I find it hard sometimes to understand the male creature  

NYJetsFemaleFan 35F
10 posts
6/16/2005 6:16 pm

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I find it hard sometimes to understand the male creature

Why do men get so jealous if someone they are "talking" to finds herself interested in another hunk?
I mean..if it's just "sex" what's the big deal?
or why do guys get mad if their friends find their booty call interesting? Is there a rule that your boys can't date someone you have slept with in the past? I mean I would understand if I were talkin about a relationship, but someone you just happen to be really attracted to and have amazing wild sex?
I always have that talk at the beginning.."it's just sex, no chance of a relationship, cause it's not what I want any time soon" but as time progresses it's like they forget our talk.."you have a date?"
I was seeing this guy Justin, (3months) and we totally agreed it was just sex, it was great, this guy is so hot (6'1, blond hair, blue eyes..very muscular) and well hung so it was awesome...for some reason we lost touch, and he started dating this other girl. He's brother works at the Insurance firm i work for, so we're really good pals and it's obvious there's chemistry there..I mean the genes in this family are just PERFECT! lol, well anyway He was with his NEW gf about a week ago at the same restaurant Keith (5'9, black hair, hazel eyes, muscular, tan) and I were having dinner, (We had no idea they were there) We were making out and all of the sudden we see Justin standing infront of our table, and starts completely freaking out at us, yelling a Keith whatta hell he was doing with me!...(yeah in a restaurant full of people..INFRONT OF HIS GF) goes ballistic on me asking me out loud "Did you fuck him?" I was so embarrassed, I think my face was as red as a tomato..and I'M TAN!..So I decided to say the usual crap" It's none of your business"...instead of just sayint the truth "No" and walked out while Keith paid for our drinks. We decided to leave, and go to his place, by that time we got there..we weren't in the mood for anything..we didn't know what caused him to act like that...It's been a week now and Keith and I still talk, we haven't done anything sexual or anything but we sooo want to! Justin has been calling me since then...at least once a day, and today he was waiting for me outside my place, saying something about ..how come I was interested in his brother but not him? Did I mentioned about my talk at the beginning? "no future"?..and also that he has a gf?..Hmm I wonder if she dumped him after the whole fiasco?..
Oh well, I guess while I try to make my life less complicated I achieve the opposite.
...the good thing is; that I'm young, and there's plenty of men out there

trndude 50M

6/16/2005 7:05 pm

He sounds to insecure about himself to be a "Real Man" to me, but thats just my opinion

icookforu 49M

6/16/2005 7:27 pm

Ok - let me explain what is going on here. 90% of all brothers are competitive by nature with each other, especially with women. Justin just thinks (is scared) that he was not as good or good enough as his brother to be with you. I don't just mean sex. However, that was his first question according to your story. And it's obvious that you was better than his new girlfriend otherwise he would not have cared in the first place. Hope that makes sense to you - if you look at it this way.

funkyfingerjr 38M
3 posts
6/16/2005 7:27 pm

Guys are definitely hard to figure out, I mean I don't even understand the things that I do. I recently had a girl from work start drunk dialing me, at wee hours, often being very specific in her desires. I wasn't getting laid at the time and should have just gone for it, but I didn't think I was attracted to her, so I unconsciously played hard to get. Then we're out one night with a buch of friends and some guy who shes told me all about (I mean details about how much she hated him and how much he hurt her) this guy asks her to dance... she says yes... and all of a sudden I'm the most jealous guy in the world, I make a fool of myself and barely make it home. Then I can't get the girl out of my head for months and she won't even talk to me. Go figure

rm_seekingfun43 57M

6/16/2005 8:17 pm

You have to realize you are not a "NORMAL" person as far as social norms are concerned. What you are complaining about is what a lot of men on this site would say about the women the have intimate relationships with. Whether you like it or not, the idea of truly relationship free intimacy probably doesn't exist in most males or females.

rm_hot_fucker 47M

6/16/2005 8:32 pm

Can I fuck u?

rm_babe_4u_2eat 35F

6/16/2005 9:40 pm

with all of the experiences i've had with guys it's been the same... just sex... but there is this one guy.. everytime i turn around and talking, just talking, to another guy he's askin my friend if i'm fuckin them... yes, i like him a lot,... i think his feelings are the same.... it's crazy though... most guys think it's ok for them to go out with another girl, leave you in the dark about it, then when it's convient(sp?) for them act a fool if you are talking to another guy.... they act like you are their property but they are everyone's property... and it's good to still talk to Keith... he sounds like a more down to earth guy then Justin.... keep doing what you are doing... nothing wrong with that.... but if i was in the resturant situation i would have stood up and said " does it matter? you have a girlfriend".... boys/guys/men get on my nerves sometimes..lol...

HughJarse2000 48M

6/17/2005 5:18 am

I think it works both ways though folks.

I just found out that I'm in a six week "relationship" from the girlfriend of the babe I've shagged a few times. I thought I was very clear in the beginning. We go out , we club, we get hot , we have sex all weekend - twice. This is not a relationship !

So i spoke to her about it. Said I was dating and having fun and not going serious in the near future. She said she understood , bit like first time she said she understood.

So I ask her girlfriend for a shag for next weekend. The friend half agrees and half laughs it off.

Then I get yelled at down the phone again from the crazy babe !!! 20 mins later. Possesive or what !?

Some people just like their own way of looking at things , and you just don't seem to be able to convince them otherwise.


BigBhotdog7 41M

6/19/2005 1:41 pm

Men are problems in wonmen's lives; for example, menstrate and menopause. There's your chemistry that you Mentioned. Cute huh!

DrGonzo17 37M
34 posts
7/21/2005 7:53 am

you know what it was, justin just felt like he didn't matter anymore to you, so he freaked. Can't be helped some people just can't handle it. But I'm free for 'sex only' if you want to hook up my emale is on my short description when you click on my link even though I'm standard you can still see it.

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