Clarification Part II  

NGs_lady 65F
419 posts
6/5/2006 4:55 am

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6/11/2006 10:32 am

Clarification Part II

Let's talk about appearance. A D/s couple should compliment each other. How does your Dominant want you to look inside and out? How are you to be dressed when you go out in public? How are you to be dressed when in private? What should you have on underneath your clothes? Let your Dominant know what you are comfortable with, understand what He/She wants and when it is expected. High heels or flats...when and where? Don’t be afraid to ask what you are supposed to wear. Dominants, don't be afraid to answer and understand when your submissive wants to discuss this. Having a D/s relationship is give & take from both parties. If you see that your Dominant has on something that does not look right, tell them. Help each other, maybe lay our your Dominant’s clothes for Him/Her. This is part of training; soon, you will know what He/She likes and expects from you.

Then, if your relationship is sexual, what about toys? Yes, sex toys!! Make a list of what you are comfortable with (yes, what kind of toys). What is your comfort level? What size? How long? What does your Dominant want to use? Discuss what each will be willing to try. You might get a wonderful surprise; try it, you both might like it!!! And, at the same time, you might learn things about each other that neither of you knew you both enjoyed.

I guess we should talk about pain. Do you like a little or a lot? What 'floats your boat'? Is it a slap on the ass, a flogging, a cropping, or it is much more? What is your pain level? Right now, my pain level is low, but we are working on it. Do you like physical or mental pain or a little of both? It can be fun either way.

A Lifestyle relationship is like a painting; you start with a blank canvas and go from there. But, unlike a painting, a relationship is never, ever finished. You must both work at it.

A Dominant must always follow through with everything, just as a submissive must do the same. All I can say is communicate: TALK, TALK, TALK, and you can get through most anything.

TOGETHER: This is the key word; always together.

©NGs_lady/Lady Stee

libgemOH 57M/53F

6/5/2006 5:44 am

Dear, I love reading what you and NG write. The thing that gets me the most in a relationship such as yours is the level of trust you attain through it all and I think this is what I crave more than anything else! I have finally found a Man I can truly trust and I WANT MORE!!! Thank you BOTH for helping us seekers understand!! -B

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:07 pm:
I'm glad you've found someone you can trust, but remember to get more, sometimes you need to give more.

rm_PeanutJackie 37F
1286 posts
6/5/2006 6:11 am

i agree with lib, thank you both a wonderful post Lady Stee, very well said. There is so much to this Lifestyle that people don't understand. i love learning something new about it every day.

"I am beautiful no matter what you say, words can't bring me down. So don't you bring me down today."

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:09 pm:
Thank you. Glad to be of some help with the learning process.

btw...check your IM LOL

wickedeasy 68F  
31113 posts
6/5/2006 6:30 am

oh Lady - you've done it again - said in 100 words what most would take 1000 to explain

your clarity and intuitive awareness of what concerns most folks is a gift - but if i have to send a thank you note everytime you help me out, i'll go broke -

much love to you


You cannot conceive the many without the one.

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:10 pm:
wicked, we have discussed this on the phone. What can I say?

Toys!! Toys!! Toys!!

BadAssBlonde1 58F
4989 posts
6/5/2006 7:29 am

Yes, Yes, Yes. Hopefully, after all that they can walk walk walk ... Good Post, Sister. Talk to you both this evenin'

For all Time,
Lady Hunter {=}

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:12 pm:
Thank you for the vote of confidence. Sorry we missed your call the other night. *Hugs*

peaches19555 62M

6/5/2006 3:19 pm

I am beginning to understand the framework of this lifestyle and its behaviors but can not seem to get a handle on the motivations. Is your behavior following your feelings are is your behavior creating your feelings?

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:14 pm:
If I didn't have the feelings, I wouldn't have the behavior. If you knew me, you would understand. It is easier for me with everyone else to be Dominant. With my husband, I am submissive as I have stated.

rm_shannee2006 53F
3355 posts
6/5/2006 4:24 pm

Peaches, I don't know about others here, but I feel it is both. One feeds the other and flows into the other. And Lady, thank you for this post. I am enjoying reading your blog.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:15 pm:
Thank you and welcome

ButteryDelight 59F

6/5/2006 4:55 pm

Very interesting post, NGs_lady. I am beginning to understand. But, I still seem to have a million questions running around in my head.

Buttery Delight

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:16 pm:
We all have questions and the only way we get answers is to ask. So please, ask away.

ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
6/6/2006 6:58 am

I agree 100% lady.

NGs_lady replies on 6/6/2006 10:17 pm:
Thank you.

rufflebutt2202 66F

6/8/2006 11:37 pm

I want to thank both you and NG for your posts. They have helped me unerstand more of myself and my reactions as I delve into this lifestyle.What's more I'm sure my Sir will appreciate it as well as the more I understand and can talk to him openly aboout it the better I can serve Him. Thanks again to you both.

NGs_lady replies on 6/11/2006 10:10 am:
You are very welcome and welcome to my blog feel free to comment any time.

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