying something.

And if it continues, don't forget, still got that bat and lingerie, still looking to kick some ass!!! -B

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:49 pm:
LOL.....still visualizing you in your lingerie wielding a ball bat....


waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

5/24/2006 10:03 pm

I agree!!!!! I admit I've said some things before thinking and I've apologized. We all need to think about how our words are going to affect others. I really hate it when I feel I've hurt others with my words or actions.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:50 pm:
When I got involved in public speaking, I came to the realization that I had to watch what I said, how I said it, and when I said it....

As long as you apologized, there's no need to linger over it, okay?


rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
5/24/2006 10:58 pm

The only people who say "it's only a word" are those who have never been on the receiving end of hateful words. Well done, my friend.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/24/2006 11:51 pm:
I agree....and thank you for your comments...especially after your incident with the foolish lady who thought you were Hispanic and took out her prejudice on you....

HeartlessBitch69 47F

5/24/2006 11:29 pm

You know I agree with you!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 12:15 am:


5/25/2006 6:20 am

Another out standing post

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 10:01 am:
Thank you...just took me awhile to word it just right without running the risk of p*ssing someone off.....glad you liked it....

NGs_lady 65F
762 posts
5/25/2006 7:34 am

You are so Rite words can hurt just like the lack of them.

Hugs and Love

NGs_lady/ Lady Stee

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 10:01 am:
True....or the tone of said words, my lady......

rm_Shortdogg65 52M
672 posts
5/25/2006 2:58 pm

I don't say much as I feel it's better to remain quiet and be thought a fool than to open my mouth and prove it. Shortdogg

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 9:57 pm:
A classic quote from Mr. Lincoln...I've used that many times in the chatrooms here...with hysterical results....

Thanks....and if I haven't already done so, welcome to the Fortress...

RUNT1972 45M/44F
30 posts
5/25/2006 4:26 pm

NG, having grown up dirt poor I know the pain words can bring. Having married a lady of an abusive relationship it breaks my heart to think that family could do that to family. I have dealt with the fall out for 14 years, and still today I would take care of the problem if she would let me. Great post. Thanks NG, Runt

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 9:58 pm:
It is tough...knowing you can't go back and change the past for someone you care for....

Thanks for your comment...and welcome to the Fortress....

lacenleather2 106F
159 posts
5/25/2006 9:58 pm

words are letters put together...c.o.m.p.a.s.s.i.o.n, u.n.d.e.r.s.t.a.n.d.i.n.g , r.e.s.p.e.c.t. etc .I wish that more people would put together letters that form less hurtful words.And put those words to thought before engaging mouth.And yes , those hurtful words spoken by those closest to us ...family ...cut the deepest.Angery hurtful words spoken last forever and can rarely be taken back nor forgotten .Good post NG
yellow roses

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/26/2006 12:37 am:
Thank you, lace...and as always, good to see you....

rm_____Jake__ 47M
134 posts
5/26/2006 6:18 pm

Spits in disgust.
Amen Brother

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/28/2006 9:39 pm:
F*ckin' A ditty bag, brother.....

BadAssBlonde1 58F
4989 posts
5/27/2006 8:28 pm

    Quoting BadAssBlonde1:
    *Steps away from the Ignorant and takes lady with her* ... Sisters stick together.
Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/25/2006 2:39 am:
one of my ancestors fought against the KKK when he was younger and didn't want them crossing his property, so stepping away from ignorance is not an option in my blood, sorry....

Thanks, darlin' for your comments....


Several of my ancestors fought for many things. Many died for the 1st Amendment. Personally, I don't like the word either. However, there are many people of color that use the word loosely. I don't know what started all of this, but I would rather spend My time on more productive things than fighting a battle that always has the same outcome. Furthermore, there are causes in the real world that I feel should be focused on. For Example: world hunger, aids virus, the homeless, education for the ignorant, poverty; the list goes on and on. I have to step away from ignorance such as this due to more pressing matters. My Blood lines are from the Deep South and that covers a great deal of territory.

Lady Hunter and House - Moving on to another Journey - Lifes A Beach

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

Nightguy_1961 replies on 5/28/2006 9:41 pm:
No argument from me...I guess I've always had that bit of Don Quixote in me...always tilting at windmills.....


rm_Kissmystuff 62F
1435 posts
6/2/2006 4:21 pm

You get it..you actually get it!

Every holy book of the major religions refer to sound as a powerful force. It is credited for the beginning of creation. You can heal with sound..you can kill with sound. We humans..have speech as the main source of producing sound. That speech..sound..expresses thought forms..which are very real..even though unseen by the physical eye..but they can be felt.

The "N" word..when used by certain people..just as you say..is intended to wound..to hurt and humiliate..to subjugate and keep down. When used by others..of the same color..it becomes a term of endearment..comradre..a statement of.."I have experienced what you have..and understand". Personally I don't care for the word..but understand that others..such as some of the "hip hop" generation.. must work through their emotions..in regards to the word..it's history and what it means to them.

Any adult..in this day and age..who says they don't understand the power of that word..is either mentally deficient or a liar. Perhaps there will come a time..when the fear passes from our nation..our world..and people will no longer find it necessary to use such words for any reason.



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