What is a hero?  

Nightguy_1961 56M
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6/14/2006 12:25 am

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What is a hero?

[blog mzhunyhole], MOFunNOWWOW, and some others called me a hero in a previous posting. All I did was just step up to a bully and call him down on it; that's not being a hero, that's just doing what is expected in my book.

I'm no hero...far from it.

A hero is defined by the Oxford American Dictionary as "a man who is admired for his brave & noble deeds". So I don't think I fit that description.

What is a hero?

-It is the firefighter, who rushes into danger while others run in the other direction.

-It is the police officer, who faces danger on a daily basis, to protect others.

-It is the one who wears the uniform of their country, to protect their country and it's citizens.

But there are more heroes to talk about:

-It is the counselor who works with people who battle with drugs, alcohol, depression, or other demons that plague them.

-It is the crisis line phone operator who uses just their voice to try to save someone's life.

-It is the dad, who works all kinds of hours, just to put his kids through school and provide for his family.

-It is the single mom who goes without, just so her children won't.

-It is the kid who resists peer pressure to better themselves in this world.

So I'm no hero...those listed above are what I call heroes.

But there are heroes, all around us.

Who do you think is a hero?

Just curious...

©NG61 2006

LustyTaurus 50M
21253 posts
6/14/2006 1:31 am

I agree with your choices for hero NG...and sometimes being a "hero" is as simple as doing the right thing at the right time with no personal gain attached...your post would fit that description, especialy since you went the extra distance and made the effort to protect soemone you barely know...KUDOS!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 3:10 am:
Thanks LT....though I still think of myself as more of a rogue than a shining example of a hero....

TheLilFondler 34F
2576 posts
6/14/2006 2:39 am

well what one person sees as a hero isnt always what another sees as a hero.... i agree with most of Your veiws on who heros are but i also agree with Lusty... You didnt have to extend a hand to me but you did without expecting anything in return... i know i dont know You that well but you have my respect and i am honored to call you a freind... and i know it isnt much but i extend my deepest thanks to You...

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 3:11 am:
The only thing I ask is that you do like the FBI contact told me to pass along....contact the authorities.

There are others who are doing a lot more behind the scenes, but don't worry about it, okay?

Thank you, but I just did what my Grandfather would expect of me...nothing more...

mattbrim69 47M

6/14/2006 2:49 am

I agree

A hero is someone with a sincere heart and a lover of people. These days, there seems to be a shortage of true kindness and respect.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:06 am:

I couldn't agree more....I've got a post about the Code of Chivalry and how it matches up to today's society; see what you think. I'll be posting it soon...

Thanks...and welcome to the Fortress if I haven't said it before...

MamChelle 49F
1443 posts
6/14/2006 3:01 am

i think there is the potential (sometimes wasted) in A/all of us to be a hero or heroine, given a grave situation, or like in Your case when someone is being harmed or abused in and around U/us. It was an average 74 year old grandmother that once pulled a rather large guy from a burning car the year i was born...or i'd might not have been here today. It was an average Man that came to my aide the last show i worked as a Domme...yet i will never forget how he helped me to walk off that stage. Hero's are in all of us average folks. You are hardly average ...You have an enlarged heart and a working mind...*winks* and the valor of a Knight well fit to serve any Kings court...and the bravery to joust with wit and humour and candid authority. Wheather or not You feel that You are a hero, i am just glad to know that i can count One such as You....as my Friend. *hugs* chelle.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:07 am:
Thanks...I appreciate that...

longtallandcute 43M
42 posts
6/14/2006 3:03 am

Often it seems, bravery is the word used to describe the thing that many are willing to say but few to do. Likewise, nobility in this sense means adherence to a higher (or perhaps 'chivalrous') standard of morals or conduct.

So your conduct in that situation probably did fit the definiton.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:07 am:
Well, I still think I did nothing out of the ordinary, but thank you regardless....

fancy_for_you 41F
3014 posts
6/14/2006 3:13 am

I also agree with your statements, but I also agree with Lusty and Lil also. You are a hero to the people you helped protect...and if I remember right you were in the military so that makes you a hero once again. So anyway ya crack the nut NG you are a hero in somebodies eyes.

Now as for hero's in my life....My Grandpa was my hero...he always took me fishing and let me help cut fire wood when no one else would just because I was a girl. Dang I miss him. God Bless you Gramps.



Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:08 am:
Thank you...if I knew how to blush, I'd be blushing...

My Grandfather was my hero as well....

BaronessK 53F

6/14/2006 3:36 am

A 'hero' is someone who does something, anything, that impacts another person's life for better. It's as simple as a stranger smiling at someone, and brightening the other person's day. Giving someone a shoulder to lean on, and bearing a bit of their mental burden for a bit {to 'just' listen, even}. It's doing 'duty', as you see it; no matter what. It's being true to your beliefs; it's protecting others' beliefs, their right to have them. So how can you say that YOU are not a hero? The hero is not the one that gets to decide that.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:09 am:

So I don't have any say so in the matter? I like that....thanks.

PurplePeach72 45F  
9199 posts
6/14/2006 3:47 am

Most heros don't think that they are, they just say they were trying to do what they thought was the right thing. In a society of people who rarely think about anyone other than themselves, a hero is someone, like you, who protects those weaker or in need without thinking of their own person gain or safety. You're deeply admired and respected for your heroic efforts here in Blogland, and I'm sure if we asked you Lady she would agree that you are that way in real life as well.


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:10 am:
Thanks...I still don't think I'm one, but thanks anyway...

libgemOH 57M/53F

6/14/2006 3:58 am

In my book, a hero is just a person who does all the stuff they need to do to take care of their own and help others. Sorry to disappoint you L, but that means you qualify and for that matter, so do I...

It could be argued that the fire fighter, the officer, the soldier, the counselor are all just doing what they get paid to do. We all help others in our own ways and when we do it from the heart, when we do the things that make us think perhaps the entire human race isn't totally screwed, that's what I consider heroism.

BTW, think you're right about needing that backrub...any volunteers??? -B

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:12 am:
I've heard that argument from policemen/women and firefighters, as well as soldiers...I tell them they're wrong, but you know how that goes...

Thanks B

And I humbly volunteer my services to give a backrub...*grins*

Fox4aKnight1 44F

6/14/2006 4:03 am

I don't know who a heor is .....but in books they often go to an early grave. Sometimes not.....but most of what you have written is so very true .....lots of those people are worth being called heros......unfortunatly we often hold our heros up to standereds that places them very high ... when they fall from that hieght not too many survive...


sorry just a bit maudlin and off center this morning

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:15 am:
It is sad, but true about an early grave...my problem is when the term 'hero' is applied to someone like a ballplayer or entertainer...now if said ballplayer or entertainer put their off time into doing more to help others....

And it is also true about putting someone too high on that pedestal...

Thanks...and you're not off center at all imho...

rm_PeanutJackie 37F
1286 posts
6/14/2006 4:08 am

In my eyes, all of your examples are heros in their own way, and you are as well NG.

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:18 am:
Well, I agree with the first part...but I still don't see how I qualify....

but thanks anyway...

freetime648 53F

6/14/2006 5:23 am

I think you have the majority of the heroes fairly well represented.......Who do I think is a hero????

My mom, my brother, my friend who gave his kidney so his father would not die.......

THe list can go on forever and ever..

xx FREETIME648 xx

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:29 am:
Your friend is indeed a hero...I forgot to mention those who donate organs...or even donate a pint of blood every now and then...

Thank you...

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
6/14/2006 5:33 am

I agree. I had a friend who worked for Adult Protective Serivices. She was just a tiny thing. But on her job she would be spit on - hit - attacked - and called horrible things by family members who were abusing folks such as their elderly parents, grandparents, developmentally disabled siblings, etc. She rescued the abused and was abused in doing so. She and others like her are heros.

Nice post!


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:30 am:

Now THAT'S a true hero...salut....


wickedeasy 68F  
31350 posts
6/14/2006 5:52 am

my son

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:31 am:
Amen...some heroes face pain on a daily basis....he's fortunate that you're there...some don't have that luxury...


Thanks, darlin'...

rm_shannee2006 53F
3355 posts
6/14/2006 6:19 am

I can't add to your list. You've done a fine job of placing roles/people on a list that I would have made were I defining the word hero with examples. Perhaps you aren't a hero in this situation...you could certainly debate that and have...but you were a protector nonetheless and that's a quality that many prize, I among them. Protecting someone unable to defend herself is admirable and worthy of note. When I think of you in relationship to the word hero, I don't see you as a hero for protecting others. Rather, I see you as a hero because despite pain you keep providing for your family. You keep reaching out to others in need. You risk your heart to love, though you don't profess to entirely trust that process. You retreat to the shadows for your power and to lick your wounds, but you keep coming out to laugh, to comfort, to engage others, to live your life with integrity. Many people give up and give in. You don't. To me that's being a hero because you are living as a power of example to others of how to not let life keep 'em down.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:34 am:
Thank you....wow, I'm speechless...I really don't know what to say...

My lady says, "Amen!!!"...


alphuctup 41M

6/14/2006 6:20 am

Anyone who goes above and beyond to help those in need, there are so many heroes out there...which is fortunate as there are plenty of villains as well!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:35 am:
I couldn't agree more....

Trouble is, I think I've got a touch of the villian in me as well *grins*


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
6/14/2006 6:23 am

Great examples of a hero....although, my friend, you still fit. I actually think of you as a knight in shining armor.....a bit mysterious.....chivalrous....honorable....and sexy!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:36 am:
Now cut that out!!!! Or you will make me blush, and I don't do that!!!

Thanks, angel...and I regard you as a hero for what you've done...you've never let it get you down or sad...

So there...


rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
6/14/2006 6:29 am

A person who is willing to stand up for what is right when it is easier and safer to stay sitting is also a hero. Perhaps not as spectacular, but these are the types of heros that create civilization. Hugs.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:38 am:
Or how about the lady who looks at her abusive situation and finally says, "I have had enough!!!"?

Gee....I guess that makes you a hero, now doesn't it?


Thanks, kelli....

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
6/14/2006 7:19 am

a person who puts him self out to help other,joe blogs,jane doe and all of the above,

even the kid down the street who helps little old ladies across the road

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:38 am:
Even wayward nuns in Greece are heroes....like you


ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
6/14/2006 7:52 am

I have always considered a hero to be someone who at some point or another as gone either out of his/her way, be it a human or an animal and performed some type of act be it verbal or physical and his/her/it's action saved the lives of others or the efforts reduced the number of lives that were lost. One that comes to mind is the flight 97, the 911 plabe where the passengers overtook the hijackers and even though all in plane parished, they in all likelihood prevented many many other losses of life by bringing that plane down before it made it to it's intended target. The ultimate sacrafice.animals too have performed mind boggling feats as well.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:44 am:
Read about those who've been awarded the CMOH...talk about heroes. But still, those living awardees don't regard themselves as heroes...just average joes who did their jobs and nothing more...



6/14/2006 8:17 am

one that will lay down their life for yours{=}

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:45 am:
Or maybe one who is prepared to lay down their life for others....like the firefighter or the police officer or the soldier...

Thanks, MO....

NGs_lady 65F
762 posts
6/14/2006 8:23 am

You are and always will be my hero. Remember i picked the music when we renewed our wedding vows. What song did they play?

Love hugs and respect

NGs_lady / Lday Stee

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:47 am:
*smiles quietly*

Of course I remember...and I was surprised then, as I still am...

I still think I'm the lucky one in this duo...that you got the short end of the stick....

Thank you, my lady....

OboesHonedIambs 63F

6/14/2006 8:34 am

Heros are "ordinary people who do extraordinary things" under often difficult circumstances without thought for themselves. They do the right thing because they could not do less than the right thing.

Instant Human -- Just Add Coffee

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 9:48 am:
I couldn't think of a better definition...I think I need to borrow your dictionary...


MaggiesWishes 61F

6/14/2006 10:20 am

Second to a higher power, my daughter is my HERO.

Wonderful post, Dark One
but truly, you underestimate yourself.
warm huggies 2ya

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 2:35 pm:
Bright One,

Good choice with your daughter...if she's anything like her mother...

I don't underestimate myself...I just call it as I see it...


rm_Bladesong 42F
476 posts
6/14/2006 10:21 am

Honestly this may sound cheesy but I like the saying that "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition" says. A hero is anyone who will step up to the plate to help someone else.

I agree your cases are heroes but so are you to step up to that plate for defending someone who was in need as they were being harassed. Most heroes though don't see themselves as heroes as they are humble. That makes them even more of a hero in my opinion. They don't have to gloat or have to gain approval to be what they are!

I haven't known you long Night but yes I would say your a hero. You help those around you as much as you can.

~It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved!

Be Good to those around you!


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 2:36 pm:
Thank you...I am honored & humbled by your words.....

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
6/14/2006 11:55 am

o god no i'm only a hero in the cat world and my own two don't appreciate that either i've just flead them and they now hate me ,xoxo worming and nails should be a blast tomorrow but the street cats love me,

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 2:36 pm:
I will be more than happy to bandage up any injuries the cats do to you....would kissing it make it all better?


6/14/2006 1:10 pm

Still a hero to me but I just recently posted a public appreciation for supprt bu t wanted to come by to personally say thank you and how much it means to me! Kisses, Jacqueline

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 2:37 pm:
I saw the post and responded....I just am who I am, nothing more....

rm_Twister2bed 48M
617 posts
6/14/2006 1:31 pm

I agree with sticking the hero title on ya.

Using your def.....A noble deed.
I'd say standing up to a bully to protect an innocent is noble.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 2:38 pm:
You did the same thing, along with others...so you're a hero as well, now aren't you?



Mysterylady1961 57F

6/14/2006 4:26 pm

A hero is one who defends the defenceless and is courageous when surrounded by cowardice.He goes out there or gets in there and saves the day!!Or saves lives.He is willing to make a sacrifice for the greater good.He is dedicated to his cause and must fight for it if need be but only because it is righteous and he is brave,and its not necessarily a physical fight that I speak of.A hero is a kind of Saviour.Buts thats just my opinion.!
I have also looked up a few definitions in the dictionary just as a matter of interest and curiosity.It says the word hero originates from Greek folklore.It is an eminent character archtype that quintessentially embodies key traits valued by its originating culture.A person becomes courageous and heroic by performing an extraordinary and praiseworthy deed.A hero usually fulfills the definitions of what is called noble and good in hiss original culture.However in literature a hhero may have serious flaws leading to his downfall for example.Hamlet.Such heroes are referred to as tragic heroes.
A hero commonly(or unusually)possesses or seems to possess superhuman qualities which enable him to perform extraordinary deeds for which he/she is famous.
Sometimes a person might achieve enough status to become brave in peoples minds.This is usually followed by a rapid growth of myths around the person in question often attributing to him ror her powers beyond that of ordinary people.
Social commentarors prescribe the need for heroes in times of social upheavel or national self-doubt,seeing a requirement for virtuous role models.,especially for the young.Such myth-making may have worked better in the past,current trends may confuse heros and their hero watching with the cult of celebrity.
Thank.you,thats all from Wiki.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 10:58 pm:
I've been of the opinion that a hero is indeed someone with flaws...what makes him/her special is that they overcome these inherent flaws and rise to the occasion, so to speak.

What worries me is that we go through times when heroic attributes are scoffed at...and people don't have anyone to look up to when things are tough. Then, the pendulum swings too far in the other direction...I love baseball, for instance, but Mark McGwire as a hero? I don't think so, sorry.

Thank you for your comment and welcome to the Fortress....

Mysterylady1961 57F

6/14/2006 4:36 pm

"Rather be a live coward than a dead hero.."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:01 pm:
Yes, but in the Code of Chivalry (which I'll be posting a blog about sometime in the near future), one of the things that was stressed was about laying down one's life for country, king, or those who were weak/oppressed.

Too many times at the funerals of police officers, firefighters, or soldiers, I've heard the phrase, "No greater love has he than he who would lay down his life for his fellow man..." I know I've paraphrased that badly, but I hope you get the gist of what I'm saying.

Thank you, once again, for your comments....

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
6/14/2006 5:34 pm

I dunno NG. I've met several (courtesy of US ARMY). Known a couple personally. Always wanted to be one, but what the fuck, wanting to and being one are two different things. My example; my buddy Luke. CWO US ARMY (RET). Flew dust offs in Viet Nam. (Dust-offs are medivacs in Milspeak) Two tours. You fly into hot LZs, pick up wounded GIs and take them back. In an unarmored chopper. Scary shit, let me tell you. Shot down during the last tour, did 18 months as a POW. Yeah, he's a hero to me.

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:06 pm:
Gunner Joe,

I've heard about the Dustoff pilots....from what they say, it was part of the job.....the thought of being a hero never entered their mind.

I remember listening to a Navy SEAL, a CMOH awardee from Nam, who said the thought that ran through his mind as he single handedly fought back the enemy was, "WTF are you doing? Have you lost your f*ckin' mind!?!?!"

Your friend Luke indeed is a hero, not just to you & I, but to the men he helped rescue and their families.....


PurplePeach72 45F  
9199 posts
6/14/2006 6:59 pm

The real hero's are the ones who see something that needs to be done, know it is right to do, and then when all others walk away they do it. Not for the attention, not because they had too or it was their job, simple because it was the right thing to do. For most hero's, they refuse the title, many can't be given the title because they do the right thing and then "slip back into the shadows". This time you got caught in the light, doing the right thing



Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:08 pm:
Thanks Steve....I don't know what to say after that...if I could blush, I'd be doing so right about now....

lightswitch1963 70M/54F

6/14/2006 7:43 pm

Maybe a hero is man (mr. who meets a struggling, single mother (mrs., and shows her a world where a man does not hit, cheat, call her bitch-slut-fat-ugly-or stupid. Where a man treats a woman like a human, and an equal. Who cares enough to work really hard to get her self esteem built up.........and makes her fall farther in love than she ever knew was possible........and SAFE!!!!!!!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:08 pm:

Somebody gets it!!! Now that's a definition of two heros in my book...


rm_kat_in_vinyl 45F

6/14/2006 11:29 pm

a hero is someone who acts on behalf of someone else without thinking of themselves...it's a selfless act that can be something as small as helping the shutin elderly get groceries or rescue a small child from a burning building. a hero is different in everyone's eyes and most people who are considered heroes don't consider themselves to be heroes.
there are many i look up to with great admiration: my mother for her fight against breast cancer, the men and women i served with in the army and the men and women i continue to work with today. but call me a hero because of my job and i'll deny it completely. what i do isn't heroic, it's my job. and i love my job....
i also must say i look up to You Sir for the fact that You always stick up for a friend. that is a very admirable quality and should be appreciated by Aall....

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:11 pm:
Thank you kat....I appreciate that....and regardless of what you say, you're a hero in my book....remember that....

ButteryDelight 60F

6/14/2006 11:53 pm

to me a hero is someone who does what needs to be done. Whether the needing is saving a life, helping a little old lady take her groceries to the car or sticking up for someone weaker then ourselves.
Some people are heroes just cause they make it through the day each and every one that comes after with out giving up and quitting. I'm talking about a little 8 year old girl named Mandy. I wrote about her on my blog. Even with all the struggles she faces every day, she still smiles, is cheerful and has such a joy for living. She willingly gives up her place at the head of the line, waits till last to eat and will give her food to someone whom has none. She's a great little girl and I am a better person for having known her.

You Night guy, stand up for the weak and you give of yourself over and over again. So..yup, you're a hero.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:18 pm:

Mandy is, indeed, an example of a true hero...

I am far from that example, but thank you anyway....

rm_daveman45nz 57M
42 posts
6/15/2006 2:56 am

I think you are a hero NG. It is really quite obvious to me. I see how you struggle with your own demons, yet help others with theirs. For my definition of a hero I suggest you take a damn good look in a mirror.

I remember when two ladies on a street corner called me a hero once, it felt funny to me too. Thanks for the memory.



Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:19 pm:

Thanks...there are times when I get the feeling that I have to pay a penance for something I did either in this life or a past life, so that's why I stand up for the little guy, you know?

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
6/15/2006 2:57 am

All those that you listed above...

Who do I think of as a hero?
Anyone who refuses to give up, who keeps getting back up no matter how hard they've been kicked and keeps fighting for something they believe in.
Someone who stays true to their dreams and makes them a reality even in the face of struggle and resistance.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:20 pm:
Those are good examples....thank you

TheLilFondler 34F
2576 posts
6/15/2006 3:18 am

well You might not see Yourself as a hero but most of us do... it is a matter of how people see Your deeds that decides whether or not Your a hero... is it how we perceive You not how You perceive You... if that makes sence LOL

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:21 pm:
Thank you, LilFondler....and you made perfect sense, I just don't see myself as a hero, that's all.....

VTLakesideVixen 61F
458 posts
6/15/2006 7:09 am

Here is a dusky, sweet smelling lavander rose for you! You ARE a hero, we all know it. The trouble is that there are not of you hero types to go around--but in the meantime we will gladly share you.

You are a hero especially for those of us who have no ready access to someone who will defend up when we need it--believe me--there are enough bad guys out there who make the hero necessary. Keep up the
good work, slide out of the shadows when you must and leave them wondering who kicked their ass!

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:23 pm:

Thank you...I appreciate that...and I love lavender roses!

concupiscentKid 41M

6/15/2006 12:57 pm

The people on United 93. Pretty amazing even though they had
nothing to lose. That would be pretty hard to do.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/15/2006 11:24 pm:
Excellent example...those people took control of the situation as best as they could...and saved countless lives in the process. God only knows how many would have been lost if they hadn't acted as they did...

Thank you and welcome to the Fortress....

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
6/16/2006 5:25 am

You're right, to them it was just part of the job. I flew as medic on dust offs for 6 months over there. The thing is, they could turn down a flight if the LZ was too hot, weather too poor. 99% of the time or better, they went in anyway. Lost a lot of good men like that. Poor weather, hot LZ's, didn't matter, they flew in, to save lives. Their decision. We just mounted up when they said "we're goin' in." Like I said before, some really scaryy shit.

But you know who the real heros might just be? The everyday guy, slogging aways at a miserable job, no future, no hope, because he has kids to support, a family to raise. Doing the best he can, trying his ass off. He has obligations and he stands up to them. Maybe I'll nominated him next. As always NG, you write engaging posts. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/16/2006 12:35 pm:
Thanks Joe....I appreciate it.

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
6/16/2006 1:43 pm

I prefer this one. "A coward dies a thousand deaths, a hero only once."

And I will offer this one: If you think you are a hero, then you are not. Brave men do not think about what they are doing. They do it because it is the right thing to do, the only thing to do. There may be other options, but not to them. They only see the one path.

I'll be looking forward to your post on the Code of Chivialry, NG. We seem share a few things in common. Perhaps a longing for the old days as well? I know I miss them. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/19/2006 1:44 am:

It depends on what old days you're referring to....the era of the Knights, the days of the Musketeers, or the time when the Earps, Holliday, Masterson, and those walked the dusty streets of the West? *grins*

I agree with your point; sometimes there might be alternatives, but to most people, there is only one path to follow. It sure as hell isn't easy, but walk it they do...


fancy_for_you 41F
3014 posts
6/17/2006 5:21 am

    Quoting lightswitch1963:
    Maybe a hero is man (mr. who meets a struggling, single mother (mrs., and shows her a world where a man does not hit, cheat, call her bitch-slut-fat-ugly-or stupid. Where a man treats a woman like a human, and an equal. Who cares enough to work really hard to get her self esteem built up.........and makes her fall farther in love than she ever knew was possible........and SAFE!!!!!!!
Wow see this type man wouldn't just be a Hero in my books but more like a Saint. I say that because of my past. And I ask can we clone this man or something for those women like me and obviously for the woman in the definition? Or can someone point me towards a good man like this please.



Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/19/2006 1:45 am:

How about a compromise? Find a man that is close to that definition..and the two of you create your own heaven?

How's that? *quiet smile*

RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
6/19/2006 5:04 am

Ahh yes, NG, those were the days. Or perhaps even futher back, to the mists of Avalon and beyond. No matter what day and age, the brave know but one path. It's the fortunate few who will join them. Happy Father's Day. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/20/2006 12:40 am:
Yes, those were the days....

Thanks for the Happy Father's Day....hope you had a good one as well...

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