A spanking good time  

Nightguy_1961 56M
3324 posts
6/8/2006 12:37 am

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A spanking good time

Flogging, caning, cropping, and spanking...whatsupwidat?

I know that a lot of people have different reactions when the words listed about come up...fear, excitement, arousal, titillation, all kinds of emotional responses.

But a lot of people don't know (and are hesitant to ask) what all of it means. So I thought I'd give it a shot at trying to explain. All of the above are commonly referred to as corporal punishment, or striking. The word 'Punishment' may be used wrong most times, for a lot of BDSMer's will give a spanking, for example, as a form of warming up for more interesting activities.

Since I started off with spanking, I'll try to explain the why's, what's, and how's of giving a good old fashioned OTK (Over The Knee) spanking...(although you don't have to have someone over your knee to give a good spanking...)

I would be willing to bet that all of us have gotten a spanking at one time or another growing up. But what is it about grown ups spanking each other that turn most of us on? Well, one thing is the physical reaction of receiving a spanking...the body, if it feels any form of discomfort/pain, will release endorphins into the bloodstream. These hormones act as a counteragent to pain, causing feelings of pleasure and euphoria. Long distance runners talk about 'runner's high'-it's the same thing...the body is producing hormones to ease discomfort.

But what about the person giving the spanking? Well, speaking as a red blooded Dominant Alpha male, the sensations associated with having a lady's rear end over my lap, trembling as she awaits the first swat, are almost overwhelming. I can feel her warmth against my lap, feel her wriggle each time I spank her. I can hear her sighs and yelps each time I swat her. And yes, as she becomes more aroused, I can smell her excitement.

There are many times where spanking play can work...imagine a naughty schoolboy/girl and a stern teacher, a rude child and the strict parent...scenarios like that are the kindling for many a good night's fun...or weekend if you've got the time. But if you're not into role play, don't fret. If your partner is intrigued by the idea of spanking...well, what are you waiting for? Now is as good a time as any!!!!

Get comfortable - If your partner is going to get a cramp holding their body in a certain position while you turn their backside red, then all your fun work will be for nothing. If your partner will be more comfortable lying on a pillow, for instance, get a damn pillow!!! Maybe he/she doesn't want to lie across your lap...have them lie on the bed...or bent over the back of a chair holding the seat...or over the arm of a couch. The possibilities are endless!!!!

You're having fun, not smashing garlic cloves!! - Okay, your partner's across your lap, naked ass up and ready...now what? Well, hopefully, you've talked over what you're going to do and know where each of your limits are, so if things get out of hand, you can stop. Start off slow...you can always build up as you go along. Don't smack the same area over and over...try smacking your forearm in the same spot for a couple of minutes...hurts, doesn't it? Now try hitting different areas on your forearm...a little better, right?

In my experience, the bottom of the ass cheeks (where the top of the thigh and the bottom of the asscheek join) is the perfect target zone for your bare hand. The thighs down to just above the knee are also good targets. The derriere is, of course, the main attraction...just make sure to not only vary where you hit, but the intensity of your smacks. I never go above the top of the ass...could cause too much pain hitting the backbone (no fun there, trust me). Every now & then, just gently caress your partner's rear end. Not only can you feel the heat, but the contrast in sensations will drive your partner crazy.

Aftercare - You've had your fun and you're both lying there spent and exhausted. Remember, your partner has a case of the red ass!!! Somethings that work are over the counter creams/lotions for dry skin/chapped skin. Aloe works good.

As with some BDSM play, there could be bruising from a spanking. TLC is the word here...if your partner trusted your enough to let you spank them, show the consideration and caring to make them feel better.

I know that some like to use hairbrushes, bedroom slippers, and such, but that is something for a different time. Just be sure that if you try spanking your lover...do it safely, sanely, and consensually.

Have fun...take that gluteus to the maximus!!!!!

©NG1 2006

TheLilFondler 34F
2576 posts
6/8/2006 1:32 am

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh spanking *perk* gotta love a good spanking hehehehe

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/8/2006 1:50 am:

I'm glad to see you smiling again.....

Fox4aKnight1 44F

6/8/2006 2:53 am

I got spanked to orgasam once...........*shaking head* Funny thing is no foreplay and no real red ass and not really being smacked.... can tell ya though every time that guy hit my bottom I came really close .....and well .......*sigh*

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 10:57 pm:
Sounds like fun...maybe next time?

rm_cockmerollme 46F
1223 posts
6/8/2006 3:11 am

amen, dear.

Mostly I like the Domestic Discipline.


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 10:58 pm:
Thank you,

DD is something that a lot of people don't understand....too many equate it to abuse, which is not what it is....


libgemOH 57M/53F

6/8/2006 4:09 am

Will be going to work in a state of arrousal after reading this.... should make for an interesting day!! -B

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 10:59 pm:

Glad I could get your day off to a good start....

rm_PeanutJackie 37F
1286 posts
6/8/2006 5:13 am

NG you do such an amazing job with these posts. i am so very thankful to you for explaining so many things about the Lifestyle. i look forward to reading more as you explain flogging, caning, cropping, etc! Home-made toys can also be a great post for people

Have a wonderful weekend with WE and i will catch up with you Monday morning

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 10:59 pm:

I'm working on it, I'm working on it....


MaggiesWishes 61F

6/8/2006 5:14 am

Well, damn!
Makes a straight girl wanna jump up and say, "Spank me daddy!"
*ok, just teasing and being a braty child*

There's a slight degree of excitement when this occurs. Altho, being an abused child, I have some issues with the "trusting" of said "spanker" on my tender cheeks.
Something to ponder, when you explain it, as you do.

warm huggies 2ya, Dark One
You bring such light to the table

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:00 pm:
Bright One,

I strongly urge this be done only with someone you trust, especially if you're pushing a limit....

I hope I didn't scare you.....

wickedeasy 68F  
30897 posts
6/8/2006 5:26 am

Maggie - for those who suffered as children at the hands of an adult they should have been able to trust - i offer my profound sympathy and if you give me his address - a little retribution - grins

i wrote two blogs on pain - one on the science and one on the emotional impact. many i know find that pain (spankings included) when done by someone you TRUST, who knows what they are doing, are cathartic - a release of sorts.

not saying do it - just saying, never say never



btw Night - great post - as ever - You rock!!

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:01 pm:

Thank you for speaking up...I knew that you could shed some light on it....

Thank you, as always, for your comments....

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
6/8/2006 6:44 am

Hmmmm... I'm not sure I like the idea of my ass being made red or bruised by a spanking. I like swats to my ass during sex, but have never been spanked. My friend and I have talked about this though and I can sort of see how it can be erotic - we will probably try it. My friend also mentioned using a wood brush and that scared the effing hell out of me! I almost went running the other direction and never looked back, but decided to talk about it instead. I'll be curious to read your post when you write about that - if you do. Thanks for this post!


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:03 pm:

You don't have to get your rear turned red or bruised...far from it. You can take it as far as you want it to go. That's the beauty of WIITWD, remember that...

Thank you....

rm_shannee2006 53F
3355 posts
6/8/2006 6:53 am

I add my sympathy as well Maggie.

NG, great post...you make me want to go find my fella for a little bottom warming right now. *sighs with pleasure at the thought...*

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:03 pm:

Then, by all means, have at it and have fun!!!!


rm_Wandrlust 62M
2 posts
6/8/2006 7:38 am

Just as shannee2006 said NG,a great post,and I also found that with the talking about it first,does tend to allow even a 'nilla' partner to enjoy having her bottom spanked etc,After limits etc are agreed on,when she trusts You,relaxes and enjoyes the sensations,Do keep them comming Sir,

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:04 pm:

Well said, and thank you....I appreciate it....welcome to the Fortress...

HBowt2 60F

6/8/2006 3:53 pm

have to say it's a bit tempting...

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:05 pm:
Isn't it though?


lightswitch1963 69M/54F

6/8/2006 5:06 pm

I do like the occasional light swat on the ass. But, I don't put anyone down for their lifestyles. I have added you to my favorites list. I'd also like your permission to use your handle in a blog. We like you so much.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/9/2006 5:57 am:
By all means, go right ahead. Thank you and welcome to the Fortress.

TheLilFondler 34F
2576 posts
6/8/2006 5:35 pm

yes the thought of a good spanking did make a smile play across my face i must admit!

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:06 pm:
Then I'm glad I could bring a smile to your face....I hope I can do that more often....

rm_roco01dog 44M/F
1 post
6/8/2006 9:46 pm

hey there me and the wife think your dam sexy we would love to get together with you.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:06 pm:
Why thank you, I'm flattered....if I knew how to blush, I'd be blushing right about now...

ButteryDelight 59F

6/9/2006 12:32 am

I too was an abused child. And I find it interesting to see the contrast. What you described NG was not done in anger. This has been very informative. I thank you for posting articles like this one.

Buttery Delight

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:07 pm:
It is never done in anger...if I feel any anger, I will not play at all.....too easy to lose control, and that's dangerous...

Thank you for your comments....

twirly_girl 48F

6/9/2006 9:29 pm

great information!
Need to link to this post if you don't mind.


Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:08 pm:
Thank you....please do....sorry I was so slow in responding....busy week and weekend....

ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
6/10/2006 8:33 am

In my experience, the bottom of the ass cheeks (where the top of the thigh and the bottom of the ass cheek join) is the perfect target zone for your bare hand.

This is all very familiar. I call this my Submissives sweet spot.

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:09 pm:
It sure is.....*grins*

FeistySyn 53F

6/10/2006 4:12 pm

I posted a reply here before, but it seems to have dissapeared ...

I have "bookmarked" this post... thanks so much for writing it... anyone I date will now need to take this little lesson in "spanking 101" .... so many do it wrong *blushing* .. and floggers... oh my... still looking forward to finding someone who knows exactly how to handle one so I can try it out...

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:10 pm:
Good luck in your search, I hope you find that person that can do as you wish....


lacenleather2 106F
159 posts
6/10/2006 7:24 pm

Hmmm.Great post as they all are and I second or third most of the comments .If Safe, Consenual, Sane ..woohoo...paddle me baby ...lol.

Offers condolences on Sir Smudge , and smiles for Yyou all over the w/e of WE's visit

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:11 pm:

Thank you....and just who would you like wielding that paddle? *grins*

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
6/10/2006 8:52 pm

Yeah! You tell 'em!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/13/2006 11:12 pm:
I have to ask, Goddess....are you a spanker or spankee?

Just curious, mind you....*grins*

Thank you.....

MaggiesWishes 61F

6/13/2006 11:16 pm

I enjoy the "resource and aspects" of ... I can also "appreciate & respect" of ...
but I think I would have to do therapy to actually get that far.
What I find in my mind, and relatedly so write out on paper ... is totally different from myself. And when I figure that out ... ok, so that's what I need the therapist for.

Dark One, I fear you not, for your have not threaten me nor raised your hand to fix my wrong. It is your manner that provides a safe place for my mind.
Thank you for your friendship
warm huggies to the Lady

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/14/2006 12:00 am:
Bright One,

I think I understand...and I appreciate your openess and honesty.

There is nothing wrong with curiousity from a distance, just promise me that if & when you ever decide to take a walk on the dark path, you will find someone that you trust, okay?


hipeeps1964 54F

6/17/2006 3:22 am

mmmmmmmmmm Spanking is a complete turn on, but you have to be in the mood for it. Nightguy you write so well

Nightguy_1961 replies on 6/19/2006 1:40 am:

You are exactly right; both have to be in the right mood for play like this...

Thank you for your comments and welcome to the Fortress....

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