First Meetings...NiceLady1957  

NiceLady1957 62F
225 posts
7/30/2006 7:45 am

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First Meetings...NiceLady1957

I am very cautious when it comes to meeting men. I get an inordinate amount of mail and take my time arranging that first meeting. I never go to meet a gentleman for the first time planning on having an encounter with him right after the meeting. I have been known on the rare occassion to have done so, but that has been with a man with whom I have corresponded for a year or more by mail and phone and once we met, we knew we would like to play.

My question then is do you gents count on having an encounter the first time you meet a woman? If so, when that does not occur, are you willing to set another time in which the playful encounter can transpire?

How about you gals? Do you wish to play on the first meeting?


rm_DrBuzz2 48M
112 posts
7/30/2006 10:05 am

HI Nice!

For me it is all down to the chemistry. If it happens on the first date, then great! However, if the chemistry is there but it is not appropriate to 'hit it' on the first date then it is worth waiting for.


rm_lakenut4fun 68M

7/30/2006 2:18 pm

Great question Nice. I have met 3 ladies from AdultFriendFinder and only one was a one time encounter. We had a great time but her schedule was a real problem to work around. One of the other two was a real treat. We met at a nice hotel and I had my laptop on when she arrived and after we enjoyed some great conversation, she asked if she could sign on to AdultFriendFinder. I said sure and she went to her favorite chat room and started a low level cyber with a guy. This turned me upside down and crazy. Needless to say we enjoyed great sex and continue to do so. Also she really get turned on with phone sex and we have even had phone while we were driving to meet each other.

So just go with the moment and don't force things. If the guy wants to get you in bed without showing any interest in what is above your waste, ease him for a few minutes and then bolt. Wink at him and tell him to have fun "all by himself" Hope to hear from you so I will send an email so you can reply. Wink


boeing757222 60M

7/30/2006 8:44 pm

You know there is no one answer to this question. We all come from different backgrounds, visions, desires and ideas. For some an encounter is about as emotional as going to the gym to work-up a sweat. For others it is a method of communicating and then there are those into conquest.

For me it is the expectation gained through contact and sharing of ideas, interests and the total person. "Compartmentalized" sex may work for some but not for me. I cannot take a woman down off the shelf, wind her up and watch her perform. There is not satisfaction for me in that, no mental stimulation or connection. So if during the run-up to a first meeting various aspects "click" into place than I would not fight a woman's advances. If on the otherhand it is just a pleasant evening of stories and making the connections stronger then there is something in that as well.

The effort I put into a friendship is reflected in what I get get out of it-emotionally, physically and enjoyment-wise.


HeatedCondition 62M
890 posts
7/30/2006 10:59 pm

I wouldn't go to a first meeting expecting immediate sex or anything but a cordial meeting. Of course, if there are sparks, I go with the flow.

I'd note though that I would not want to invest an entire year emailing and phoning someone, building up all the fantasy, all that hope, only to be let down when upon meeting I could see it wasn't going to work. I'd prefer to meet relatively soon, just as soon as the lady is comfortable, and find out if more is possible, then go from there. I want to know, I do not want to expend time on a hopeless cause.


rm_roadrunr2006 54M/61F
10 posts
8/1/2006 7:34 pm

A first date is often filled with a mixture of emotions nerviousness excitement, awkwardness etc. This is when you are trying to get to know someone new and make a good first impression at the same time. Nobody should go in to a first date expecting sex on the first date. However some people just hit it off the first time and feel like it was meant to be, thats chemestry and in that case I don't find anything wrong with sex on the first date as long as its consentual on both sides. And with me if I liked the women there would be a second date if she liked me reguardless if we had sex or not on the first date. A good thing is worth waiting for. And we all know how good making love can be!


EhMas1 65M

8/9/2006 2:31 pm

hi nice lady: the first meeting is one that comes only after time of talking in most cases. I have talked with a number of ladies in AdultFriendFinder and other places, found most want to see someone face to face in person before going the next step of sharing what I call pleasure with each other. Althought it does happen sometimes during that first meeting, in those cases the two have been talking or called or even had phone together before meeting. when you have been talking to a women for sometime, you should be getting to know each other and learning what they enjoy, so when the time is right you let things go as they will..
I hope you and I can talk and see whatelse might come from it.

EhMas1


elyecho 68M
4 posts
8/10/2006 5:40 am

I feel that the first meeting is just that. Meet the other party and let both of you look the other over. If both parties agree that more is wanted then by all means it should but that is up to those involved.


rm_john_m283 51M
8 posts
9/2/2006 4:28 am

NiceLady,

Great question and probably a lame answer but "it depends." Sometimes there is a chemistry other times there is not. Hopefully before meeting the parties have talked to understand what each is / is not looking for.


IntoZoso 50M  
551 posts
9/3/2006 3:40 pm

I have yet to meet anyone from this site. I am selective in who I contact and so far I have a 100% response rate from women inviting me to join their webcam website ~sigh~
But when I do meet or go out with a woman for the first time the only expectation I have is to have fun hanging out with that person.
I really don't even think about sex as I am preoccupied with learning if this person is someone I would like to be friends with.


icebraker269u2 57M

9/6/2006 3:04 pm

WHAT YOU DO ON YOUR FIRST MEET DEPENDS ON WHAT THE TWO OF YOU HAVE DISCUSSED BEFORE HAND.IF YOU SET UP A MEET AND DON'T FOLLOW THROUGH THE OTHER PERSON WILL BE HURT OR VERY MAD.AS FAR AS SEX ON THE FIRST DATE IT'S A MUTUAL THING. THE MAN WILL ALMOST ALWAYS WANT TO GET INTO SOMETHING ON THE MEET. A DEEP KISS WITH LOTS OF TONGUE. HANDS GROPING IN HER SWEATER FOR HER FIRM BREASTS. AND SO ON. 1st,2nd,3rd BASE SO TO SPEAK.I ON THE OTHER HAND, IF YOU MAKE A DATE UNLESS YOU ARE DIEING YOU ALWAYS MAKE THE DATE!!!I WILL ONLY GO AS FAR AS "SHE" SUGGESTS.


rm_SLYherIN4me 60M

9/23/2006 3:59 pm

About all of the guys above have hit on how I feel about first meetings. I would never expect sex on the first meet, but would not stop it, unless the woman turned me off. First meetings should take place to rid ourselves of nervousness, and the uneasy feeling of being with someone new and different, aready knowing many of their likes and dislikes about sex. Too much emphasis is based on the visual. What if we were blindfolded, and had to rely on our other senses to communicate with our date. They would be much sharper and more focused on the real man/woman sitting across the table/room from us. This would also apply the first time sex became a part of the relationship. Of course later it could play a vital role in foreplay. Is not learning about the other person a form of foreplay. Do we get turned on by someone else's conversation, animations, sex appeal. The two will know when the time is right. Most likely, their long term goals will have already decided thier fate about sex on the first meeting. If they are truely seeking a long term commitment, then most likely sex will wait. If they are into conquering as many oragasms as possible, then sex most likely will oocur. So, do you want many orgasms, or have those explosive ones that keep getting better and better with each return visit?


NiceLady1957 replies on 9/23/2006 7:03 pm:
True...if I were blind...I would not know about his appearance. But, then if we tried to have sex the first time we met...or anytime we met...I would have to have a 3rd party present whom I could trust to lok him over and look him over again when he got naked...so we could make sure no suspicious looking sores.

rm_SLYherIN4me 60M

9/24/2006 8:22 am

Thanks for your comment. I was only generalizing that putting aside appearances, and any other factors, such as dieseases, etc, that two people can get to know each other without any preconceived images or fears getting in thier way. I guess this would have been a hypothetical situation, because I was not referring to having a real "blind date". Even if two people have never met (from this site), then they will have communicated with each other prior to that happening. It's not like your sister drug you along with her boyfirend to double date with some friend of his that you know absolutely nothing about. Also, this is not a situation where you phone or e-mail for the service of a "professional" where the only image that is important is the one on the greenbacks. I guess what I am really trying to say is to not let our minds hinder something that could be good, by raising so many barriers, that they can never be torn down, and for the true emotions, such as love, conquer that which our soul lusts to have.


NiceLady1957 replies on 9/24/2006 9:37 am:
True...we need to allow others to show their talents in the sexual realm. We just never know when we might have one of the greatest encounters of our life.

Bananacurve69 48M

10/1/2007 9:30 pm

RARELY ever on the first "date", like you said, only under rare occasions when I have found the "sparks" to fly, play safe or not at all is my motto, mutual respect and discretion is a must!


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