How many is too many?  

NiceLady1957 62F
225 posts
8/27/2006 1:22 pm

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How many is too many?


In this wonderful world of men finding women with whom to have sex, women finding men, and other sexual orientations finding what they seek, what do you folks think might be excessive engaging in sex?

Is it okay to have sex with each and every person you meet for the first time? Would you think you would be truly attracted to those individuals or do you think you might be suffering from a bit of sexual addiction?

LadyGrayLeopard 57F
26385 posts
8/27/2006 1:55 pm

I try to meet people I have already a good connection.
Sometimes it's not leading anywhere...

But sometimes I have sex on the first meeting yes.

For me that is ok as I am looking for regular sex with someone I feel ok, who interests me.

But seems some guys think something is wrong if I do like that...
I think I never get used to this kind of moralism!!!


NiceLady1957 replies on 8/27/2006 2:06 pm:
Are you saying there is a double standard? That it is okay if the guys do it, but not for the girls to do it?

LadyGrayLeopard 57F
26385 posts
8/27/2006 2:11 pm

Yes, that's what I mean.

Guys want it themselves, but have then doubts afterwards concerning the woman.

Very happy I have met some nice guys too who take things as they are!!!


NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:32 pm:
Yes, they need to look at from their eyes as a man having multiple lovers which to them is okay...but maybe they are already...but think that still makes a woman a slut perhaps...then that is a obule standard....in other words...the cat can play as much as he wants...but those mice need to only be playing with that one cat!

rm_john_m283 51M
8 posts
9/2/2006 4:20 am

NiceLady,

Have to take things as they come. Of course you would like to think you hit it off with someone, and things go down a certain path but if they don't, then they don't.

John


NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:36 pm:
Yes, and I feel I present myself well and truthfully on the site, but I have met some men who do not...and love making between the 2 of us even though we hit it off was not what was promised or anticipated. And, that is too bad. That means it ends up being a one night stand.

icebraker269u2 57M

9/6/2006 2:32 pm

THERE IS DEFIANTLY A DOUBLE STANDARD. BUT IT'S NOT JUST THE GUYS THAT THINK THAT WAY.MORE WOMEN WOULD REFER TO A WOMAN THAT WOULD TEND TO SLEEP AROUND(SO TO SPEEK) AS A SLUT, OR WHORE. THAT'S NOT THE WAY I LOOK AT IT.IF ALL YOU WANT IS SEX THEN HAVE ALL THE SEX YOU WANT!! AND I'LL STAND IN LINE! IF YOU WANT SOMETHING MORE PERMANENT THEN BE A LITTLE MORE SELECTIVE. AND I'LL STAND IN LINE. BUT YOU DON'T KNOW IF THINGS WILL WORK OUT RIGHT AWAY. YOU MITE HAVE BEEN WITH THEM FOR SOME TIME BEFORE YOU REALIZE THEY ARE NOT THE ONE.


NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 6:37 pm:
True and it is good to be honest if you and the other are just not going to geo or the sex was just not what you hoped.

rm_SLYherIN4me 60M

9/24/2006 5:30 pm

Too many? Great question. Do we ever go into a realtionship, or should I say encounter, strictly for the sex? No, unless we have the funds to seek out only those porfessionals who render services (for sex). I think most guys, and most woman, want to have ther socks knocked off. And if they do, then a continuation of the relationship takes place, until that changes. And they usually deal with all the "other things" with less scrunity. However most of us have let the "other things" control our relationships in the past, and then we suffer in the sexual arena and our hearts get hardened, and most end in a speration or divorce. Then we go about things in the opposite way, and seek out sex first. As much as we can get, for most have been lacking in that department. And we are pickier. So we tend to look at realtionships with only the sex in mind, and not the future, kids, career, etc. We live for the moment, and lacking for a better term, using those we meet (however many there are)in the mean time, until something better comes along. In search of another monogamous relationship for which we do not want to end in failure. For most of us, this is our second chance, and meeting someone that we can spend what"s left of our lives together, happy and content. So how many is too many? We never know. Until that special person stops us counting.


NiceLady1957 62F

9/25/2006 5:16 pm

That is why I want a connection with those men with whom I play sexually...not just that sexual spark, but a common ground spark. I do know this...I definitely want a good sexual partner if I ever marry again or simply decide to go committed monogamy...and yet he needs to be someone I can talk to about absolutely anything...my confidant, my best friend.
There are those men with whom I have met, that I can be good friends with and have a lot in common...but there is no sexual spark...and vice versa...and neither is a good enough combination. And, for those I think might contain that good combination, I still find some that after one time or a few times...that together we don't have what it takes.


rm_luv4u36 72M
9 posts
2/26/2007 11:52 am

I don't think there is such a thing as too much sex. But i do think there should be a mutual connection between two people to make the sexual experience enjoyable.


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