How Do You Fuck 'em & Leave 'em Without Guilt?  

MissAyla 60F
16 posts
2/11/2005 11:07 pm

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How Do You Fuck 'em & Leave 'em Without Guilt?

I was raised "Old School", sex within a realtionship. How does a woman break the myth to get out and have FUN without emotional guilt? I'd like some advice on how to have a "fuck 'em & leave 'em" night!

youngfuck040 31M

2/12/2005 12:11 am

well actually i think you are a really rare person most people here would absolutely go for fuck em and leave'em finding a minority would be people who aren't looking for a one night stand.As to trying to get over the guilt maybe you should start small and try meeting someone for coffee and just leaving lol haha not sure

angelfire1958 60F

2/12/2005 5:16 am

trust me hon, after they do that do you a few times, it'll come easy....

rm_tryclone 37M
1 post
2/12/2005 6:00 am

I recommend that you just be upfront with any guy (or gal?) that you meet from the get-go. Any guy that you meet, tell them plainly "I'm not looking for anything serious right now, but we can still get to know each other and have fun. I'm just not in a place right now to get emotionally tied to anybody... etc. etc.". I think that most guys would like to come across a lady like that. I feel personally that if a female will let me 'hit it' but don't want a relationship... that's ALL good!

kinkylilhottie 49F

2/12/2005 6:52 am

For me.. once you do it once.. its not so hard. This site helps with all that too. Most people that I've seen here only want that. And wouldnt you rather be the one doing it.. than letting him? We've let men for too long. Its out turn now

NMluvsBiGirls 57M/45F
6 posts
2/12/2005 7:25 am

Guilt comes with the association of sex and love. Those that can divorce the two, have little guilt. For those who cannot have one without the other, then it goes against ethical upbringing.

Women especially tend to emotionally tie them together whereas men are quick to disassociate them. When men say, "but it didn't mean anything," are really being quite honest. They can have sex with another person without thinking of how it will hurt the woman because he sees them as two different things. She, on the other hand, is devastated because she feels betrayed.

It's very difficult for the woman to understand how a man can disassociate love and sex. But for him, it's a physical response, not an emotional one. He very much loves his woman and does not feel having sex compromises that in the least.

The woman establishes bonds of trust and security into the relationship and becomes emotionally linked to her man. love and sex are almost one in the same. Any look the man has towards another is a sign of infidelity and a breach of that love and committment.

Most open marriages seem to work because the woman has learned to separate the love from sex. She, like the man, has learned that what's physical is physical and what's love is love. Since having sex with others is no longer associated with romance, most guilt is gone.

Most men, prefer their wives to have this romance and sex intertwined. It gives the male the security that she will always need him. When a female no longer is dependent upon the male for sex, his insecurity can be increased. If the woman has an affair, it's often because there are serious problems in the relationship and she is no longer associating romance in that relationship. She may still remain out of various bonds, like children, but she as often tied romance with her new lover and there is little left in her old relationship.

Women see faithfulness in a relationship as a test of loyalty and commitment. When that is broken, it's dog city on him.

Guilt is what you believe a relationship should be and whether you are living up to it.

SxyAthleticGirl 43F

2/12/2005 7:55 am

You must be married or you would not worry about being guilty. Meet someone online and make it very very clear that you just want them for one night or on occasion only. A lot of people are looking for the same thing. Just be very upfront at first.
{=} Sxy

rm_sevensd 39M
20 posts
2/13/2005 7:40 pm

i will have to agree with NMluvsBiGirls. love does not imply sex and sex does not imply love. love should not imply commitment, sex should imply it either. i think the guilt is hinged on the commitment thing, the fact that you are having sex while not committing, or are 'cheating' on your commitment.
how to deal with this? i couldnt tell you. it is probably a very individual thing. especially with gals, since it is traditionally believed that gals associate sex with emotions.

so yeah. my 2c.

CriticalMass301 61M
12 posts
2/14/2005 9:29 am

While NMluvsBiGirls has great insight I think one must go beyond the idea that sex is just a mental "adjustment". The physical differences between male and female sex organs lends themselves to differences in sexual perspective. Male sex organs are external, sex is a pleasureable act occurring outside the body. Female sex organs are internal and sex involves more of a "letting in" or surrender of ones personal spaces. Understanding and accepting these undeniable differences might help in changing overall sexual perspectives.
Comments and opinions ??

rm_Nueva8 51M

2/14/2005 1:16 pm

A rather simple answer would be for you to come over to my place, fuck my eyeballs out coming 3 times in the process, and go home.


2/14/2005 5:29 pm

LOL, to reduce NMluvsbigirls's articulate 8 paragraphs to 2 sentences.........
"men are from mars"
women are from venus"
did I mention 2 cliche'ed sentences?

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