How much should be expected?  

NiceLady1957 62F
225 posts
8/27/2006 1:19 pm

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How much should be expected?

This is for all of you married men out there.

If you were not getting enough sex in your marriage...say once a month or less...and you had decided to seek that physical aspect of life elsewhere....mind you, not wishing to leave the wife and kids...

How often would you expect to be having sex with your mistress...if all you had was the one woman outside of your marriage?...Once a month, twice a month, thrice a month, or at least once a week? Or is there another answer.

Keep in mind that you have probably asked the mistress to not be sleeping with anyone else. So if she likes and needs sex, how often is fair to her?

elmexicano_2k 47M

8/27/2006 1:42 pm

For me, whatever the schedule allows. I'm a busy person so for me to get away, I generally have to plan. Sometimes it can be 2 days a week, others it's once a month. It varies. However, when I do get together, I am not looking for a quickie. I usually try to go for at least of couple of hours.

As for her, I don't expect any woman to be soley with me unless that's the way she wants it. I have no problems with either sole partner or not.

Butch: I'm American, honey. Our names don't mean shit.

NiceLady1957 replies on 8/27/2006 2:09 pm:
But, if she were your only 'other' partner, what would be fair to her in your frequency of sex with her?
I have to hand it to you, that you would not just do a quickie, but spend some quality time with her.

expatbrit49 64M

8/27/2006 2:37 pm

Similar to above, my lover and I get together whenever we can its usually once a month sometime less sometimes more and we are together for a a couple of days. She is free to have sex with whoever she wants as am I... we have no restriction on each other.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:39 pm:
Then you are a very fair lover.

elmexicano_2k 47M

8/27/2006 2:58 pm

NL: What would be fair for her? That's hard to answer. That's something to be worked out. I wish there was a definite answer.

Butch: I'm American, honey. Our names don't mean shit.

NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:39 pm:
true..between the 2 of you...but what if she told you that you were not with her enough?


9/13/2006 2:13 pm

Wow....If I'm going to have sex outside my marriage, and I based this decision on the fact that I'm not getting enough sex, or the type of sex I want at home, and have tried and tried, but to no avail, then when I do decide to seek it elsewhere, I am going to try and have sex with my mistress at least a couple times a week. Unfortunately it would also depend on the circumstances, like distance and time....Le's say I live 37.5 miles away (LO if she would come to my place, for every time I went to hers, it would probably be more often....since after all, stealing away, and not just for a quickie, but for a love making session, would not be easily done 3 or 4 times a week under "normal" circumstances. I would need to maintain respect for the "wife" and that means not being obvious in my prowess. This is my quick response, might be a little different if more thought was put into it, and I could type as fast as I could think.....

NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:42 pm:
And, it sounds like you would be one who would take both ladies feelings and needs into consideration. But, other than a and/or respect of those 2 gals would be all you would have time for in your life.

elmexicano_2k 47M

9/24/2006 1:33 am

Then we'd either have to end it or create a compromise.

Butch: I'm American, honey. Our names don't mean shit.

Bananacurve69 48M

10/1/2007 9:26 pm

Hello, that depends on schedules, of course, as often as possible but while remembering to be careful not to get caught or has suspicions arise.

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